To not let a delivery guy use my toilet?

[msfreud]

Just that, really. Seems to happen all the time that delivery guys - everything from Ocado to Warren & Evans, ask to use my toilet once inside my property!

So today the guy from Warren & Evans (delivering a bed) asked, and I said no on the grounds that I would have needed to let him into a part of the house that I was keeping "closed off" as the cat (who needs to be kept in and out of the way of deliveries etc. as we've just moved) was there and I didn't want her to get out of there. And to be honest I've now had several experiences of a delivery guy asking to use my loo and leave it stinking of piss so I really prefer not to. Only have one loo in the house and want to keep it nice and clean. It's a not a public toilet after all and he was not a friend or family, just a random stranger really.

What was the bag of urine and Ocado?

I would never refuse to let someone use my toilet (except any axe murderers that might knock on the door). It's a basic human need. Why would you deny someone that? Imagine how embarrassed the poor fella was. I bet you did that going round the houses explaining and he ended up saying "oh I agree luv, in the same too yadda yadda yadda..."

Think yabvu and rude... dont believe in karma but wish it was true in this case. I really dont get the whole fear some seem to have for... shock horror... people like delivery men using your loos. Nasty.

Can't believe how precious some people are about their toilets. Don't know about where they live, but round here the supermarkets sell toilet cleaning products. It's not hard to use them after someone has been to the toilet.

Virtually anyone is welcome to use our toilets if they need to.

Fucking hell there are some really mean uptight selfish people on here.

You feel it's ok to have this man come into your home as he is providing a service for you. But god forbid he needs to go to the toilet during his working day. You
Know, like every single person in the world even the Queen and the Pope have to do a few times a day.

To those of you who say no to the people in your homes, I really hope you are told "no you can't use my toilet" by someone yourself one day. And you wee your far too uptight knickers!

Yanbu.

I think I probably would let them but you are not obliged to and shouldn't feel bad about it.

I have deliveries on a daily basis and would not dream of refusing someone the use of my loo. I even offer them a cuppa sometimes

YABU and odd

I have a small spare loo and am fine for people to use it. I would be a little uncomfortable if they had to go to more private areas of the house or if I was concerned for safety or whatnot. As someone said earlier - it was ok for him to ask, ok for you to say no, but I would have said yes out of a sense of humanity that my set up affords me.

Should delivery drivers not go to the toilet all day? Where else can they go except in customers' houses?

Sure it may be a bit unpleasant having a strange man in your toilet, but you just have a bit of empathy for him trying to drive with crossed legs, and get over it

YABU
I would only refuse if I felt unsafe bringing them into my house

YABU. How mean.

Will somebody please link to the Ocado bag full of piss for us slackers that missed the original thread?

Where the fuck is he going to go other than in the home of somewhere he's working? It's not like he's got a bucket in the van. It's a sodding toilet, people wee in it. Your family's wee is the same as anyone else's. Just because you do a manual 'workman' job doesn't mean you're more likely to piss up the wall.

Wait, was it this? This thread was 2012!

Wasn't there a thread a few months ago where someone let a delivery man use her loo, and he just didn't come out, and didn't come out...
She kept us updated, and he still hadn't come out about three-quarters of an hour later. She had no idea what to do. Can't remember what happened but that scenario is a bit offputting.

Long distance lorry drivers are generally on bigger roads with rest stops though, aren't they?

Delivery drivers are surely knocking around on local roads.

I can't think see how saying no to a poor man who has just been in your house putting up furniture using your loo is anything but mean.

Well they could stop off at any large supermarket and use the loos there.

I've never been asked so assume many/most do so.

Oh God, people who get chest pains at the thought of someone using their toilet to urinate or defecate in are just the absolute limit.

Catscanttwerk same here. I am a serial tea offerer.

Presumably if he was delivering a bed, he was upstairs anyway, so was in a reasonably "private" area of the house regardless of needing the loo? If he's delivering something into your bedroom then what's the difference in him going to the loo? I'd rather someone be in my bathroom than in my bedroom.

It's your house so you're entitled to say no, but I find it very very strange (and rude) that you did say no. I can't quite get my head around someone asking quite politely to use my loo and saying no! How did you say no-just an outright "no" or "I'd rather you didn't" ?

Why can't people in driving jobs use public toilets?

Go at depot each time they return
Go to supermarket
Go to public loos

Presumably they can stop for lunch and so have time. I don't think it's reasonable they rely on the use of customers homes. DH did a delivery job while at uni and didn't have this issue, neither did I when I went out with him.

Some people won't want strangers in their homes, or going upstairs, for a multitude of reasons. That doesn't make them bad. I hate when people go upstairs in my home unless I'm very close to them, and they certainly need to be invited first.

Selfish and rude to say no, in my opinion. For goodness sake if you are obsessive about germs and smells just pop in and give it a clean afterwards!

Yes, fickle, it was that! Although you're right, 2012 is hardly the other day.

The OP on that thread is hilar:
He used an Ocado bag as a urinal (not what I thought we were returning the bags for).

Back on topic... strictly speaking I don't think YWB completely U. It is your property after all. But I do feel sorry for him.

YABU. Also grossly exaggerating in talking about the loo being left "stinking of piss". That doesn't actually happen, now, does it? Or, of your nose is really that sensitive, how do you cope when you or your dc or dp do? How do you cope if you use public loos in restaurants, shops, hospitals etc with the realisation that some dreadful stranger may have used them just before you?

Also you are probably unwise. If you keep refusing this, it's only a matter of time before some poor desperate driver wees in your garden or on your doorstep.

Not sure where other people live but there aren't many public loos in our neck of the woods, particularly within easy reach of parking for a mid sized lorry.

Several delivery men ask to use my "facilities" one in particular and I queried if he had a weak bladder his response was "No you are one of the cleanest houses I deliver to"

So may be it is a compliment.