DM has kidnapped my babies!

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Just got back from a night away with dh, timed to get back for the end of naptime, to find an empty house. Turns out Dm has taken my kids to visit my grandmother, over an hour away, and only just got there so wont be back for a good few hours. We only went for one night locally so that we wouldn't have to be away from baby for more than 24 hours. Dh is absolutely furious because he works away all week and hardly sees them. But i hadn't told her when we would be back, just assumed they would be here for naptime since i gave her the schedule(which must have been ignored. So aibu to think she should have checked before buggering off on a Sunday afternoon, or is it my fault for not telling her when we would be back?

Yabu you didnt tell her what time you would be home shes not a mind reader

your fault really what did you want her to do stay in the house all the time?

learn from experience xx

Yes YABU. Bloody hell.

She was being unreasonable, but Presume she complied with nap time in a way, by getting them to nap in the car on the way.

Er, she's not KIDNAPPED your children at all, has she? She did you a favour looking after them and you failed to communicate what time you'd be back.

Are you this overly dramatic about everything?

How old are the kids? Do they have school tomorrow? Did you not discuss AT ALL what time you'd be back?

Whether you're being unreasonable or not depends on whether she's done it deliberately, I suppose. Any reason to think that?

Yabu

Yabu if she didn't know what time you would be back.

"absolutely furious because he works away all week and hardly sees them"

So why didn't he stay at home?

OP in the nicest possible way you need to get a grip.

Maybe she did the hours drive at the scheduled naptime? You didnt tell her when you would be returning so you cant expect her to sit in.

Nice to.know your DH is furious at his MIL doing him a favour.

Wow seriously! Your H needs to calm down.

No one bothered telling your DM what time you would be back. She has done a lovely thing and taken them to see family rather than to sit in doors with them!

You either trust her to look after your DC and go out with them when looking after them or you don't trust her and pay for babysitters in future.

YABU. And why is your DH furious? Presumably he didn't miss the kids so much that he wasn't happy to go away for the night and not hurry back the next day, or even communicate what time he would be returning.

YABVU

She babysat for you, she had no idea when you were returning and she brought her grandchildren on a nice trip to see family. She didn't kidnap them. You sound very ungrateful.

They probably had a nap in the car.

I'm afraid you are being extremely PFB about your mum. She has done a lovely thing. You didn't tell her when you were going to be home. They are seeing your grandma. They will be back soon.

But of course you can make a big fuss and then she won't mind your babies again overnight:(

As for your DH being furious his children aren't in at exactly 3 o clock in the afternoon when he arrives home, words fail me! If it was so important to see them, then you should have not gone away, or rushed back this am, or called your mum and chatted through the arrangements. He could have just not gone away for nearly 24 hours if every minute is so precious.

Not the whole time, just for naptime, which is at the same time every day, i even wrote her instructions for the toddler's gro clock. I wouldn't mind if they were local, but 60 miles around the m25 on a Sunday afternoon is crazy!

Don't be dramatic. You didn't say when you'd be back and as for 'the schedule' unclench. They'll have slept in the car.

Yabu, you didn't communicate what time you'd be back and she's doing you a favour babysitting

If your DH works away all week and wanted to see the kids when you got home you should've told your mum that, she's not psychic.

If you dare tell her you're annoyed I wouldn't blame her for never babysitting ever again

The M25 is lovely and clear in the area I have just been on. If they were napping they wouldn't have notice it.

What's a groclock got to do with anything.

Oh and if your DH was so bothered about seeing them why go away when he's worked away all week? You can't have if both ways, you both sound hard work tbh, you could easily have text and said what time you'd be home

Do you dislike your mum?

This seems to be the reaction of someone who does not trust or like the person she has entrusted her children to.

To be fair to my dh, he did want to rush back, i wanted a lie in! Ok, iabu. I realise i should have specified, but since i am in the house for that two hour period every day, and had versed my mum on it, i had no reason to think they wouldn't be here. They are 9mo and 2yo.

Groclock? What's that when it's at home.

Oh, and YABveryU.

So, you never go out in the afternoons and your mum shouldn't have done too?

I get why you are a bit miffed, you got in, you thought there'd be upstretched arms, everyone shouting 'mummy, mummy' and basically they've all gone out.

But when you ask other people to look after your children, they don't do the same stuff, feed them the same etc. If it is a toddler, it's not a tiny baby, surely even the strictest routine has a little give in it?

I would think having a night off, plus getting the children to see your gran is a double-bonus. The children will be fine, you are fine, there's nothing to fret about, honest!

And- perhaps your mum will come back and think she didn't enjoy sitting on the M25 and make a mental note not to do that again with small children, but I don't think she's done anything wrong by taking the children to see their greatgranny. Mine does a lot of outings and family visits with my children, saves me doing it.

The most unreasonable one is your husband!

You timed your arrival to coincide with the end of naptaime and she timed their arrival at your gm's also to coincide with the end of naptaime. That means that they would have slept in the car.