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Original poster

To take breastfed DD with me to training?

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 17:39

I got a job the other day :) but I have to do a course on safeguarding. This lasts about 3 hours from approximately 9-12.

DD is 2 months; she is exclusively breastfed at the moment. I am wondering what to do about this course and wondered if I could just take her with me? It's quite am informal course they said and there will only be about 5 or 6 of us in total.

Alternatively I could ask a friend to have her but she won't take a bottle at the moment and still feeds very frequently.

What's best?

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AgaPanthers · 11/06/2014 17:41

For only 3 hours, once? Get friend to look after baby.

magpiegin · 11/06/2014 17:41

I wouldn't just turn up with the baby without asking first. In my job it wouldn't be acceptable as they would be concerned that you wouldn't be concentrating 100% and would be worried about her disrupting the others if she cries or needs changing etc.

Samedaydifferentusername · 11/06/2014 17:46

Can you not delay the course until you are more confident to leave dd?

Presumably you will need to start making plans for leaving her to go to work?

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 17:46

Oh, I'd definitely check first! I wouldn't just show up with her.

Aga the problem is I'd have to drag friend down from an hour or so away and she's just not that into babies ... So I COULD as a last resort but it's not ideal.

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GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 11/06/2014 17:47

I had to do something similar at work when my DS was a few months. My Dad actually came with me and took my DS for a walk in the park and then to a cafe. I had my phone so if DS was desperate my Dad could bring him round for a feed and then take him away again. It was actually fine as I fed DS just before I went in and then again when I came out. If the training's near to home then would be even easier. I don't think I'd actually take your DD to your training though; it doesn't seem very professional.

InMySpareTime · 11/06/2014 17:47

I took DD with me to all my OU tutorials when she was a baby. Then again, I was studying Inclusive Education so they couldn't exactly exclude me or her, could they?

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 17:47

I'll only be doing about 8 hours a week, it's agency work for a care agency so I'll do an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening, you see.

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WorraLiberty · 11/06/2014 17:48

You need to ask the people providing the training, not MN.

How will you manage when you start your job though?

FloozeyLoozey · 11/06/2014 17:48

I don't think it would be fair on the others to have a baby there to distract them and disrupt proceedings. Babies are lovely but a professional environment is not the place for them, or any kids.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 11/06/2014 17:49

I would totally take the baby - but check first, as you say.

FunkyBoldRibena · 11/06/2014 17:49

Don't ask us - ask the tutor!

hippo123 · 11/06/2014 17:49

Have you started the job yet? If so yabu and will have to make arrangements. if they are asking you to do a course a few months before you start then I think you may have a bit of a case, but I'm afraid it would still seem rather unprofessional.

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 17:50

Worra I'll literally be doing an hour in the morning and one in the evening, just doing breakfast and bed for a lady in my village.

I will hopefully increase my hours as dd gets older but it's just the safeguarding training is mandatory and I don't really have anyone to have her, although I could ask my friend she'd be a bit eye rolly, I'm almost certain she would though.

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hippo123 · 11/06/2014 17:51

Do you have a dh /dp?

WorraLiberty · 11/06/2014 17:53

Ahh that makes sense.

I really don't think they'd be happy with a baby there though, in case of disruption. Also, I'm sure you'd find it hard to concentrate too.

Is there a creche at the training place?

TheCraicDealer · 11/06/2014 17:54

No, for a one-off I don't think it's appropriate. The difference with tutorials etc at uni is that the other people in attendance get used to the baby being there and it ceases to be a distraction. If I went to a one-off session and there was a baby there I would keep staring at it. Because I love babies.

There'll be a break in the middle at some point. Get Dfriend to bring baby and sit in a nearby coffee shop. You can either nip out to feed during the break or ask permission to leave to go feed her if it's necessary.

MsMessyandtheTidyBoys · 11/06/2014 17:55

Based on my DS as a baby I would've said no way. However, I was at a 5 hour training course yesterday that someone brought a little one to and it didn't disrupt it at all. Depends on your baby and if the tutor is ok with it

idontlikealdi · 11/06/2014 17:59

No, I don't think it's appropriate. Everyone will be cooing over your gorgeous baby and not concentrating on the course.

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 18:05

Thanks - there isn't a crèche, as the agency is just run from a home type place and the training is upstairs. So I did think I could feasibly bring a rocker and she'd probably sleep through mostly. I'll ask tomorrow, though.

I've got a DH but he will just whinge!

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londonrach · 11/06/2014 18:07

Agree with Idont. Can't you express and ask a friend

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 18:08

No, she doesn't take a bottle.

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Fairenuff · 11/06/2014 18:09

What do you mean, your dh will just whinge?

Figster · 11/06/2014 18:10

It's inappropriate and unfair on the others if she doesn't settle.

When do you start the job and who will have dd when at work?

thenightsky · 11/06/2014 18:10

I'd expect the DH to do it. It's only 3 hours.

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whynowblowwind · 11/06/2014 18:11

He'd have to book a morning off work, and he'd whinge about it as he'd have to sit in a cafe or something near where the training was so I could nip out to feed her, and to be honest I don't think he would anyway but that is a WHOLE other thread!

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