Being told to use self service till by customer in front of me

[Sazzle41]

I was just in my local mini Tesco at the till manned by member of staff and the customer in front of me - half my age, male, mid 20's, nose ring turned round, pointed at the self service tills & said, "they are free".

WTAF? I was queueing at the manned till to get the Gin behind the counter. (Well its Friday!). Even if i didnt want what was behind the counters, why is it of any consequence to him where the person BEHIND queues? I am afraid he got "I'm fine here" and my death stare. Then, his mate chips in: "He's trying to help". Help? Why do i need 'help'? Is queueing far to difficult for a middle aged woman? Dont know why i am so hacked off to be honest but this really grated... we dont all like self service either, some of us prefer human contact. It felt like 'lets tell the dumb blonde /little woman what to do" to be frank. Grrr...

AIBU shows another example of neuroses.

But wtf did it have to do with anyone other than the OP which till she went through? Helpful or not?

She might have wanted cash back.
She might not like the self service till.
She might just have felt lazy and wanted the cashier to pack her shopping.

He wasn't being helpful. It had cock all to do with him.

He sounds like a total bastard. I would have called the police there and then.

This thread is still going? Hilarious!

I think you were the rude one!

But what earthly good would it do him to tell you to use a different till if he wasn't being helpful??

I'd understand a bit more if he was behind you and said it. But you say he was in front of you, so would be served at the same time regardless of which till you used.

I would have been massively pissed off too, OP, and would have assumed he thought I was too stupid to realise the obvious. Why the hell was he not using them if they were free? Good enough for the female duffer behind him but not for the KING?!

And why people are pointing out how 'helpful' he was being I am not so sure.....why wasn't he using them if he was being so darn helpful??

Oh FFS the OP has made it clear that nose-ring-man wasn't being helpful, she experienced his behaviour as aggressive and unpleasant.

FFS people stop telling women to give wanky aggressive men the benefit of the doubt. Why the fuck should we?

Men who advise us how to do stuff we know how to do, can fuck the fuck off to the far side of fuck carrying our ingratitude and death stares with them. And then when they get there, they can fuck off some more.

Everyone looks fucking miserable in London so you'd fit right in.

Well said Basil...so sick of stupid men being given more voice of reason OVER the woman who was actually THERE!!

The day can't come soon enough when women wake up to this rubbish from men.

so sick of stupid men being given more voice of reason OVER the woman who was actually THERE!!

This thread has become utterly ridiculous. But is is very entertaining now that some rather um, extreme, folk are posting.

did you tell him to use it?

The day can't come soon enough when women wake up to this rubbish from men.

A gem!

He made her aware that there was another till available! He was being helpful. But he made the mistake of owning a penis. BASTARD.

Fizzy, you are one of the most passive-aggressive people I have seen posting here, so do one!

I trust the OP and her version. That is all.

Well that's not really all is it? You are pretty sexist too aren't you?

sigh Fizzy, how am I being sexist? Actually, why am I even asking for an opinion I don't give a shit about?

You don't have the opinion of an unbiased bystander. You have the opinion of someone who has admitted they have a background which would affect her judgement of any situation.

YABU - both to be so OTT in your reaction to him and his friend, and to still be obsessing about it to the extent you're posting about something that he may or may not have meant/thought when he said "they are free"

Some of these are really funny ! Yep its terrible that he had a penis! Seriously tho, why do you need to turn round and glare at me & tell me to bugger off to self service when i am quietly queueing/eyeing up my malteser fix ? If id wanted self service i would have gone round the other side to where people queue for that!

Fizzymittens, there was no way in hell he was being helpful. If looks could kill i 'd be 6foot under.

But keep the man bashing comments coming, some of you have made me/best mate choke on our G&T & maltesers! Its a good distraction from Simon Cowell being disturbingly nice about every contestant... & the even more disturbing fact that we both have now admitted to erm... liking his chest hair...

Right Lougie..let us just disregard anyone with any kind of negative experience that might influence them. That will work...NOT!!

It is so utterly sickening that people rally to be on the man's side...when he was being obnoxious, arrogant and presumptuous, and are horrendous to the OP.

If he was being helpful, WHY WASN'T HE HIMSELF ON THE SELF SERVE TILL??

Can anyone answer that??

Sazzle the hilarious (and annoying) man bashing on here I can just about handle but Simon Cowell's chest hair? That is going too far!

He didn't tell you to bugger off to self service though - he said "they are free". Unless you have telepathic abilities and "bugger off" was what he was actually thinking?

FGS Pepper calm the fuck down will you?

Pepper - cos he was in front of the OP, being served at the time (or about to be served) and was perhaps he thought that suggesting other tills might save her the delay?

Or perhaps you're right, and he's simply being obnoxious, arrogant and presumptuous because he owns a penis and not a vagina.