to not babysit niece over Christmas

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Hi mumsnetters, newbie here lol. I have been asked by SIL to take her daughter Christmas day, as my bro and her are going away. I refused as its my daughters first christmas. Andwant to enjoy it with her anf my DH. Her daughter is very clingy and prone to tantrums. I refused in a very polite way, saying that its our first christmas as a family and I want to spend it with my DH and baby. My SIL is now saying that I am abandoning my niece because I havea child of my own now. That is not the case. AIBU to not want to babysit.

Poor girl. Imagine your own parents not wanting to spend Xmas day with you. :(

Chipping what's the problem?

If you are doubting the OP, report it to HQ rather than have the urge to 'get in first' with your suspicions on the actual thread.

I know fuzzpug how awful. Hope they will be kind to her and nit blame her for not being able to go.

God they sound vile.

Why don't you tell them exactly dhst you think of them. And show them
This thread.

Sil and bil of op 'hello you are selfish cunts'.

If you have a three year old and your baby for Christmas, guess who is going to get most of the attention? I'm sure you would like to see your baby's face lit in wonderment at the lights on the tree, or tear at the wrapping paper. The three year old will demand attention, that is the perogative of three year olds. And this child is a clingy, whiny version. As others have said, you will have her overnight, and the next day while her parents sleep in. Where is the fun in that? The memories of baby's first Christmas?

OP, I assume your DN wants to spend Christmas with her parents, so make her dream come true and say "No".

If you say "yes", you'll be making your Neice unhappy. Stick to "No" and you'll give her the Christmas that she wants.

Thought I'd give you all an update. I rang my bro. Told him exactly what I thought of them for wanting to leave their dd christmas day. Told him that I was unavailable to babysit as I will be spending chritmas with my husband and daughter, and I suggested that he spend hid with his wife and daughter. Then I told him there would be no need to phone or text me about this anymore because a no is a no and im not changing my mind. He didnt know what to say. Thank you all for the advice. I feel so relieved that this is settled.

Applauds Bling

Say no, they need to take responsibility for her on Christmas Day. I can understand you wanting to give her a happy Christmas but that doesn't have to be on Christmas Day itself. You could (if you wanted to, with a young baby there is no obligation) invite the three of them over on Boxing Day or something and give her some of the magic of Christmas then. How are they with her when they are actually with her?

Well done!

What castlemilk said. Use your upset and anger to shame them into being proper parents. You will do your niece a much bigger favour to stick to "no", tell them how awful it is to not want to be with your child on Christmas day and force them to see how selfish they are being than you would by caving in.

Chipping, I dont inderstand your problem. Is there a rule to joining mumsnet?????

Good for you. Well done. Now put it out of your mind and concentrate on planning a lovely Christmas.

X-post well done. You did the right thing.

a christmas party, no kids allowed

!!!!!

Well done, bling

Well done OP.

Good on you op. Chipping if you are doubtful of the op, report the thread.

Abra might be a couple with grown chikdren or without!

Well done
I think this needed to be said, and tbh, they don't really have much of an argument back!!

Well done bling. It takes guts to stand up family like your dB & wife.
Its absolutely shocking they would even consider it.

Thanks everyone. Im off to "celebrate" with DH while dd is asleep lol xxx

Eagerly it may well be. But most people assume that people want to be with immediate family on Christmas Day. Even if they don't have children, inviting a couple who have a 3 year old daughter, assuming they
L just get a babysitter for her like any other day, is odd.