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"Why every woman secretly craves a daughter" - Telegraph article

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channing55 · 21/07/2014 16:53

Apparently 80% of British couples who have traveled to America to choose the gender of their baby want a girl.

What do people think? Is Beverly Turner right? Do all women secretly (or not) crave a daughter?

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/mother-tongue/10980660/IVF-sex-selection-why-every-woman-secretly-craves-a-daughter.html

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gymboywalton · 23/07/2014 07:50

i don't recognise my sons in these descriptions . I do firmly believe that boys are like dogs-they need lots of exercise, food and cuddles but i also believe that girls are like dogs-they all need the same things.

my sons love to read, to draw, to play computer games, to build things. they also love sports, running about with their friends etc
They are kind and thoughtful, empathetic, funny and loving. They don't grunt-they speak politely. They are supportive of their friends and treat their friends with such kindness and are treated the same way by their friends.

yes they have bad times/day but all humans do.

Blu · 23/07/2014 08:30

I have loved passing on my childhood passions to DS: camping, campfires, fell walking, and they are things my Mum did with me......

And round the campfire DS And his friends have thoughtful, sophisticated conversations . And then rush off into the woods and whittle sticks. As do the girls.

NewtRipley · 23/07/2014 19:29

it's areal shame that she is exposing her negative and "stuck" feelings about her son to the world.

NewtRipley · 23/07/2014 19:30

I'd love her to read this thread. I'd like to to challenge her gender assumptions and think a bit about her parenting of her son

curiousgeorgie · 23/07/2014 19:32

I desperately wanted a girl. I got one.

Then I pretended I didn't mind about DC2 but also, really really hoped for a girl. And got one.

I feel really lucky because its everything I dreamed it would be. But equally, DH would've loved a boy.

Mondayschild78 · 23/07/2014 20:14

Hmm no not every woman wants a daughter. Yes some women may want girls, some may want boys. I think most people just want healthy and happy DC do they not?! Confused

I did not have a preference for either sex however I thought it may be nice to have two of the same sex as they may share more of a bond so it would be nice for them. From that point of view I can understand the argument that women who are close to their mothers may want to recreate that bond with daughters.

I think everyone has different needs, desires and expectations though when it comes to family so I don't understand her sweeping generalisations.

GodDamnBatman · 23/07/2014 20:15

I wanted a little boy, but DH wanted a little girl. I was slightly disappointed to find out we were having a girl, but now that I have DD, I can't imagine why I ever wanted a boy. :)

VelvetEmbers · 23/07/2014 22:29

I wanted girls. Preferably 3 girls. I was surrounded by little boys when I was growing up and I couldn't stand them.

DC1 was a girl, followed swiftly by DS1, DS2 and DS3.

20+ years later and they are very different people. DD left home at 17, goes off and does her own thing, and we rarely hear from her. DS1 won't move out. DS2 is glued to my hip and rings me several times a day. DS3 is so unlike the rest of the family I wonder if the fairies swapped him. DD2 is 7. When they told me she was a girl I was momentarily disappointed. I'd had such a blast with the boys growing up that I really wanted to do it again.

She likes nothing better than to be outside. Climbing trees, turning upside down, running. She is permanently dirty and bruised. She will wear whatever I put on her without comment. I am training her to lay the table, simply because I didn't with her siblings and regretted it when I had 4 teens lolling about. As she is 7 she enjoys helping. I suspect that will change. As much as she resembles her sister she is nothing like her. I have 5 individuals with 5 unique personalities, not an amorphous mass of "the boys" and another of "the girls".

Morloth · 24/07/2014 02:15

I would really just like some more children.

I have 2 and thought we would be happy with that, but sometimes I want a houseful.

Then I go and have a lie down.

Either flavour would be fine.

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