To not let a delivery guy use my toilet?

[msfreud]

Just that, really. Seems to happen all the time that delivery guys - everything from Ocado to Warren & Evans, ask to use my toilet once inside my property!

So today the guy from Warren & Evans (delivering a bed) asked, and I said no on the grounds that I would have needed to let him into a part of the house that I was keeping "closed off" as the cat (who needs to be kept in and out of the way of deliveries etc. as we've just moved) was there and I didn't want her to get out of there. And to be honest I've now had several experiences of a delivery guy asking to use my loo and leave it stinking of piss so I really prefer not to. Only have one loo in the house and want to keep it nice and clean. It's a not a public toilet after all and he was not a friend or family, just a random stranger really.

Gosh, I'm not keen on strangers using my loo either, but I wouldn't have said no.

Poor chap, where's he supposed to go?

I think you need to get your head round this, and rearrange your cat. If you've just moved there could be having a few deliveries coming presumably?

If it was just a slash he needed, fair enough.
To lay a cable, no chance.

Isnt there someone on mns who considered a safe place to pee for her husbands builders and she has random man running in to her house in urgent need. Op have you really really needed to go anytime...

Neil honestly do you have to be so coarse.

"Lay a cable"

Ah but Neil you can't say "will you be having a poo?", can you?
I'm on the fence here - my head says of course you should let them; my heart remembers the time a builder left a massive unflushed turd in my lovely clean bathroom. I felt sullied, dammit.

How mean - he brought in, and presumably built your bed for you, and you refused to let him use your loo? I hope he pissed on your front garden when you weren't looking!

I may be paranoid, but I am paranoid with cause.

Paranoia is a thought process believed to be heavily influenced by anxiety or fear, often to the point of irrationality and delusion.

Are you irrational and delusional Annie?

Of course it is your choice. You can choose to be mean or to be kind.
There are lots of things in life like this. I am always disappointed when I see/hear about people being mean-spirited and selfish, but I know it happens.
I think delivery men often find it difficult to ask, so avoid it when possible. Perhaps they 'gauged' the OP and thought she seemed like a decent kind of person. How embarrassing for the delivery man to be told 'no' after he had spent time in the house building the bed - it was more than just a delivery at the door.
Always good to treat people as you would like to be treated. As someone else has said, they have appreciated shop owners who have let them use loos for young children or themselves. The shop owners could say 'no' and sometimes do, but little acts of kindness go a long way.

Very unkind. Toilets clean you know, and smells go away...

I think your house layout has an impact on how you answer this question. In my old house we only had the family bathroom and although I did let people use it Zi wasn't that comfortable with a stranger potentially having access to the bits and bibs in the bathroom cabinet. However our current house has a wee cloakroom at the front door so I'm very happy to let people use it if they need to.

What if the poor guy really needed a piss, and was so desperate to go that, after you wouldn't let him go, he built your bed extra-quickly and without the usual care and attention, so he could get out and find a loo?

When your bedframe collapses in the night, that'll be karma coming for you...

Today 19:03 partialderivative

"I may be paranoid, but I am paranoid with cause.

Paranoia is a thought process believed to be heavily influenced by anxiety or fear, often to the point of irrationality and delusion.

Are you irrational and delusional Annie?"

Patial Another poster suggested Annie was paranoid, she was responding to that. Besides it sounds like she has her reasons to feel the way she does, - no need to keep poking at it.

I would have. It's a courtesy I would like extended to me if I needed a wee. He might have a medical issues that would make it difficult to 'hold on' and I'd worry that he would be put in a very difficult position if he couldn't find another loo.

Hassled Maybe I can't be so tactless to ask that. I'd just have to wait outside the door and if he's taking too long, I'd have to bang the palm of my hand on the door and shout, "if you're doing what I think you're doing in there, I suggest you stop it right now!! "

"Sorry if that makes me precious. hmm"

Yes, it does make you precious, or something odd.

Neil - I believe the technical term is 'pinch it off'. HTH

YABU
Poor guy.

If you have a particular reason to not allow anyone you don't know over your threshold then perhaps you had better hint at what it is Annie, so people can understand?

What do you do if your washing machine needs repairing/someone comes to read the gas meter/or in my case, someone needs to come round and fiddle with your broadband cables every couple of weeks?

It is not healthy to distrust strangers (who are professionals, remember) to this degree.

I hope your lawn turns yellow!

So if your DH fell on hard times and had to become a delivery driver, would his wee change to "driver stench" or would it still smell like your DH?!

Sorry, I know I'm not keeping up with the thread. I just can't get over Nanoo saying there was a thread about an Ocado bag full of piss the other day.

Are you Kenneth Williams?.

YABU - I can be a bit eww about people using my loo, but far more important to treat others as you'd wish to be treated.

If you're getting a parcel/ shopping delivered to the door I think its upto you to decide if you let them in. I get the arguments both ways.

If they're working for you i.e. In the house/ over the threshold to fulfill their contract with you then your liable for things like accidents so surely you're also liable for welfare?

Would love to know the actual legal stance.

Yabu and mean spirited