To think this is not an erotic thing to do during sex?

[Lottieandmia]

Ok, I've not name changed for this because I suspected that people would think I was a troll.

Anyway, recently I slept with someone new and he spat in my mouth. Apparently he thinks this is erotic?

Personally I think it's a sad reflection of how people these days watch way too much porn. Does anyone actually like this and am I severely out of touch? I'm generally quite open about new things. But I don't think spitting in someone's mouth can do much to heighten sensation. I was left wondering just why?

Oh God. We need a bleuurgh emoticon.

Ah God No.

Nope didn't chuck me. Still together after 19 yrs ! I did literally want to curl up and die but it was an accident. He's more understanding than I give him credit for sometimes !

That's LOVE.

Is that the 'club' with all the glass tables?....

Gross and degrading

@ So scat isn't soebidy singing bubideebupbupbupdoobididoooo at orgasm then??
That me really laugh Lenin

Dating seems to be a minefield.

The problem is that when someone does that the first time who knows how far they could take it.

I've been to the Kitkat club in Berlin. It's just a slightly risqué mixed gay/ straight club. No scat there at all!

However I do know a guy whose 'thing' was he liked to EAT ladies'poo....

As we speak im im Benidorm at one of the many sex shows and yes at this one the guy just spat in her mouth. So yes common in porn.

If consensual its okay but to do it without warning is just wrong especially the first time. Hope your well shot OP

Ew ew ew ew ew ew ewwwwwe!

Horrible! I hope he learned a lesson, this younger than you overly porned out man.

That is gross and would have killed it for me

He's abusive, get rid of him asap.

Op I just like to say I am not sure that is a porn thing just a nasty thing

People like diffent. Things sexually if what he did you diet like then he's not for you personally it wouldn't float my boat but then I have a close friend who likes to be pissed on

It's the fact he did it without asking that I find the worst bit! Good sex is about trust not trying to anticipate & avoid the next dollop of unexpected bodily fluid

I'm wondering whether some people think they can just try out stuff and see if they can get away with it. If they ask you first, you might say know. So they just do it and hope you won't protest

I am very worried for my daughters. In 6 years or so they will be in the position of maybe having a first boyfriend and possibly getting intimate. I remember what it was like at 16 and feeling vulnerable about sex. At least now I'm tougher so I can cope with the odd weird thing happening.

But just how do you even approach something like this with a teenager and educate them about what's normal for them?

Say no not know lol

me and DP are into some weird stuff but thats because we asked each other and made sure we were willing to try it. spit for makeshift lube yes but when we are being rough all that stuff is normal to me, because I find being really rough with my DP a turn on. I would never be that rough with anyone else because I feel safe and such and I am consenting to it. stuff like this is quite "vanilla" to me as I have a lot of fetishes. So does DP. For example, we were out last night and DP's friend said something about him using his fingers... in.. other places. I looked at DP as if to say, "been there, done that, worn the T shirt, that's not even freaky" sort of thing.
I digress.
He should have not done this before talking to you first. some people are into humiliation and submission "BDSM" which me and DP dabble in a little. BUT you need communication, trust, all sorts to even dabble in it. run for the hills, he will try anything unless you say something or talk to him beforehand. Even though this is vanilla to me, I do have my hard limits, which sexual partners need to talk about because people are into so many different things. YANBU at all to think this is not erotic. Not saying "spit in my mouth" to someone probably means you don't find it erotic.

Thanks Crayola for your contribution. The problem I have is that I have a very high sex drive but I am reasonably vanilla in my tastes.

So going back to some earlier point in the thread - surely it's possible to have 'casual' sex with people without being disrespected or treated like a toy. I don't have time for a relationship right now and recently came out of a difficult one.

That is super rank and v v odd but considering the exchange of bodily fluids during a good session probably isn't that unhygienic.

I had a fling with a western samoan rugby player in my youth who insisted on spitting at me but had swigged the water from a glass by the side of the bed. He then preceded to slap my wet skin which considering he was a pro rugby player and I was an 8 stone weakling fucking hurt ??!

Actually, thinking back he seemed to have trouble as well accepting that I found some positions uncomfortable because of his size. My ex husband was very big and he understood that certain positions were not comfortable. Hopefully I'm not unreasonable in that regard?

Thanks for replies.

Madame - I don't like being hit either. Especially after a bad experience with BDSM with a previous partner.

ergh any man who spit in my mouth in the middle of sex would find himself with clothes on and out the door and out my life about five minutes later