To take breastfed DD with me to training?

[whynowblowwind]

I got a job the other day :) but I have to do a course on safeguarding. This lasts about 3 hours from approximately 9-12.

DD is 2 months; she is exclusively breastfed at the moment. I am wondering what to do about this course and wondered if I could just take her with me? It's quite am informal course they said and there will only be about 5 or 6 of us in total.

Alternatively I could ask a friend to have her but she won't take a bottle at the moment and still feeds very frequently.

What's best?

[whynowblowwind]

Lol don't apologise am quite glad the heats off me :)

[Funnyfoot]

That poster has since apologised to you on the name changing thread
I actually prefer your new name much more unique

[PhaedraIsMyName]

FunnyFoot thank you for letting me know. I suspected that but got a big telling off from someone for asking my namesake why she'd picked a name only 1 figure different.

Just read the rest of the thread , glad OP has sorted it out.

[Funnyfoot]

Phaedra

Sorry going of topic here but.

I am afraid you old NN is lost forever. Caitlin177 was a troll of the worse kind. .

Again apologise for hijacking the thread.

[PhaedraIsMyName]

YABU. If I were running it I'd think you weren't taking the training seriously.

[Virgolia]

Saw your update, I'm glad your friend is helping you - bet thats a weight off your mind.


and sorry but I do agree with chipped. I don't think Weather's comments were rude or mean at all, the responses were disproportionate but maybe understandable at this time.

[Virgolia]

I've been on a lot of these mandatory training courses and to be honest I wouldn't have wanted a baby there. It can be really difficult to concentrate, even if they are a quiet baby. And it wouldn't be fair on you either because you wouldn't be able to put your all into it.

There's a lot of mandatory training in care work which needs updating regularly so I think you need to think about that (if you chose to pursue it) like most people have to do food hygiene, health and safety, infection control, first aid, fire awareness etc. It wouldn't be doable without childcare in place.

It must be really hard for you, but getting something in place in regards to childcare is a must. As a care assistant things always pop up, calls to go out, emergencies, sometimes jobs can take much longer than you anticipate, hospital visits...

[Weathergames]

I spoke as a manager of volunteers.

I am a bit "wow" at some of the responses here.

I have not been unreasonable, sworn, or said anything that is untrue or unfair.

Good luck in the real world - of employment.

[fluffyraggies]

If posters can clearly see that an OP is sensitive at present or feeling emotional (and they could clearly see that, because they said as much) then why haven't they the nouse to adjust their responses accordingly? Or back off entirely when asked? Can posters really not see when a person is in free-fall and doesn't need any more 'well meant criticism'?

Banging on regardless until someone becomes tearful and demoralised, whilst telling them they're being over sensitive is a shitty way to carry on. ''becasue it's AIBU'' and ''you did ask'' is no excuse. It's like a playground here sometimes :(

Best best best of luck OP. I wish i'd seen your thread yesterday and could have added to the voices of support when you needed it.

Keep your chin up and carry on. SO pleased to read that you can do the course

[CelticPromise]

I would ask. If it's just a sit down informal training I can't see how a baby would be disruptive. I've done plenty of training related to bf support where babies are welcome. It's always been fine and I think babies should be welcome in more places.

[WaxyDaisy]

I agree with elphaba. I know people who have done training with their bf baby without being distracting or unprofessional and with the training provider's blessing. I have also worked and know plenty of others who have too with more than one under 1 yr old exclusively bf baby. Two separate employers of mine have been very accommodating in different ways. My experience is that men are far less fussed and angsty than other professional women.

[PrincessBabyCat]

I worked a corporate office job and people would bring in their children for the day. It was fine. No one batted an eye or cared. Why would they have? It's not like they let their kids run amok screeching like godless little heathens.

If the baby is quiet and you take her out when she cries, it will be fine. In fact, I'm sure the other people would fuss over her and say hi. :)

[Lucyccfc]

Just for the record, whilst safeguarding training is mandatory, CQC do not have any requirements for how often it needs to be refreshed. It's entirely up to each individual company to decide.

