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AIBU?

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Original poster

not to want my friend to change her ds's dirty nappy in my sitting room?

211 replies

bringbackfonzi · 29/06/2014 23:15

I had a nice friend of mine over today with her ds, who's 2 and a half. When her ds needed a nappy change, she asked where she should change him and I suggested upstairs in the bathroom. But her ds didn't fancy that so she did it on the sitting room floor (on changing mat). I wouldn't have minded if it was just a wet nappy, but a dirty and really smelly one?! I'm afraid it really grossed me out and the smell lingered for ages. My own dc's dirty nappies don't bother me at all, but this did. AIBU and too fussy?

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angeltulips · 29/06/2014 23:31

ECONOMY CLASS airline seat in front of me last weekend

It was revolting

(Sorry for multiple posts, was worked up by the disgustingness of it)

Mintyy · 29/06/2014 23:34

BillyBobbed - did you read the op where it says the child is 2 and a half? Like in the very first sentence?

Original poster
bringbackfonzi · 29/06/2014 23:37

Hi, yes Mintyy, if it had been a young baby I don't think I would have minded but at 2 and a half poo is real poo.

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Flipflops7 · 29/06/2014 23:41

YANBU. A friend did this on my new chair more than 20 years ago and that was it for the friendship.

Only1scoop · 29/06/2014 23:41

Yanbu at all

I never even changed my own dd in my sitting room so no one else is gna be....

Only1scoop · 29/06/2014 23:42

And it grosses me out on aircraft seats also....

Pregnantberry · 29/06/2014 23:45

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, I wouldn't even consider doing the same in someone else's house unless they were all "oh, don't worry, just do it here so we can carry on chatting". I am surprised so many people apparently think that this is acceptable when you're a guest in someone's home. Confused

milkysmum · 29/06/2014 23:45

Sorry I'm in the yabu camp!

Bluetroublethree · 29/06/2014 23:45

YANBU. Not even a bit.

Bluetroublethree · 29/06/2014 23:46

It's amazing how people desensitise to their own child's emissions.

emms1981 · 29/06/2014 23:49

Could it gag a maggot?

Original poster
bringbackfonzi · 29/06/2014 23:50

milkysmum elaborate a bit. You think IABU because it would have been a hassle or might have prompted a tantrum if she had gone upstairs? This is a genuine question - I'm honestly not sure if IWBU or not (though a bit more sure not after all these replies...).

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indigo18 · 30/06/2014 01:05

YA most definitely not being U! A two an a half year old child's poo stinks the same as an adult's. I just cannot understand why people feel it is ok to do this in their own home, never mind someone else's. I am astounded that some people think this is ok. Why on earth would anyone want to smell/see your child's shit??? Just why? It's lazy and disrespectful of your friend. If she can't control her child she should go home.

CouldntGiveAMonkeysToss · 30/06/2014 01:17

YANBU. It doesn't bother me when friends change toddler nappies in my living room (though it does stink) but I realise that most people understandably don't tolerate shit smells in their living room so I always ask when visiting someone elses house where I can change my ds' s nappy. Your friend was being an inconsiderate arse.

KoalaDownUnder · 30/06/2014 01:25

YANBU!!

I am gobsmacked that anybody thinks YABU, frankly. Why the hell is it okay to expose someone to your child's shit, in their own home? When they've asked you to use the bathroom? Confused

This is one of the rudest things I've ever seen justified on MN.

Staywithme · 30/06/2014 01:34

I can't believe how many people think that changing a nappy in your living room, after being asked to do it upstairs, is acceptable. Just because the smell of her toddler's nappy is fine to her does not give her the right to disregard your wishes and be so bloody rude. At what stage is she going to say that she's in charge NOT the child. Temper tantrum or not, she should have taken the child upstairs.

slithytove · 30/06/2014 01:34

Yanbu, I don't even change my own babies nappy in the living room when I have people round, it reeks!

Shit is for the loo. Not the living room.

Plus she ignored you after asking which is ignorant and defeats the point of asking to begin with.

Poussay · 30/06/2014 01:46

YANBU!!!

The mum was really really rude. You told her where to do it and she just went ahead - so cheeky.

No one wants to smell shit in their living room.

KarlWrenbury · 30/06/2014 01:47

Yabu. Smell goes

Looseleaf · 30/06/2014 03:20

Yanbu. I wouldn't have thought it a big deal personally as easy-going in general but think enough replies here show quite a few people would mind and that she could have gone where you suggested.

I reckon most people would have gone upstairs with a toddler unless unusually tired and not thinking straight or v v relaxed with a friend they knew well eg if knew you'd change your own toddler in the sitting room!

bragmatic · 30/06/2014 03:41

Yech. YANBU.

WanderingTrolley1 · 30/06/2014 04:20

Yanbu.

Toddler poop is foul. She should have taken the brat to the bathroom, as directed.

Thumbwitch · 30/06/2014 05:07

YANBU - it's disgusting.
I don't change my own children anywhere other than in a toilet/bathroom area, I don't expect anyone else to use my living room as a toilet/bathroom facility!

So she used a change mat - what if he'd decided to do a runner? Or roll away? Then you'd have poo on the living room floor. Gak!

She was rude to ignore your suggestion too.

OddFodd · 30/06/2014 05:15

YANBU. Shit belongs in the bathroom, not the living room

LittlePeaPod · 30/06/2014 05:54

YANBU.. Your house, your rules.

I don't even change my own baby's nappy in our living room. I would be disgusted if someone thought it appropriate to change a two year old on my living room floor. Regardless of whether they asked or not. It's rude!