To think pictures of your cock are probably not the best way to strike up romance

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

And wonder why lots of men appear to think it is.

I've been sent 4 photos of cocks in the last 4 days obviously I have given no invitation and haven't asked or suggested people send me pictures like this. And it has been pretty much within the first 2/3 texts after handing over my number intending to arrange a date.

Is this some new practise I'm unaware of?

Is this phenomenon just an online dating thing or do most men that people meet in the more traditional manner do this as well?

It was disgusting and he had horrible brown pointy shoes on.

Something about the additional detail makes this extra ridiculous

Not just an online thing.

My one was from someone who I met through a friend. No internet involved at all.

I asked dh, if it was the norm with men dating to do this, he looked shocked and disgusted. Guess it's only men from the lower echelons of society I think.

I meant a lower form of man in society, not to do with class.

It's porn, isn't it. Depersonalisation - the reduction of everyone to their body parts. Including themselves!

From Tea's link: How did this guy do so well at the first half of this date and then completely deliberately slam his own head in the social equivalent of a car door? How does he have the social skills necessary to get to this point and still be deranged enough to think "this date is going pretty good but I think what will put me over the top is an unsolicited picture of my dong for her to keep, like a pre-boning trophy"? How does this happen?

Even the ostensibly nice, educated, charming, professional man can be so pornified that his understanding of intimate relationships is reduced to disembodied organs. Mind you, that probably explains why her "great catch" was single

I might just start hanging around the meal for one aisle at waitrose I've never seen anyone drop their drawers in there

Phew at the way this thread is going.

Page 1 - posters seem to find the whole phenomenon somewhat hilarious and deal with it by humour.

Page 2 - righteous indignation. Good! Make a stand, people. Don't have to put up with nasty pics. Complain complain.

"I meant a lower form of man in society, not to do with class."

Neanderthal man I think.

Neanderthal? That high up?

Guttersnipe, sewer rat kind of thing

Bloody hell can't we just have a smattering of serious indignation but lots of humour?

I like humour it makes me laugh

I know of someone who got cock pics when she became single kicked out her cheating H.

Someone sent her a thing on FB about how a girl got revenge by threatening to send it to his Mum and he went into begging mode

I think it was a made up thing but wonder how many would be so willing if they thought their family would see

Agree with OP, humour and indignation not mutually exclusive in this situation.

PLEASE send penis pics back to them!

I prefer humour, but this thread has been a revelation to me. I had absolutely no idea that this sort of thing was going on. I would hate to think that DD is going to be sent stuff like this (she is 14)

Disclaimer: My dating days are long behind me, having been married for 33 years.

Yes brilliant idea sending penis pics back!

What I never quite fathom is how so many women on MN (especially on the dating thread in relationships) have received loads of cock shots. Now, admittedly, I am a man, and when I was online dating I promise I didn't send any! But many of my female friends have done online dating and none of them have ever received a cock shot and some of them have spent months on pretty much every site and are attractive.

I got a couple of these when I was internet dating. The first one had tied a ribbon round it like a present so I put a similar ribbon around my biggest vibrator, took a pic and said 'thanks but better the wanker you know..' And the second one I just replied something like 'aha, thanks for the visual shorthand, i see now you are indeed a total dick'.

I did get them from someone I actually dated but it was well into the relationship and was in context so not at all creepy and I sent my own pics sometimes too. Still can't say there is anything remotely sexy about even the penis of someone who actually fancy, they just aren't very pretty things! Sorry guys.

Well, I like a nice cock, but must agree that a pic of a strange one is weird rather than appealing.
Loving the "wanker" comment NumanoidNancy

NotNew, are you saying you have to be attractive to recieve cock shots?
I have never got one either. Now I know why!

Whatsapp might be to send cock photos without paying for them but more than likely its because these messages don't show up on itemised mobile bills whereas text messages do!! Another red flag!

Whatapp isn't all bad. I use it to message DH and DC's as if I send a long text my provider charge me for a picture message even though I have unlimited texts. I have a few friends who use it too. I do send pictures on it - again free over internet, regularly send pics to DH - not rude ones though.

I would be quite shocked to receive a cock pic from some one I had only just met

Hahahahaha a friend of mine got one earlier from my estranged husband now that's made me laugh

Depends on the size of said knob.

I haven't had any willies in my inbox but I have had one who had a pic of his belly button as his one and only profile pic

I didn't reply. Must be a weirdo or married or a married weirdo.

Also have had requests for more pictures of me from two guys. So I sent a few and then they didn't respond again, which made me feel a little insecure. Then I realised they were probably hinting at smutty pics.

Honestly, I don't know what is wrong with men these days. Is it porn that's made them like this?