not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

[bringbackfonzi]

I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

[ridemesideways]

Oh bollocks!

[ridemesideways]

YANBU, she asked you where, you told her upstairs, she ignored you. Toddler poo is not the same as milky poo. Yuk.

[OhSoggyBiscuit]

If regular toddler's nappies smell so bad, what do zombie toddler's nappies smell of?

[Crazypetlady]

Zombie but I've learned that maybe I should be putting 9 month old ds nappy contents in the toilet. Makes me feel a bit sick

[leelu66]

YANBU. You told her to change it in the bathroom. I would have taken the child to the bathroom without asking him what he fancies! At the very least, I would have asked to change it in a different room.

[Sparklingbrook]

Child in the OP now 4 years old and hopefully using the OP's loo.

[Sallystyle]

ZOMBIE

[Sparklingbrook]

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[KC225]

YANBU

It is disgusting. I found it vile pre kids. And still vile when I had twins. I had two in nappies and never felt the need to inflict the contents on anyone. I am assuming the people calling the poster precious also do it.


I remember a mother changing her baby on the edge of a soft play pit as toddlers climbed in and out. I pointed to the changing rooms and she said 'its easier here' when I complained to a member of staff, she called me a 'fucking busy body'

[Jadebarnes1989]

As she asked and you told her to use the bathroom no I wouldn't say You were being unreasonable. Maybe a little picky but it is your home.
Personally it doesn't bother me if my friends change their kids in the living room I do with my toddler and I see it as a part of the deal when you invite people over with kids. (This is just my opinion I'm not saying people are right or wrong for thinking differently)
It's only poo and it's only a smell open windows or use air freshener in the grand scheme of things there are plenty worse things people could do. X

[SylvaniansKeepGettingHoovered]

My MIL didn't like me changing DD's nappy in her living room on a changing mat when DD was a newborn :-(

[Needaninsight]

I posted earlier that I thought it was unreasonable, and I have two in nappies.

I'm even more 'of this camp' now.

My friend came round yesterday with her 7month old. Needed a nappy change. My 1 yr old was napping in her room, where the baby change is. I suggested she could use the bathroom. She said, nope, it's ok I'll do it here in my lounge

And it was a huge smelly poo. Boak. Even worse she then put offending poo IN MY BIN.

Now, I realise said bin was full of my own twos nappies, but there really is something rank about someone else's dirty nappies in your bin!

Clearly, I also need to be more assertive

[bringbackfonzi]

So many replies, thank you! In one way though maybe IWU - perhaps I should have been more assertive. Once she'd told me she was going to do it downstairs, I just let her get on with it (and left the room when the smell got too much). But it's hard to say to someone, 'No actually, I really want you to go upstairs to do that', isn't it? She would have been offended and so I just let it go.

[RevoltingPeasant]

bluegrass wins the thread

[dannydyerismydad]

No need for liners, just a quick dangle of a nappy over the loo - most, if not all of it peels off and falls in by itself.

[OnlyLovers]

I don't know where the / came from.

Maybe it was an unconscious pictorial representation of me keeling over in genteel horror at the thought of a massive toddler shitty nappy in someone's living room or just a slip of the finger

[OnlyLovers]

YANBU. How rude of her/. And what does that mean, her child 'didn't fancy that'? As the age of 2 and a half, does he dictate many things?

[Thumbwitch]

Proper liners should degrade eventually (not as quickly as toilet paper or they'd be no use in the nappy!), and I suppose the poo in the landfill will break down into earth eventually. Sort of, anyway.

[paperpeony]

No you're entitled to not smell poop while you're enjoying a gossip.

I've had to deal with a woman changing her kid on her lap in full view of the whole town center of Northampton, big long sloppy wipes, that poor kids 'bits' dangling about, while in full view of the KFC window I was in enjoying my chicken - now that's messed up, definitely don't do that ladies. Breast feeding - go for it. Wiping butts - no.

[slithytove]

Ah ok, the nappies where the contents fall off are few and far between! I wonder what is worse for the environment, the added poo in the nappy in landfill, or the additional toilet flush and possible use of a liner.

Ahh, the things that consume your mind as a mother!

[Thumbwitch]

I've never put a paper liner in a disposable nappy

[Bluetroublethree]

No idea Mintyy - I suppose use the liners. But to put a liner in a disposable just seems daft to me.

[Thumbwitch]

Yup, I changed from bedroom to bathroom once the nappy contents become flushable. And yes, there is a liner in the nappy, so no actual "scraping" required!! With the disposables, if it doesn't fall off, then it stays on and goes in the bin - if it falls off, it goes down the loo. I'm not that good!

[slithytove]

Is it bad to just parcel up a nappy and contents and chuck them? We don't tend to get nuggets, more mousse --> sick face

really am quite embarrassed about this.

We change DS at his changing station too, so scraping will necessitate a change in routine. Do most people change nappies in the bathroom once poos are solid? DS is 15 months.

[Mintyy]

Bluetroublethree - what do you think cloth nappy users do??