not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

[bringbackfonzi]

I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

[Smelsa]

Always so rude, that one.

[dannydyerismydad]

YANBU - bathrooms are for bottoms, not living rooms.

Besides, poo should always go down the loo. Your friend is doubly gross disposing of the full nappy in landfill.

[duckyneedsaclean]

Someone at my house once asked if they could change their toddlers nappy in the sitting room. I said yes obviously.

He proceeded to change a shitty nappy on my dining table while I looked on in horror.

No big deal. Just went detoll crazy when they left.

[morethanpotatoprints]

Er disgusting. At 2.5 that would have been a hum dinger of a nappy.
Agree with above, letting a toddler rule the roost is making a rod for her own back.
YANBU, she asked and you said what you'd prefer.

[slithytove]

This thread has thrown up a question for me.

At what age do you start scraping poo into the toilet? I didn't realise people did this with disposable nappies .

[Thumbwitch]

I already do it and Ds2 is 20mo. I've been doing it since his poos were solid enough to drop out of the nappy into the loo. But I use both disposables and cloth nappies, cloth during the day and dispies at night, so it's more normal for me to chuck the big stuff down the loo.

[Thumbwitch]

That didn't really answer your question as to "when do you start", did it. So it would have been from when he started on solids and started to produce solid poo instead of EBF poo - around 6m.
If he does a complete minger of a poo that isn't in any way solid (happens, we had one today) then it just gets wrapped up and goes straight into the outdoor bin - but in general I try to get rid of most of it down the loo.

[Bluetroublethree]

I have never scraped poo. What do you use as a scraper? Ugh!

[Mintyy]

Use a flushable paper liner in the nappy.

[Mintyy]

Bluetroublethree - what do you think cloth nappy users do??

[slithytove]

Is it bad to just parcel up a nappy and contents and chuck them? We don't tend to get nuggets, more mousse --> sick face

really am quite embarrassed about this.

We change DS at his changing station too, so scraping will necessitate a change in routine. Do most people change nappies in the bathroom once poos are solid? DS is 15 months.

[Thumbwitch]

Yup, I changed from bedroom to bathroom once the nappy contents become flushable. And yes, there is a liner in the nappy, so no actual "scraping" required!! With the disposables, if it doesn't fall off, then it stays on and goes in the bin - if it falls off, it goes down the loo. I'm not that good!

[Bluetroublethree]

No idea Mintyy - I suppose use the liners. But to put a liner in a disposable just seems daft to me.

[Thumbwitch]

I've never put a paper liner in a disposable nappy

[slithytove]

Ah ok, the nappies where the contents fall off are few and far between! I wonder what is worse for the environment, the added poo in the nappy in landfill, or the additional toilet flush and possible use of a liner.

Ahh, the things that consume your mind as a mother!

[paperpeony]

No you're entitled to not smell poop while you're enjoying a gossip.

I've had to deal with a woman changing her kid on her lap in full view of the whole town center of Northampton, big long sloppy wipes, that poor kids 'bits' dangling about, while in full view of the KFC window I was in enjoying my chicken - now that's messed up, definitely don't do that ladies. Breast feeding - go for it. Wiping butts - no.

[Thumbwitch]

Proper liners should degrade eventually (not as quickly as toilet paper or they'd be no use in the nappy!), and I suppose the poo in the landfill will break down into earth eventually. Sort of, anyway.

[OnlyLovers]

YANBU. How rude of her/. And what does that mean, her child 'didn't fancy that'? As the age of 2 and a half, does he dictate many things?

[OnlyLovers]

I don't know where the / came from.

Maybe it was an unconscious pictorial representation of me keeling over in genteel horror at the thought of a massive toddler shitty nappy in someone's living room or just a slip of the finger

[dannydyerismydad]

No need for liners, just a quick dangle of a nappy over the loo - most, if not all of it peels off and falls in by itself.

[RevoltingPeasant]

bluegrass wins the thread

[bringbackfonzi]

So many replies, thank you! In one way though maybe IWU - perhaps I should have been more assertive. Once she'd told me she was going to do it downstairs, I just let her get on with it (and left the room when the smell got too much). But it's hard to say to someone, 'No actually, I really want you to go upstairs to do that', isn't it? She would have been offended and so I just let it go.

[Needaninsight]

I posted earlier that I thought it was unreasonable, and I have two in nappies.

I'm even more 'of this camp' now.

My friend came round yesterday with her 7month old. Needed a nappy change. My 1 yr old was napping in her room, where the baby change is. I suggested she could use the bathroom. She said, nope, it's ok I'll do it here in my lounge

And it was a huge smelly poo. Boak. Even worse she then put offending poo IN MY BIN.

Now, I realise said bin was full of my own twos nappies, but there really is something rank about someone else's dirty nappies in your bin!

Clearly, I also need to be more assertive