Well done Whynowblowind on sorting out your friend to mind your baby and congratulations on the job. It's great that you want to work and are doing part time hours that you can increase as baby gets older.

Please do not let any negative posts on here get you down or knock your confidence.

Good luck

[Chippednailvarnish]

I'm with Scarlett, people may have been blunt but the OP's responses have been disproportionate.

[ElphabaTheGreen]

It matters when someone says you have to take a year off work if you choose to EBF. I did not take a year off work, and I EBFed.

And I think Weather was being incredibly unreasonable and beyond blunt. I appear to be in the minority on that one, but I think some agree, and I can totally see why the OP was upset.

[ScarlettlovesRhett]

I don't think weather was rude or passive aggressive at all. She gave her opinion, as is the nature of explaining why she would not do what the OP was asking about.

The OP responses (imo) were quite unnecessarily emotive at some points and disproportionate ("I won't take the job then" being an example).

It matters not if someone was still bf up to 17 months and working, or even at 8 months. Presumably you could leave your child for 3 hours at that point with no drama - the OP can't as the baby is only 2 months old.

I'm pleased that the OP has sorted it all out so that she can go to the course, obviously, but it is unfair to have a pop at posters on this thread who have been perfectly reasonable (if a little blunt).

[ElphabaTheGreen]

Very glad you've gone back to taking the job, OP

Weathergames The OP is not being overly sensitive. You, however, have been extremely unpleasant. I would also have been upset by your comments and I'm in no way the delicate flower you're making the OP out to be. There is 'being frank', and there is being 'passive aggressive'. Calling the OP a child in an opening sentence, then saying you are being 'kindly' and 'polite' in the same post is the latter. I also think telling the OP to take a year off or choose between EBFing and working is bang out of order. I EBFed my son til six months and he was a total, TOTAL bottle refuser despite us trying every trick in the book (including leaving him with a bottle and other people I might add), and still remained so when I went back to work FULL TIME when he was eight months old. I still continued to BF him until he was 17 months old. You are not the expert you think you are. Further to that, I also have to do safeguarding annually, not every three years - I'm clinical staff in the NHS, and this has been the case in three very geographically separate trusts I have worked for. In recent years we have only done the training online because, really, it's not brain surgery and the occasional distraction of a tiny baby is not going to be the difference between life and death, especially not for someone who has done it annually before.

Best of luck OP. I hope the job works out for you and you find the physical and emotional resources you require to do what you need to do about your 'D'H.

[ilovesooty]

I'm glad you're going after all.

[Funnyfoot]

Actually I don't think anyone was rude tbh wiggly. Yes they gave their opinions because OP asked for them but at no point did anyone swear or make rude comments. Some said they thought it to be unprofessional to ask.

Please find me a rude comment directed at the OP. Cos I cannot see one.

[wigglylines]

"The care agency rang me at 10 today and said bringing dd wouldn't be a problem"

Brilliant, great you've got that option just in case you need it.

So, are all the people who were so rude to the OP, told her it wouldn't be allowed, and that she shouldn't ask, going to come back and apologise to her then?

[whynowblowwind]

Oh gosh - wouldn't wish thinking about me all the time on my worst enemy

DH is away now until Monday night so friend is staying :)

[Breakhardthewishbone]

Oh I am so pleased! Have been thinking of you all day.
Well done :)

[Funnyfoot]

Hello OP.

Good to hear you are more positive. Also very good to hear you are still going on the course. I think it is fantastic that your employers are accommodating sounds like working for them will be ideal for you.

I hope all goes well on the course.

[whynowblowwind]

Thanks :) feel a little more positive today - I have arranged my friend to have DD. The care agency rang me at 10 today and said bringing dd wouldn't be a problem, but I'd been chatting to friend who is going to come and care for dd next week for a few hours, it'll be nice to see friend too.

[BettyFlour]

*care company