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Being told to use self service till by customer in front of me

213 replies

Sazzle41 · 10/10/2014 13:00

I was just in my local mini Tesco at the till manned by member of staff and the customer in front of me - half my age, male, mid 20's, nose ring turned round, pointed at the self service tills & said, "they are free".

WTAF? I was queueing at the manned till to get the Gin behind the counter. (Well its Friday!). Even if i didnt want what was behind the counters, why is it of any consequence to him where the person BEHIND queues? I am afraid he got "I'm fine here" and my death stare. Then, his mate chips in: "He's trying to help". Help? Why do i need 'help'? Is queueing far to difficult for a middle aged woman? Dont know why i am so hacked off to be honest but this really grated... we dont all like self service either, some of us prefer human contact. It felt like 'lets tell the dumb blonde /little woman what to do" to be frank. Grrr...

OP posts:
Vitalstatistix · 10/10/2014 13:40

oh, there you are Grin x post. sorry.

Aeroflotgirl · 10/10/2014 13:40

Funnily enough that has happened to me in Tesco mini, I just said that I would rather wait for the manned till thanks

CedricBloomer · 10/10/2014 13:41

Absolutely, Grunt.

Can you think of one instance in which get fucked is not appropriate?

toomuchtooold · 10/10/2014 13:43

No yanbu, I can't be bothered with people offering unsolicited "help"/ telling me what to do. I'd like to think I would have done like other posters suggested and told him "off you go then" but probably I would have been too slow!

(Mind, I am the person who considered getting a badge saying "if I.needed a seat I would bloody ask" while pregnant!

WorraLiberty · 10/10/2014 13:44

So all those saying yabu. Do you think he would have said the same to a 40 year old man?

Quite probably, yes.

Although in my mind, I can hear him adding the word 'mate' onto his well meaning comment.

NewEraNewMindset · 10/10/2014 13:44

I would have probably said 'oh really? Thanks but I need to queue as I want something from behind the counter'. I do tend to be very polite though even when people are rude. I'm not sure why!

MaidOfStars · 10/10/2014 13:45

Can you think of one instance in which get fucked is not appropriate?

Do you, Cedric, take this man/woman to be your lawful wedded husband/wife?

Vintagejazz · 10/10/2014 13:46

I'm finding the dripfeeding by the OP as annoying as she found the noseringed guy.

CedricBloomer · 10/10/2014 13:47

Exactly, Maid. Wink

WorraLiberty · 10/10/2014 13:54

I'm finding the dripfeeding by the OP as annoying as she found the noseringed guy

I'm waiting for the bit where he battered her over the head with a french stick.

AngelsOnHigh · 10/10/2014 13:56

You're answer should have been "Well then, why aren't you using it?"

Can't believe the spiteful comments on here.

Numanoid · 10/10/2014 14:03

I'm waiting for the bit where he battered her over the head with a french stick.

I had the same thought. Grin Although I was imagining along the lines of him waving a French stick in an aggressive manner.

Staywithme · 10/10/2014 14:06

Maybe he thought you were standing too close, I think a foot is too close, or had a face like a cats bum. Maybe he was feeling miserable and couldn't muster a smile but thought 'helping' someone would make him feel better. Maybe he was going to sneak up behind you when you went through the self service till and knock you out with a baguette, then steal your purse. Who knows? It's really not worth losing sleep over. Oh oh! Maybe he fancied you and was trying to start a conversation with you. He might like a more mature vintage. Wink

Vintagejazz · 10/10/2014 14:06

No one's being 'spiteful' Angel. Some of us feel the OP was unnecessarily rude or frosty to a young man who simply pointed out an empty till to her.

LittleBearPad · 10/10/2014 14:06

What a tiny thing to get upset aboit

Showy · 10/10/2014 14:09

Come on op, get it all out. Did he also deliberately kick you in the shin/ram you with a trolley/spit in your eye?

edamsavestheday · 10/10/2014 14:12

OP was there, presumably she can tell the difference between someone being friendly and helpful and someone being bossy or odd. Or she was in a bad mood and mis-read him, or he was in a bad mood and forgot to smile. Not worth giving OP a hard time over.

Marmiteandjamislush · 10/10/2014 14:14

Gracious. How rude, OP. Could you not just have said: 'Oh, it's fine, you go around me, I need a manned check out thanks.' I think it's nice he asked you, rather than just nipping round you. You've gone on about ageism and sexism in your OP, but it seems that you are the one with the issue. He didn't say 'Hey 40's woman those tills are free.' Though you did make reference to his age and gender. Horrible. I'd have those chips from your shoulders in a roll with a gin chaser if I were you.

Purplepoodle · 10/10/2014 14:15

Lordy all you have to say is that you are buying alcohol. Over reaction much

Fenton · 10/10/2014 14:16

I hate to go all Miss Marple on this, but standing a foot away from someone on a queue is really very close, (which I would personally find very uncomfortable)

UncleSue · 10/10/2014 14:18

What a stressful encounter, poor you, and sporting a nose ring you say?

diddl · 10/10/2014 14:24

i hopefully would have said "I'm fine here thanks" & not done the death stare.

wonder why his mate felt the need to chip in.

Maybe you had them rattled, OPGrin

kali110 · 10/10/2014 14:25

Sorry about what happened to you op.
You've realised ywbu so thats a good thing.
Fact he had a nose ring makes no difference.

momofmonster · 10/10/2014 14:26

First off i would have just looked at him and said "yeah, so!" so i'm rude too!!

Secondly after reading your post i feel like buying a bottle of Gin on my way home Grin

SanityClause · 10/10/2014 14:28

74 posts about THIS!

You can tell it's Friday! Wink