Being told to use self service till by customer in front of me

[Sazzle41]

I was just in my local mini Tesco at the till manned by member of staff and the customer in front of me - half my age, male, mid 20's, nose ring turned round, pointed at the self service tills & said, "they are free".

WTAF? I was queueing at the manned till to get the Gin behind the counter. (Well its Friday!). Even if i didnt want what was behind the counters, why is it of any consequence to him where the person BEHIND queues? I am afraid he got "I'm fine here" and my death stare. Then, his mate chips in: "He's trying to help". Help? Why do i need 'help'? Is queueing far to difficult for a middle aged woman? Dont know why i am so hacked off to be honest but this really grated... we dont all like self service either, some of us prefer human contact. It felt like 'lets tell the dumb blonde /little woman what to do" to be frank. Grrr...

Oh give the OP a break.

I would've been irritated as well. I would've replied with some remark because it would've baffled me why he gave a toss about me choosing to queue behind him.

Think the op has had a hard time time here.

And perhaps it was the tone of voice he said it in. Which op knows as she was there to hear it.

Gosh, I'm the sort of person that points to the available self-serve checkouts and when the person says that they don't use them, I offer to show them how easy they are to use. They're much quicker than waiting for the super slow staff at the kiosk most days.

I'd rather be helpful than stuck in a queue any day of the week.. though I know that really I'm just an interfering, know it all busy body - but I do like to be helpful. People tend not to be these days and it's nice to dash across a store to hold the door for someone with a pushchair (or urge DS to do it) than watch them struggle when it's no harm to help.

I thought YANBU before the OP updated.

Just butt out, folks.

Op has said it's a mini Tescos. So unlikely to have a member of staff manning the self service. Those tills bleep when someone tries to buy alcohol so someone has to come and press various buttons and check the buyer is over 25. So probably quicker to actually go the checkout.

That's if it's ok with the other customers.

Though I would have SAID, "I'm fine here thanks", and smiled, just like the YABUers - while thinking, butt out. :)

YANBU OP I have low tolerance for men with God complexes. I've taken to saying "Can you leave me alone please" in a sharp tone. Another good response to any stranger who asks you an irrelevant questions is "What do you want to know that for?".

In the last two days alone, I've been flicked and shouted at by a male runner coming the opposite way for "running on the wrong side of the road" (into oncoming traffic, so in fact he was wrong) and shouted at by a man who insisted I was swimming in the middle of the lane (I wasn't and I'm tiny so even if I was it would make no impact). Bloody wierdos.

Seza Gosh, I'm the sort of person that points to the available self-serve checkouts and when the person says that they don't use them, I offer to show them how easy they are to use. It would be my guess that they say they don't know how to use them because they don't want to use them, not because they really don't know or can't work it out for themselves. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but maybe you don't pick up social cues that well?

YANBU.

I would have said, "Go and use it then".

yabu
you mentioned a nose ring....WHY?

Poor bloke probably felt bad that you were standing waiting. This sort of thing makes me glad that I moved to a small town. Nice gestures and manners from men, women and children are still taken in the spirit in which they are given.

Love the simplicity of a life without looking for hidden agenda.

Think OP is getting a bit of a hard time here but this thread is quite a dripfeed so I think that's partly why!

Here is what I think happened:

OP is standing too close behind nosering guy.

Nosering guy finds this a bit of an invasion of his personal space and maybe also interprets it as OP being impatient with waiting.

Nosering guy is irritated by this and wonders why OP is standing so close when she could have plenty of room at the free till and not have to wait.

Nosering guy then suggests using other till in a bit of a sacastic/rude manner.

OP finds this offensive and is equally sarcastic/rude back.

Friend of Nosering Guy feels the need to chip in. Prob thinks OP is being a bit of a snob.

They all pay for their shopping causing no inconvience to anyone.

I don't know who is BU because my brain has now turned to mulch.

I remember one being in pound land and this women behind me tapped me on the shoulder (which I hate anyway) and said. Go on you can go before me. With a real flat face. I turned around and said. "That's very kind of you, seeing as I was in front of you. (Honest).
She said it like she was doing me a favor, as well

WTF is it with the nosering guy
why does someone having a nose ring make a difference....???
ODD

It doesn't.

It doesn't make a difference at all but op might just have felt like describing him so we get the picture.

I expect now she wishes she hadn't.

This is why I always try to do any shopping right after the morning school run when it's dead.

why though
why does the guy having a nose ring make a difference ??

it doesn't

No. As we just said.

She also mentioned he was in his 20s. And a male.

Should all future AIBU's simply describe anyone involved in the scenario as Person A, Person B etc?

It doesn't.

In the same way as she might have described him as short or ginger or wearing glasses or spotty or fat or black or Chinese or whatever! It's irrelevent but like I said she just might have wanted us to get an imagine of what he looked like.

Those nose ring people.

Evil.

YABU - poor man

More drip feedling Worra/Showy! Thanks for all the comments. Yes i was frosty:not my normal default, (I'm told i'm "smiley & laid back by work colleagues). But i know when i'm being stared/glared at & the difference between hostile & good intentions. It was very definitely get the away from me/piss off hostile. Dunno why i mentioned nose rings, they dont bother me , family members have them & suit them

Anyway, it was in Sarf London, where i work & it can be as a native londoner friend said, "well dodgy" so I will stand further away in future & not react (I blame the maltesers for the closeness myself, they were calling to me ....). Last drip feed,promise.

I use the self service tills to get served behind the counter items quicker. Basket down, press need assistant button. They have to come and serve you quickly, before their traffic light system goes red (ahead of queuing people) , scan whatever other items I have whilst waiting for assistant. Quicker than queuing at manned till, added bonus of no unwanted small talk. A few steps in the art of shopping.

He was being polite and letting you know he wasn't going to use it and to ahead in front if you wanted to use it. Yabu.