To think this is not an erotic thing to do during sex?

[Lottieandmia]

Ok, I've not name changed for this because I suspected that people would think I was a troll.

Anyway, recently I slept with someone new and he spat in my mouth. Apparently he thinks this is erotic?

Personally I think it's a sad reflection of how people these days watch way too much porn. Does anyone actually like this and am I severely out of touch? I'm generally quite open about new things. But I don't think spitting in someone's mouth can do much to heighten sensation. I was left wondering just why?

I would not have coped with this. I've got a strong stomach but there have been times where just noticing the bubbles of someone's spit on the pavement have made me physically retch. I just don't get how this is sexy at all.

I don't think i would have been able to even talk to him after this OP, the puddle of my vomit would have said it all.

Yuk....

Doesn't matter if anyone else thinks it is erotic, if you don't and don't want to experience it you say no. I would be saying goodbye to this one.

I'm beginning to wonder whether it's possible to find someone who into normal stuff.

They are out there. I dated a guy that I had known since school. He was trying to ask me something one day and kept saying "oh it doesn't matter"
Eventually he went beetroot red and blurted out "would you ever wear a dress and stockings?"
He had built it up that much I had visions of him asking me to wear a mr blobby outfit or something

My female doctor recommended spit as lube when I was breastfeeding, many moons ago.

I would recommend a conversation about hard limits before sex. One's person's normal is another person's deviant.

In all my colourful past I have NEVER encountered this!! I agree with Ghetto that a discussion about hard limits would be an idea.
Its not even remotely sexy - but then seeing someone spit on the street makes me retch.

Ewwwwww....

That is the mist disgusting thing ever . I would vomit if dh who I've been with for 16 years did this never mind a new fella!
I've seen quite a bit of porn and I've never seen this ever. God knows what he's been watching if he thinks this is erotic

Another mum with DDs here who worries about their future relationships. So much stuff is being seen as the norm. I am in my 40s and consider myself to be normal - I had no idea what scat porn was till I read it on here. The fact that people think it is so mainstream they don't even need to ask about this sort of stuff when they meet a new partner is rather alarming.

It would have made me feel really ill and he was a twat not asking you first. I agree that the issue is consent not my personal revulsion at this act. It makes me feel sick thinking about it and I have a strong stomach!

Sick.

This kind of thing cements my view that if DH and I split up then that's it - I'm just going to buy a vibrator and stay at home.

That's vile. As someone else up thread said, I would have been sick.

judging by the numbers of us who say they would have been sick, maybe this would be the desired effect? maybe the sickos find being puked on sexy? [grim]
try it and tell them you find it sexy! Then maybe if they don't, it would at least have the desired effect of making them think to ask next time!

Doesn't do it for me, nope, can't understand it at all.

But if that's what gets people off, fine, provided it's in a scenario where there is good communication and informed consent.

I'm not massively ewww about it - assuming it wasn't a greeny you'd have presumably been swapping salvia etc at some point. But I don't know how anyone can think it's acceptable to just do it with no forewarning or discussion.

My ex spit on me once or maybe twice. Never without asking etc. Also found out he had a pretty sick taste in porn (gangs bangs, slapping a woman during blow jobs etc :( ) ended it for all those reasons. Sexually repulsed me.

armi

It was only a tiny bit. Not that that makes it any better. But any kind of spitting feels alien to me. And I hate seeing people do it on the street.

I went out with a woman who was into this (and other demeaning stuff)
It was nothing to do with porn and she was apologetic and embarrassed about doing it afterwards.

I do feel sorry for young women today, there seems to be such a saturation of porn. Not like in my day when being kinky was a 69.

Feeling a bit naive here but can someone enlighten me - are we talking saliva (usually exchanged during kissing anyway) or full-on phlegmy gob? If the latter... eurgggh!

When I was a teen I had a boyfriend that did this. He was a punk with a 20 inch Mohican and I had a shaved head at the time, it was our idea of being erotic . Thinking about it now makes me boak a bit but tbh there are worse bodily fluids to be aiming at another person and I HAVE seen those on porn golden shower anyone?.

It's definitely communication. My ex asked me before if I liked the idea of him 'gobbing' in my mouth and I would have gone along with just about anything at that time so... He should have asked if it were ok beforehand just like with anything a bit kinky or 'weird'- spanking and so on.

Normal spit. Not a throat oyster. No.

Oh normal spit! Doesn't sound erotic, out of context but surely most sex involves quite a bit of bodily fluid sharing?