not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

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I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

Me and my friends all change our two year olds in the living room! I have a baby too so would have to cart both upstairs to change. I would never put a pooey nappy in my or someone else's inside bin! And I always wash my hands in kitchen or downside loo, which is toossmall for a nappy change.

However, your house, your rules, she shouldn't have ignored your wishes so YANBU

At 2.5 my main concern would be the fact that they’re now mobile/less easy to pin down one-handed and could conceivably get up in the midst of a change and walk around my living room with a pooey bum. Also would want to enforce 'pee and poo in the loo' when they reach that sort of age. YANBU.

It wouldn't bother me as we change out toddler wherever he is (in our home) since he began standing up for it. Our bathroom is simply too small for this task. I would not do it in someone else's house though, I would ask them what they wanted.
Although I do wash hands post-nappy, if you are getting your hands covered in poo you are doing it wrong!

Oh fgs shit is just shit. We all do it, it was not nuclear waste. He is a baby. As long she she changed it in a hygienic manner, on a mat and took the nappy with her, I don't see the problem. You could have left the room to give them some privacy and so you did not have to see the offending poo. Whatever room she had done it in, in your house, would have a smell for you to complain about on here afterwards .

YABU and precious. Would not bother me at all.

Now dog shit that I see all over the paths and have had to wipe of pram wheels and DC shoes, that is offensive and disgusting.

YANBU. I would never do that.

How rude and disrespectful. She put her child's wishes above yours in your house. 2.5 isn't a baby.

Disgusting

Why is dog shit offensive if 'shit is just shit'?

There is a place for shit and that place is not living rooms, kitchens, (dining room tables - I had a friend once change her ds there) or shoes or buggy wheels for that matter.

Human shit should be in a loo, or dealt with as close as possible to one.

And agree dog shit should be bagged and binned.

Living rooms should ideally be shit free zones, it's why we wait for the advert break to nip and do a poo in the bathroom, rather than just curling one out in an empty coffee cup during Corrie.

Of course you're not unreasonable. Her ds didn't fancy the bathroom so she let him decide?? Be careful when she starts potty training, she'll have the potty set up in your living room and mightn't fancy the long walk to the bathroom to empty it if there's somewhere handier like the kitchen sink
Pig rude to ignore you telling her what you wanted her to do.

YANBU I always took my children to the bathroom to change them, and would not tolerate someone changing their baby in my living room. What people do in their own homes is up to them.

YANBU. If the host is happy with it then fine, but ignoring your wishes is rude.

Yanbu. I would never ever change a dirty nappy anywhere other than the loo / nursery. And definitely not in someone else's house.

Generally have no problem with nappies being changed in any room in my house (except for the kitchen!) but since she asked and then ignored your response YANBU. At all. That was extremely rude of her.

Tricky. You politely (I asume) advised where she could change nappy. After all, she did ask.
She then changed nappy in the living room, which is a bit gross. I have a young toddler and don't change his nappy in the living room of my own house.
However - As you have DC yourself I'd expect you to be a little more understanding.

Hmmm, on balance I think you are probably NBU.

You wouldn't change a dirty nappy in someone else's house? At all?! What happens if you're staying with relatives for the weekend? Or if DC poos 5 minutes after you arrive somewhere?! That's one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard!

I think WhatWouldCaitlinDo means she wouldn't change a nappy anywhere but a loo/nursery even when at home, so would be certain to only use these areas when in someone else's house.

hazyjane I stand corrected. Where people change their DC nappies at home is their choice.

Dirty and Grim with regards your friend not washing her hands Op.

Note to MNHQ - please could we have a "sick" smiley?

Wondering what correlation there might be between people who only ever change nappies in the bathroom, and those who insist on shoes being off in the house at all times

Igggi I only change nappies in baby's room and bathroom. I am not bothered about shoes in the house with the exception of living room only because we have a cream carpet in there. But, I don't shoe patrol. People tend to be respectful enough when they visit and see cream carpet to take shoes off without been asked.

I am sure DD won't give two flying hoots about carpet when she's a toddler.

Ours is a "no shoes" house! And yes, I meant what Gobbler said.

Following on from Igggis thought. I wonder what correlation there might be between people that don't wash their hands post nappy change and those that don't wash their hands after they go to the toilet.

But her ds didn't fancy that. Says it all. Disgusting.

I change DCs wherever they are when at home. It's a no shoes house here though! And ALWAYS wash hands.

These threads rear their ugly heads every now and then, and to this day, it amazes me that people think changing shitty toddler nappies in public spaces is OK.

Feel free to carry on doing it, but just know that normal people are judging you, as socially inept and totally clueless.

Well indeed. Not washing hands is grim. Can you determine whether the people who don't wash hands are more likely to be stander-uppers or sit-downers when wiping?
I feel once all these mumsnet-thread connections are sorted out we may have found the meaning of life here!
Or perhaps I just spending too much of my life on here..

I can't believe that some posters are saying 'On balance, I suppose she was being a bit more unreasonable than you'.

How on earth was the OP at all unreasonable?