not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

[bringbackfonzi]

I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

[angeltulips]

ECONOMY CLASS airline seat in front of me last weekend

It was revolting

(Sorry for multiple posts, was worked up by the disgustingness of it)

[Mintyy]

BillyBobbed - did you read the op where it says the child is 2 and a half? Like in the very first sentence?

[bringbackfonzi]

Hi, yes Mintyy, if it had been a young baby I don't think I would have minded but at 2 and a half poo is real poo.

[Flipflops7]

YANBU. A friend did this on my new chair more than 20 years ago and that was it for the friendship.

[Only1scoop]

Yanbu at all

I never even changed my own dd in my sitting room so no one else is gna be....

[Only1scoop]

And it grosses me out on aircraft seats also....

[Pregnantberry]

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, I wouldn't even consider doing the same in someone else's house unless they were all "oh, don't worry, just do it here so we can carry on chatting". I am surprised so many people apparently think that this is acceptable when you're a guest in someone's home.

[milkysmum]

Sorry I'm in the yabu camp!

[Bluetroublethree]

YANBU. Not even a bit.

[Bluetroublethree]

It's amazing how people desensitise to their own child's emissions.

[emms1981]

Could it gag a maggot?

[bringbackfonzi]

milkysmum elaborate a bit. You think IABU because it would have been a hassle or might have prompted a tantrum if she had gone upstairs? This is a genuine question - I'm honestly not sure if IWBU or not (though a bit more sure not after all these replies...).

[indigo18]

YA most definitely not being U! A two an a half year old child's poo stinks the same as an adult's. I just cannot understand why people feel it is ok to do this in their own home, never mind someone else's. I am astounded that some people think this is ok. Why on earth would anyone want to smell/see your child's shit??? Just why? It's lazy and disrespectful of your friend. If she can't control her child she should go home.

[CouldntGiveAMonkeysToss]

YANBU. It doesn't bother me when friends change toddler nappies in my living room (though it does stink) but I realise that most people understandably don't tolerate shit smells in their living room so I always ask when visiting someone elses house where I can change my ds' s nappy. Your friend was being an inconsiderate arse.

[KoalaDownUnder]

YANBU!!

I am gobsmacked that anybody thinks YABU, frankly. Why the hell is it okay to expose someone to your child's shit, in their own home? When they've asked you to use the bathroom?

This is one of the rudest things I've ever seen justified on MN.

[Staywithme]

I can't believe how many people think that changing a nappy in your living room, after being asked to do it upstairs, is acceptable. Just because the smell of her toddler's nappy is fine to her does not give her the right to disregard your wishes and be so bloody rude. At what stage is she going to say that she's in charge NOT the child. Temper tantrum or not, she should have taken the child upstairs.

[slithytove]

Yanbu, I don't even change my own babies nappy in the living room when I have people round, it reeks!

Shit is for the loo. Not the living room.

Plus she ignored you after asking which is ignorant and defeats the point of asking to begin with.

[Poussay]

YANBU!!!

The mum was really really rude. You told her where to do it and she just went ahead - so cheeky.

No one wants to smell shit in their living room.

[KarlWrenbury]

Yabu. Smell goes

[Looseleaf]

Yanbu. I wouldn't have thought it a big deal personally as easy-going in general but think enough replies here show quite a few people would mind and that she could have gone where you suggested.

I reckon most people would have gone upstairs with a toddler unless unusually tired and not thinking straight or v v relaxed with a friend they knew well eg if knew you'd change your own toddler in the sitting room!

[bragmatic]

Yech. YANBU.

[WanderingTrolley1]

Yanbu.

Toddler poop is foul. She should have taken the brat to the bathroom, as directed.

[Thumbwitch]

YANBU - it's disgusting.
I don't change my own children anywhere other than in a toilet/bathroom area, I don't expect anyone else to use my living room as a toilet/bathroom facility!

So she used a change mat - what if he'd decided to do a runner? Or roll away? Then you'd have poo on the living room floor. Gak!

She was rude to ignore your suggestion too.

[OddFodd]

YANBU. Shit belongs in the bathroom, not the living room

[LittlePeaPod]

YANBU.. Your house, your rules.

I don't even change my own baby's nappy in our living room. I would be disgusted if someone thought it appropriate to change a two year old on my living room floor. Regardless of whether they asked or not. It's rude!