DM has kidnapped my babies!

[bedraggledmumoftwo]

Just got back from a night away with dh, timed to get back for the end of naptime, to find an empty house. Turns out Dm has taken my kids to visit my grandmother, over an hour away, and only just got there so wont be back for a good few hours. We only went for one night locally so that we wouldn't have to be away from baby for more than 24 hours. Dh is absolutely furious because he works away all week and hardly sees them. But i hadn't told her when we would be back, just assumed they would be here for naptime since i gave her the schedule(which must have been ignored. So aibu to think she should have checked before buggering off on a Sunday afternoon, or is it my fault for not telling her when we would be back?

Jesus, mountain out of a molehill. "Absolutely furious"? He needs to get a bloody grip. She looked after your kids while you went away, you didn't tell her when you would be back or that you wanted them home at a certain time. She has taken them to their great grannys not a crack den.

Jesus.

Oh my god, I can't believe a grandmother would ignore the schedule!!

serious over -reaction kidnapping it is not

i would ask MNHQ to change title

It won't hurt them not to be in the house at that time, I think you need to lighten up, they'll sleep in the car anyway

Don't tell your mum she's done anything wrong because she really hasn't

naptaime ?

Sorry, don't know what I did there but it sounds like a naice nap anyway

YABU imo and 60 miles is nothing.

Spend some nice time with your dh & ensure next time you ask for baby sitting you make it clear when you were returning.

Remember to thank your mother for babysitting.

I can understand why you're disappointed but you cant expect your mum to sit around all day waiting until you decided to come back.

Calm down and think about what a lovely afternoon your Grandma will have with your babies

Yabu and ungrateful. I seriously advise you to say nothing to your mum, except of course to thank her for doing you this huge favour.

You need to get a grip.
Not all of us are lucky enough to have mothers to babysit on a whim.
Try to appreciate yours or she might not offer to babysit again.

And if your DH is so furious maybe he shouldn't have gone out in the first place. Lesson learnt.

You are so lucky to have a mother who wants to spend time alone with her gks.

Oh For God Sake. Stop it. Just bloody well stop it and get a grip.

Your mum has taken the children to see their great granny.

As for your husband - tell him to save his puff for blowing his porridge!

wow, I hope she doesnt babysit for you guys again

furious??? Kidnap?

gro.co.uk/gro-clock

Groclock. I had to Google it as I was intrigued...

She has not kidnapped your babies, she has taken them out for the afternoon FFS!

If your DH is that bothered about not seeing them all week, maybe you should have stayed at home and not got your mum to babysit for the weekend!

Oh dear! So your mum is giving you some extra time to get home, settled in, washing on, etc and you and DH are being snarky!

Get a grip and tell him to play nice when she comes back.

i suggest you make the most and have some wine and a shag

Naptaime must be like naice ham

When you ask other people to look after your children for free, you have to accept that they'll do things their way.

I work evenings. I have to accept that toys won't be put away before bed. Hot milk will be drunk in front of the TV and not at the dining table with reading time. Uniform and school bags won't be packed and laid out ready.

I could pay for childcare and all of these things would be done. Or I could thank my lovely mum for giving up her evenings for me. Tidy away the toys and pack the school bags before I go to bed, wipe the milk off of the hearth and be glad that my children are able to have such a close bond with their granny.

When it riles me (which it does sometimes, I am not a saint, my kids know they are not allowed TV before bed or milk in the living room) I give myself a shake and remind myself that some children have grandparents who they are unable to have a relationship with. Some parents have parents who never give them a helping hand. I'm one of the lucky ones, despite the spilled milk and chaos.

Ever so slightly dramatic op.

Chill out.

Groclock gro.co.uk/gro-clock

OP, YABU, and your DH even more so. And yes, in a few years you'll both back and remember how embarrassingly precious you were when your children were small

Sorry, cross post about the groclock. I had to Google find out too

I hope you and your DH are suitably grateful to your DM when she gets back, and thank her profusely for looking after your kids so that you could have some time away.

She sounds lovely unlike you and your DH who sound like you think the world revolves around your every unspoken whim