To not let a delivery guy use my toilet?

[msfreud]

Just that, really. Seems to happen all the time that delivery guys - everything from Ocado to Warren & Evans, ask to use my toilet once inside my property!

So today the guy from Warren & Evans (delivering a bed) asked, and I said no on the grounds that I would have needed to let him into a part of the house that I was keeping "closed off" as the cat (who needs to be kept in and out of the way of deliveries etc. as we've just moved) was there and I didn't want her to get out of there. And to be honest I've now had several experiences of a delivery guy asking to use my loo and leave it stinking of piss so I really prefer not to. Only have one loo in the house and want to keep it nice and clean. It's a not a public toilet after all and he was not a friend or family, just a random stranger really.

We only have an upstairs toilet, and I wouldn't let a stranger traipse through my home to go. I know, though, on MN, it's the height of meanness to not allow someone to use your loo as you may be responsible for them having an accident if you don't.
OP YANBU

To clarify, think there's a difference between someone just delivering something to you and someone working in your house, like a decorator for example. In that case, yes, of course they could use the loo.

YANBU

ButI don't know how you can say no, if they are already in your house??

I am v precious about my toilet.

I think it's really mean not to. Even if I was ultra sensitive about germs, I would rather just let them use it and give it a clean afterwards than refuse someone who is doing me a service the use of my toilet.

What goes around comes around indeed.

I would
I have so often had to rely on bars and cafés to take my DD into, and appreciate it.
I couldn't say no to someone who needed to do that. I know how it feels to desperately need the toilet and having to try and find somewhere. I might not "like" it, but it's not as if you a queue of people every day wanting to use your loo.

Yanbu. I would probably feel I had to say yes and have said yes before, but I don't like it at all.

Warren Evans deliver and construct their beds in the rooms so he would have been over the threshold. The cat is a crap excuse. Definitely unreasonable.

Did he piss in your garden? And what Annie ^^ said.

Warren Evans deliver and construct their beds in the rooms so he would have been over the threshold. The cat is a crap excuse. Definitely unreasonable.

Agree with whoever said what goes around comes around.

What about having a bit of human kindness people?

yabu
poor bloke
if hes bringing a bed in, hes in your house so whats the problem?

I wouldn't have a problem with it, rather that than the person having to rush to find a toilet to use.

Great. Another thread by someone who is weird about their precious toilet! MNHQ can we get a topic for these threads so I can hide the topic lease? Or is it possibly against talk guidelines to be fucking tedious?

Fwiw op I think you were unreasonable and horrible. Poor delivery man :(

Definitely unreasonable. What's wrong with a bit of kindness. Do you and your friends/family have special lavender scented wee?!

Why do they have to "rely on customer's goodwill"? What do long distance lorry drivers do?

I think there is no right or wrong answer so it depends on circumstances.

If I was home alone, no. If it was DH alone or someone else was here, yes.

If I only had one loo, no. But since I have a downstairs loo which I don't use, yes.

I wouldn't let someone use the upstairs loo. Even when we have builders in I will be designating the downstairs loo to them.

And OT but this thread has brought it into my mind - we are having a weeks worth of work done soon. I am hypersensitive to smoke smells. How can I reasonably prevent smoking on my property (drive, garden) and also stop them from smoking and then coming straight in? A sky bloke came the other day, had a fag outside and came in for an hour, and the house stank for 2 days. Any advice? Might need a new thread lol.

I wouldn't let a delivery person more than a metre over the threshold. They are notorious for checking out people's homes in view of robberies in these parts.

cricketballs - DH and I arrange to be home when deliveries arrive. We take delivery at the door, rather than in the house. DH may allow delivery people in the house when I am not at home and that is his choice. I will not allow it.

Sorry if that makes me precious.

Yabu and abit mean but i understand why. As someone who did home visits for the nhs i needed to ask two patients per round if i could use their toilet. Where else could i go. I waited until i had nice patients with clean toilets if i could. The lovely ones also gave me a glass of tap water on hot days. As a result i understand how hard it is. Recently ive given tap water to the gas man mending the gas main in the street and an ice cream to the hot man steaming our flat stair carpets in the communal area. Ive also offered water to the two gardeners but they turned that down. The older italian gardener always gives me a rose now when i return from work....

I always say yes if someone wants to use the loo. I would prefer it if they didn't but I think it's mean not to. It only takes a second to clean the loo if I want to afterwards.

If I've let the 'strange' man in the house then it would seem odd to me not to let him use the toilet too.

I would say yes too. It seems really churlish and unfeeling to say no.

Sorry if that makes me precious.

That doesn't make you precious, it makes you paranoid. Just saying.

Anyway, I don't mind letting deliver men use my toilet if they have to be in the house anyway. In my experience of getting large furniture, they stick around for a moment to help me set it up.

I may be paranoid, but I am paranoid with cause. The safety of my family is more important than someone's need to wee.