To say we're having a completely veggie Christmas meal this year?

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DH is vegetarian, me and two kids aren't but enjoy veggie alternatives too.
Every year, DH cooks the entire Christmas dinner (three courses) and does a vegetarian menu.
Something like
starter - soup
main course - Quorn or nut roast and all the Christmas trimmings (including vegetarian pigs in blankets)
dessert - if we can fit in is mince pies or Christmas pudding.

MIL comes for Christmas dinner. She likes her turkey so brings that. Absolutely fine with that, as we like to eat it too.
Only thing is that she brings over it and starts sticking the turkey in the oven to warm up, which obviously gets in the way of DH cooking and messes up times and stuff.
Are we being unreasonable if we say this year "we're only cooking vegetarian stuff in the kitchen this Christmas, if you want turkey do it at your house and bring it over but it's not getting cooked again when you get here?"
As I know she'll think we are

moma - just up the page, and I quote he needs to tell her no meat or cold meat

punt not moma, sorry.

Is this a reverse and it's someone messing with the oven for their quorn?

OK, I posted on here to see what the consensus would be about saying 'no turkey.' Seems I would be unreasonable, as some NEED the turkey at Christmas.
She can stick it in the microwave if needs be but has to stay away from the ovens.

Ugh, quorn and nut roast! how fucking joyless. Why bother with Christmas dinner at all? Christmas dinner IS turkey. The least you can do is let your kids' granny heat up her little bit of normal food.

Not a turkey fan myself. Give me a rib of beef or a lovely goose any day :)

Well to be honest, you sound quite mean-spirited there OP. It's not about NEED, and making it sound like she's some kind of junkie, it's about making sure everyone had a nice Christmas lunch. Because it's Christmas. And I'm sure you appreciate that some people LIKE turkey at Christmas, because you eat your mother in law's turkey.

Ugh, quorn and nut roast!

Have you TRIED Quorn, or nut roast? (Sound like I'm talking to my kids now )
If you haven't tried it you can't shout YUK
OK, Quorn can be a tasteless. Some nut roasts are gorgeous though.

I bloody hate swede, and I hate cooking it, and I hate the way it makes the kitchen smell. I make it because other people like it, and it's nice to make sure everyone has a Christmas lunch that they like. Because it's Christmas.

If you, the DCs and MIL all enjoy turkey why not just cook some as part of the meal alongside the veggie stuff?

YABU. If you have two ovens you should be able to manage your quorn and a small turkey plus assorted veg. Lots of families manage with one oven and a turkey.

I'd suggest either buying their key yourself (especially as you eat it too) and then you can control timings, or ask her to be there by a specific time.

And yes, perhaps jazz up the veggie main course a little, unless of course it's a real family favourite.

I DO appreciate that people like turkey at Christmas. I love turkey at Christmas. I love turkey and all the trimmings.
I also love nut roasts as well.
I was just merely wondering how it would go down if we said " we want a vegetarian Christmas this year" as turkey in the oven with all your veggie stuff is a bit awkward when both ovens are at full capacity already and being opened and shut to accommodate meat.

No, I haven't tried quorn. I also haven't tried eating sand, soil or cardboard. Roast meat is fucking awesome and I don't feel the need for lame synthetic fungus-based alternatives. As for nut roast, it's OK but as far as I'm concerned it's a trimming to a roast dinner, not the main dish.

Really? Microwaved turkey is the best hospitality you can offer? On Christmas Day?

My word.

Ditch the quorn so you have space for turkey and the nut roast? Then everyone is catered for.

I bloody hate swede, and I hate cooking it, and I hate the way it makes the kitchen smell. I make it because other people like it, and it's nice to make sure everyone has a Christmas lunch that they like. Because it's Christmas.

I appreciate that, but that's not comparable though. Swede is vegetarian. Swede in the kitchen cooking for the Christmas dinner, fine and dandy. All lovely.
Turkey though? When you're a strict vegetarian you don't want that in all its juices cooking away next to your veggie stuff.

Maybe as your dh does all the cooking, he needs to liaise with his mother about how they can organise this.

I've tried nut roast and Quorn and find them both rather joyless to be honest. I do also manage to cook a trad turkey roast plus a veggie option without making someone have a lukewarm meal so I would have to say YABU and rather miserable.

so I would have to say YABU and rather miserable.

OK, fair enough

So veggie things that turn people's stomachs are 'lovely' and 'fine and dandy' but a bit of meat that's already cooked isn't?

Given that you know your MIL likes turkey and you and the kids like to eat some of the turkey she brings, is it really so fucking impossible for your H to plan for a tray of turkey to be put in the oven? After all, he's actually the one in the minority, so why should Xmas dinner be about his dietary choices and not everyone else's?

What about if you prepped the turkey roast for her. So, cooked it at your convenience eg the night before, then microwaved it or served it cold but with red - hot gravy on it to warm it up.

Does she like red bisto?

So veggie things that turn people's stomachs are 'lovely' and 'fine and dandy' but a bit of meat that's already cooked isn't?

No, you miss my point. Vegetarian things such as vegetables cooking along side other vegetarian things are fine. Cooking swede alongside other vegetables is not a problem.
Heating up turkey in all its juices next to the vegetables in the oven when you're a strict vegetarian isn't the same.

You plural I mean - so, er, your dh.
Then he can sort the oven as he wants, and ensure there's no cross contamination or oven faffers.

He can't be that strict, if he doesn't mind it being on the table and everyone else tucking in!