not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

[bringbackfonzi]

I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

[WitchWay]

I used to hate this when I met up every week with other mums & babies from my antenatal group. Several of them would change nappies on the lounge floor, on the settee, sometimes on the bloody dining table FFS. I always used the bathroom floor for nappy changes, not least because I could wash my hands!

[cashmiriana]

YANBU


I only ever changed my DC's nappies in the bathroom, with a supply of water and soap for washing my hands before and after, and warm water for cleaning up the baby.

Anything else is just totally grim to me.

And I am very very far from being a neat freak. I just hate the idea of changing without proper hygiene.

[hazeyjane]

I know the friend in the op didn't, but it is possible to wash your hands if you change your child in a room other than the bathroom - honest!

[Darkandstormynight]

YANBU since she asked and you told her bathroom and she ignored. But I'd have hated to change someone on a bathroom floor!! Surely you are not going to hoist a toddler on to a counter?

[Thumbwitch]

I think it's more likely that the posters who are accusing the OP of being precious etc. are the ones who would change their babies/toddlers wherever they felt like it, in whomever's house.

I don't have a no-shoes policy in our home, but will not have pooey nappies anywhere other than in the bathroom/change area (DS2 still has a change table in the bedroom, although that is now used primarily to put clean nappies on him after he's been cleaned up in the bathroom).

[cashmiriana]

I know the friend in the op didn't, but it is possible to wash your hands if you change your child in a room other than the bathroom - honest!

I realise that, but if you're in the bathroom, then nappy contents go straight into the toilet, nappy into bin or bucket as appropriate, and hands are washed before you leave the room. It just strikes me as much more sensible. But then, I never used wipes and stuck to loo roll (flushable) for the worst, then small flannels and warm water for the rest of the clean up.

I also hate mats with nothing absorbent on them, like a towel or muslin. If the baby wees during a change, the wee just runs onto whatever is under the mat, which I find gross, compared to chucking damp towel/muslin into wet laundry bucket or nappy bucket. The thought of someone doing that on my carpet fills me with horror.

Obviously I feel very strongly about this!

[kali110]

Yanbu at all.
She was very rude.

[rumbleinthrjungle]

YANBU.

A friend does this with toddler twins, right in the middle of the living room and the circle of whoever happens to be there, nappies in the kitchen bin, never washes hands afterwards....

bleurrrrghhhh.

[gottachangethename1]

Yanbu. Relatives of mine do this in other people's homes & I think it's awful. In your own home, it's your business where you nappy change, but in someone else's home you should always go to the bathroom. Put the toilet seat down & change them on your lap if necessary.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Yanbu.

[Trazzletoes]

If the baby wees during a change, the wee just runs onto whatever is under the mat, which I find gross,

No it doesn't. It just goes on the mat and then can be wiped up with kitchen roll/ whatever takes your fancy.

I don't use anything absorbent, have nearly 8 years of nappy experience and any wee incidents during change have never gone on the floor.

[weatherall]

I agree with you OP.

Newborn bf poo, ok. 2 1/2 year old is proper shit!

You should have just made a dig at her inability to triolet train her brat!

[BarbarianMum]

If the baby wees during a change and the baby is a boy,the wee forms an arc and sprays across you or the baby or whatever is around you,depending on where things are pointing and unless you are very fast with a muslin

[Sallystyle]

I think it is beyond rude to change your child's nappy in someones living room, especially when they told you where to do it.

Toddler poo is awful at times and I don't want it in my house and would think it was really rude for someone to change a nappy in my living room.

YANBU.

[Sallystyle]

And since when is a two year old a baby?

[xlatia]

YANBU! and i say that as someone who has happily changed her DCs nappies in own living room because i couldn't be bothered to drag them somewhere else. but she asked and you sent her to the bathroom, so fair play to you i'd say.

[JapaneseMargaret]

A baby who drinks only milk, and a toddler on solids are two vastly different creatures.

Toddler poo is human poo.

If you wouldn't shit in the living room with an audience, then why do you somehow think it's OK for your toddler to?

[MagicMojito]

I think yw abit unreasonable in the first place to send her upstairs, however she wbvu and very odd to ask you but then just ignore your answer

Your friend is most defenetly unreasonable and disgusting for not washing her hands

So on balance, you come out of this better than your friend!

[LittlePeaPod]

Why was she unreasonable for sending he upstairs to change the Toddlers nappy? Maybe he should ave sent er outside?

[IShallCallYouSquishy]

Bloody hell YANBU!

I change my 2.1 DD's pooey nappies in the bathroom where said poo can be plopped down the loo. If she ever pooed at someone else's house (though she never does for some reason) I wouldn't even consider asking where to change her, just say "I'm really sorry DD has done a poo, I'm just going to pop to the bathroom with her".

Even 4 mo DS I always ask where to change him and go where I'm told. Some people say "oh just change him here it's fine" and I still double check they're sure!

Plus I NEVER put my nappies in their bins unless they actually say "oh give it here I'll chuck it in the bin". They're double wrapped and put in changing bag to take home.

And p.s. It's a shoes off and of course hands washed house here

[poohbunny]

YANBU! I will never understand why anyone feels it is acceptable to subject other people to such an unpleasant sight and smell when it's really not necessary. When I was a child I remember at family gatherings one of my aunts used to think it was ok to change her children's shitty nappies in the middle of the sitting room floor in front of a room full of relatives, no one knew where to look as, lets face it, looking at poo is not at all pleasant and the smell was unbelievable. I also don't understand people who think it's ok for their children to undergo potty training in living areas and especially when others are eating at the dinner table - another thing I've witnessed numerous times.

[Purplepoodle]

Must admit my friend did the same. I have three under 5 and tend to change them upstairs. Friends son is 3 and his 1 poo a day nappy is the most vile thing ever. I was pregnant at the time and slightly green anyway and it tipped me over the edge.

I conscious of it now so tend to change kids in the bathroom at friends houses

[RockandRollsuicide]

I think its fussy, I can understand you don't like the smell but someone who is a dab hand at it can get it done in seconds.

Potty training is differnet to me somehow....somehting about that I am not keen on...being more loo like i suppose! then having to get it out and dispose..

[RockandRollsuicide]

I was pregnant at the time and slightly green anyway and it tipped me over the edge. Oh no, you poor thing!

[RaspberryRuffle]

OP, YADNBU, I'm quite shocked how many people would change a shitty nappy in someone else' s living room.
My friend did it a few months ago (when I was in kitchen making tea) and came into the kitchen with the shitty nappy, it was gross. Poo smells aren't nice but at least confined to the bathroom they are contained there. I told DH later and he was not amused either. We just thought she was a weird one off and didn't invite her back.
I really really don't like the way people say it's only kids' sick/poo/wee, it still smells. Quite apart from the fact she just ignored your wishes in your own house.

Nearly choked at poster who sid curling one out during Corrie!