To take breastfed DD with me to training?

[whynowblowwind]

I got a job the other day :) but I have to do a course on safeguarding. This lasts about 3 hours from approximately 9-12.

DD is 2 months; she is exclusively breastfed at the moment. I am wondering what to do about this course and wondered if I could just take her with me? It's quite am informal course they said and there will only be about 5 or 6 of us in total.

Alternatively I could ask a friend to have her but she won't take a bottle at the moment and still feeds very frequently.

What's best?

For only 3 hours, once? Get friend to look after baby.

I wouldn't just turn up with the baby without asking first. In my job it wouldn't be acceptable as they would be concerned that you wouldn't be concentrating 100% and would be worried about her disrupting the others if she cries or needs changing etc.

Can you not delay the course until you are more confident to leave dd?

Presumably you will need to start making plans for leaving her to go to work?

Oh, I'd definitely check first! I wouldn't just show up with her.

Aga the problem is I'd have to drag friend down from an hour or so away and she's just not that into babies ... So I COULD as a last resort but it's not ideal.

I had to do something similar at work when my DS was a few months. My Dad actually came with me and took my DS for a walk in the park and then to a cafe. I had my phone so if DS was desperate my Dad could bring him round for a feed and then take him away again. It was actually fine as I fed DS just before I went in and then again when I came out. If the training's near to home then would be even easier. I don't think I'd actually take your DD to your training though; it doesn't seem very professional.

I took DD with me to all my OU tutorials when she was a baby. Then again, I was studying Inclusive Education so they couldn't exactly exclude me or her, could they?

I'll only be doing about 8 hours a week, it's agency work for a care agency so I'll do an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening, you see.

You need to ask the people providing the training, not MN.

How will you manage when you start your job though?

I don't think it would be fair on the others to have a baby there to distract them and disrupt proceedings. Babies are lovely but a professional environment is not the place for them, or any kids.

I would totally take the baby - but check first, as you say.

Don't ask us - ask the tutor!

Have you started the job yet? If so yabu and will have to make arrangements. if they are asking you to do a course a few months before you start then I think you may have a bit of a case, but I'm afraid it would still seem rather unprofessional.

Worra I'll literally be doing an hour in the morning and one in the evening, just doing breakfast and bed for a lady in my village.

I will hopefully increase my hours as dd gets older but it's just the safeguarding training is mandatory and I don't really have anyone to have her, although I could ask my friend she'd be a bit eye rolly, I'm almost certain she would though.

Do you have a dh /dp?

Ahh that makes sense.

I really don't think they'd be happy with a baby there though, in case of disruption. Also, I'm sure you'd find it hard to concentrate too.

Is there a creche at the training place?

No, for a one-off I don't think it's appropriate. The difference with tutorials etc at uni is that the other people in attendance get used to the baby being there and it ceases to be a distraction. If I went to a one-off session and there was a baby there I would keep staring at it. Because I love babies.

There'll be a break in the middle at some point. Get Dfriend to bring baby and sit in a nearby coffee shop. You can either nip out to feed during the break or ask permission to leave to go feed her if it's necessary.

Based on my DS as a baby I would've said no way. However, I was at a 5 hour training course yesterday that someone brought a little one to and it didn't disrupt it at all. Depends on your baby and if the tutor is ok with it

No, I don't think it's appropriate. Everyone will be cooing over your gorgeous baby and not concentrating on the course.

Thanks - there isn't a crèche, as the agency is just run from a home type place and the training is upstairs. So I did think I could feasibly bring a rocker and she'd probably sleep through mostly. I'll ask tomorrow, though.

I've got a DH but he will just whinge!

Agree with Idont. Can't you express and ask a friend

No, she doesn't take a bottle.

What do you mean, your dh will just whinge?

It's inappropriate and unfair on the others if she doesn't settle.

When do you start the job and who will have dd when at work?

I'd expect the DH to do it. It's only 3 hours.

He'd have to book a morning off work, and he'd whinge about it as he'd have to sit in a cafe or something near where the training was so I could nip out to feed her, and to be honest I don't think he would anyway but that is a WHOLE other thread!