DM has kidnapped my babies!

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Just got back from a night away with dh, timed to get back for the end of naptime, to find an empty house. Turns out Dm has taken my kids to visit my grandmother, over an hour away, and only just got there so wont be back for a good few hours. We only went for one night locally so that we wouldn't have to be away from baby for more than 24 hours. Dh is absolutely furious because he works away all week and hardly sees them. But i hadn't told her when we would be back, just assumed they would be here for naptime since i gave her the schedule(which must have been ignored. So aibu to think she should have checked before buggering off on a Sunday afternoon, or is it my fault for not telling her when we would be back?

Well your problem here is not your mum. It's Mr spoiled grumpy pants that you have the misfortune to be married to. Tell him to grow the heck up if he wants to make it to your 6th anniversary.

"dh is really upset so not even talking to me. And he didn't realise i hadn't told my mum when we would be back, so i told him to blame me."

"blame" ????

Neither you nor your DH are sounding like nice people here and, as my Grandma used to say, if you keep on behaving like one, you'll turn in to one!

What I would suggest is that ... before your dear mother and children return ... your give yourself a good kick in the ars bottom, then sit your DH down quietly with a cuppa and gently explain to him that he is behaving like an utter dick and would he please revert to the (presumably) nice man you married, before your lovely mum gets back.

OP, when they get up won't they just get in with you? That's what we did with dd2 in the end. It saved our sanity.

Telling her that hollering Hakuna matata over and over would have her sent back to her own bed was much more effective than a clock with a moon on it. Face it if the actual sunrise does not work, nor will a picture of one.

Dd2 was about 5 when she eventually started sleeping through. No amount of gro clocks, begging, pleading, rapid returning etc would work. We tried everything. Letting her in our bed for quiet cuddles worked.

If it's any comfort I have now have the opposite problem with her. I can't get her out of bed. Keeping her in it isn't an issue

Your DH is really being a bit of a plonker. He will look back on this in 10 years' time and feel very embarrassed. Or at least he should.

If this was me I would be fist pumping the air and settling down for some CHillaxing. My arse would hit the sofa at the speed of sound.

I can see why you might be so on edge about it, if your DH is behaving as he is.

Does he usually throw tantrums and take it out on you?

I feel sad for you OP, you are getting almost nothing but disagreement here, and your DH is being a dick. He really is. Why would he not talk to you?!?!
I would be disappointed if I were you but it really isn't anyone's fault, your mum thought she was doing a nice thing and has helped you out a lot.
I hope your DH apologises.

Whenever people here are pissed off with their kids' grandparents, they always say 'I'd have happily paid a babysitter - she wanted to!' Really?! You'd have happily paid someone unrelated to babysit a 2-year-old and 9-month-old overnight?

Your DH needs to grow up.

Your DH is an utter TWAT

That is all I have to say.

Maybe tell DH to see what a babysitter for 24 hours would have cost for a toddler and baby and then maybe he can get his head out his arse and thank your mother. You might do the same

I now wander about dd2's room on a morning singing "Let it go, let it go, let it goooooooooooo, I want to build a snow man. Do you want to build a snow man...." She shouts at me for getting the words wrong

I think you have displaced your husband's annoyance with you onto your poor mum.

You also can't cure these things by one night away, especially as he's come back as much of an arse about things not going his way as when you went.

I do see you want to give your babies a hug though, especially now you are 'in trouble' for what your mum has done.

I was referring to pp saying have sex or watch a film.

As for why would you trust someone to look after your kids but not drive them, my view might be coloured by the fact my mum is fantastic with kids but not a great motorway driver, the two don't necessarily go hand in hand!

Anyway, the ops DH is overreacting and being awful in any case.

Christ, your DH needs to get a grip!

The first night DH and I had away together was this year for our 20th wedding anniversary. We left the kids and went on holiday. Both sets of our parents are as selfish as fuck when it comes to our kids. If anyone had taken them for an afternoon when they were toddlers I would have kissed their feet!

I wouldnt worry op, it probably wont happen again

once your mother sees how ungrateful you both she, she probably wont be arsed with the two of you very much.

Get a fu*king grip!

Dh not speaking to me....... Undone all the good work of a night away.....

Are you always so OTT?

Y'know OP is probably ignoring the bigger picture (Her arsehole DH and sleep issues) and fretting over the small stuff, that normally would not bother her.

I used to do that a lot. It's sometimes easier to blame the small stuff, that you might be able to control, than face the bigger picture.

I remember being ripped apart on a thread on here years ago. I don't even remember what the thread was about (something ridiculous knowing me) I do remember that at the time of writing it my mum was in hospital having biopsy on lumps they'd found on uterus. I couldn't face what that could mean, so fixated on something totally irrelevant instead.

OP's H sounds like a tit and she's struggling by on very little sleep.

are you always so OTT

Asks the person whose opener is get a fuking grip*

Honestly I think the fact you stay in at the same time every day is strange and YABVU

Count your blessings. I am still waiting for my mum to have either of my DC overnight and they are 11 and 9.

Yabu. Your mother looks after your dc, you dont inform her when you coming back, she takes them to see her mother which is a lovely idea. Sounds like its your dh who has the problem if hes cross because he works. If he that worried about not seeing dc why did he go away for the weekend. Sounds like your dc have a lovely granny....

CPtart I feel your pain. My kids are 19&17 and my mum has never had my kids overnight, or at anytime. I can safely say that ship has well and truly sailed!

is this a joke? groclocks? [I'd be throwing a party if I had a night away and extra time the next day to recoupirate. Please don't be harsh on your mum, she's doing a nice favour for you. if you launch at her now I doubt there'll be many more nights away