To think this is not an erotic thing to do during sex?

[Lottieandmia]

Ok, I've not name changed for this because I suspected that people would think I was a troll.

Anyway, recently I slept with someone new and he spat in my mouth. Apparently he thinks this is erotic?

Personally I think it's a sad reflection of how people these days watch way too much porn. Does anyone actually like this and am I severely out of touch? I'm generally quite open about new things. But I don't think spitting in someone's mouth can do much to heighten sensation. I was left wondering just why?

DollyTwat It does if the person has got a stomach upset. Wouldn't call it singing though.

WTF? That is all I have to say

I mentioned that I thought there were two issues, separate but related, one of which is casual sex with new people. Because there are so many different practices and because porn seems to "normalise" what for many might not be natural, normal or intuitive practices it's a minefield negotiating terms with someone you don't know. For some anal is so vanilla, that an assumption might made that it will happen, unless otherwise stated. For others it might be spitting, or biting or whatever. For the person who thinks this is prevalent it would probably lead them to think that little in the way of prior negotiation is required. This has been proven in recent research on anal sex within the younger age groups.

I can't see how it is possible to negotiate in fine detail with a stranger, even setting hard limits is not fail safe. I could state I don't consent to fisting but then find I am met with a 15" dildo. You could say I don't consent to biting and could find someone still hurting you slapping your arse. So with the best will in the world, even a written contract is not going to guarantee that every conceivable possibility is accounted for. In the BDSM community they clap trap about safe words...err how will that work if you have a ball gag in your gob, they talk about hard limits, so you might say I only want to be tickled with a flogger, well one person's idea of a tickle is another's person's pain. The only real way to be safe isn't to go buy condoms although you should, but to know the person you are getting intimate with. That's not a moral opinion, but a pragmatic one, in view of the way in which porn is shaping people's sexuality. I think there is one final point though, that we have ever less respect for others as individuals as we become selfish self seeking individuals. That is a product of societal structures such as capital as well as the cultural influences such as porn.

Op my sympathy I once had an encounter with a spitter

Years later he is still refered to as Bob Carolgees.

Zombie Thread!

[boak]

He will be wanting rimming and to piss on your face next

[shudders]

Why has this thread been resurrected by someone who was on it before?

Can't read whole thread. Too busy gagging. Ewwwww....

Oh thanks so much whoever resurrected it

Shitting hell, that's gross. And it just made me guffaw on the train

It's a shame to see so much kink shaming in this thread. If you want to spit on someone, be spit on, or mix your spit up together and roll around in it, then more power to you.

However, doing so without reasonable discussion is abhorrent and unfair.

There have been similar threads before on here. This is NOT normal. The only spit in your mouth from DP should be that transferred when kissing.

If DH spat in my mouth I would probably punch him.

In the nuts.

If you are shaming someone who is kinkshaming, beefthief, are you kinkshamingshaming?

(I don't think kinkshaming is inherently a bad thing to do, if the kink is doing outre stuff to people when you haven't negotiated it first. That is shame-worthy. Also: eeeeew.)

Ooh happy 1st birthday to this thread.

Whoops new app excitement didn't notice.

I thought that too Bloody Perhaps there's a more recent one too.

What did the App do Only? Bring up loads of old threads?

Ugh that is just awful!

Ooh - how do you find old threads on the new app? Is there a way to search?

YADNBU that is rank, I like to think I'm very worldly but that is definitely vile, what the hell does it do for him?

OMG, I knew the contents of this thread before I even clicked on it. Some threads you never forget.

I remember this thread. Some things just stick in your mind.

OMG! I admit I'm old and have pretty much given up on relationships/sex but can hardly find the words to express how vile I think this is. The bloke was lucky if was you there OP and not me or I would have almost certainly projectile vomited in disgust. What the hell was he thinking?

oh god - Zombie thread - why???

I remember this one as well, think I might have posted on it in my old user name.
Yeah, gross, but I'm sure someone somewhere will enjoy it.