Important bits:
DS is not his, though we've been together for 1 1/2yrs and since DS was 1 1/2 (he's now 3 and a bit).
I'm 25 he's 29. I live alone with DS and he lives with his parents (had a shit job for most of his twenties and just never 'got it together').
DP/BF says lots of (what I feel are) sweet nothings about us being a family and DS being like his own etc etc. He wants us to move in together, would love to be a dad in the next 5ish years...
I know what I signed up for with DS. I've been a lone parent since pregnancy. But I find myself feeling really resentful that DP/BF plays sport two nights a week and one weekend-day then often has a guys night too. I can't really arrange to go out at myself unless it's far in advance (and it's not really about that tbh). I just feel so acutely aware of 'being' a single parent when he's off doing his stuff. It never used to bother me when I was single.
It also goes against a lot of the stuff he says about us being a family etc. If we're likely to have a bad night he stays home. I have a cervical infection from treatment last week and DS is ill so he just popped in briefly (and fell asleep on the sofa for 2hrs) before going home to get an early one. He doesn't deal with the bad behaviour or do the other boring parent stuff. Or anything remotely resembling housework, despite staying here a lot. Just plays with him. So I find it hard not to roll my eyes when he says he feels like DS's parent 
He is nice generally. He does love me/DS. But I certainly wouldn't want a child with him (too high a risk of ending up a single mum of two) and wonder if being nice isn't enough if you resent them? It's not healthy is it? I can't really help feeling that way, other than making sure I keep seeing my own friends/doing my own thing within my limits.
I just feel so crap about it this last month or so.
AIBU?
to resent BF for his ability to bugger off and sleep/do hobbies/see friends when I'm stuck at home with DS?
LuckyLannister · 08/06/2014 21:06
Oh my god 
That's ridiculous 
I know, I blocked his family from fb as I had a strong feeling they'd get involved.
It did make me sad to read it but then I just felt angry that he'd tried to manipulate a response out of me that way. Backfired on him really.
I think that's it anyway.
After the one I sent saying don't contact me again I got a 'wow Lucky, I guess it's really it this time' no shit
I won't reply again anyway but I think the penny finally dropped.
Hopefully that's that and I can get on with the nice weekend we have planned with friends and family and just try to forget about it all! 
No more messages. I think that's it.
Curled up with a DVD and some lovely dinner I made (which he didn't eat 2/3rds of)!
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