My gob is well and truly smacked - AIBU to think this is the grabbiest thing ever?

[WhatTheActualFuckIsThis]

I received an event invite via Facebook recently, along with roughly 100 other people. No event is actually taking place, it's described as 'virtual'.

It's from a couple who have decided never to get married or have children. They go on to explain they've enjoyed celebrating their friends' big occasions over the years and they consider their recent building work to their house to be the equivalent. A gift list has been attached. There is nothing on the gift list worth less than £30, apart from the option to send a voucher starting from £1.

I should mention that I've never met this couple before. I don't consider them to be friends or even acquaintances. The people invited are mostly from the same tight-knit internet community that has drifted apart in recent years. I've never had so much as a PM or a private conversation with either of them.

I am not alone in my 'WTAF?' moment and a friend who was also invited to the 'event' described it as the exact opposite of when you're invited to a wedding and people say they value presence over presents.

So... I throw it open to you, Mumsnet. Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is the grabbiest thing ever?

Lurking on this thread but had to congratulate vlad on the amazing poem! It would have taken me ages to come up with something like that!!

Right, I got an invite too. She's a fruitloop clearly. The gift list includes a duvet, some flannel sheets and a laundry basket.

Ooooh, my DH does WOW (he's working away just now) I wonder if he's had an invite?

I'm starting to feel left out. How much is WoW again? If there are any other future grabby virtual events I want to be in on that shit ASAP.

So some really boring run of the mill setting up home together type wedding gifts? I wonder did they have one too many wines while watching sex and the city and think ......HEY I KNOW lets do this!

Has anyone spoken to her since she's posted her invite to the virtual non wedding party?

Our life changing decisions were to get a puppy and build a loft.

HA HA HA HA HA HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA .....this is golden.

Grabby, you beauty! It's actually slightly more gracious that i thought it would be. Can you only have one weekend in London or does the amount of nights increase incrementally with how much you buy them?

"Is it a wedding? Is it a baby? No, it's a loft!"

Dearie dearie me (walks away, shaking head)

Oh my days!!

But what it's this glorious online community? I love a virtual friendship!

Erm! So they have the list, but so far nothing has been purchased for them!

Seriously! Underground knobs??

Ummm.... so. There's a real name on that list.

Is that a good thing?

"Is it a wedding? Is it a baby? No, it's a loft!"
^^ actual (not virtual) snort at that!

then I started reading the list - OMG - London transport door knobs? and other tatt luxuries

Oh thankyou so much for the links :)
I must say though, I think it's been written completely tongue in cheek! I genuinely don't believe they think for a minute they'll get any of that wishlist. And it's a pretty boring wishlist at that!

OMG, I though that "Is it a wedding? Is it a baby? No, it's a loft!"
was a quote from another poster, but they actually called their grabbylist this???

But yes, there is a name on that wishlist...

Brilliant :) Also marking place... Come on Non-Bridal Hostess.. Up you pitch!

Quick FB search only brings up 3 people with that name. One has a pic of a wedding and another with a kid, which only leaves the one remaining so that's pretty much outed the grabber.

So who's going to link this thread to the link?

I didn't post a link to the list because it identifies the person. I've reported the post with the link for that reason, hopefully Mumsnet can remove it sharpish.

If anyone is clever enough to post the gift list without the name though, do that.

We're not WoWers, by the way. I never said we were, that was another poster's speculation.

(I quite like the London Transport knobs )

But yes, the person in question is quite easily identifiable on FB OP so maybe you better delete the link?

oops sorry WhatTheActual we were obvs posting at the same time

I can't delete links to anything. I have reported all posts that lead to identifying information. I hope they get deleted quickly, it's not at all fair to have that information out there.

I'm struggling to understand the leap of logic from "I have bought many wedding presents in the past" to "random people I don't know in real life should buy me presents".