to be upset my friend didn't acknowledge my save the date card?

[clapofthunder]

So I hand delivered a few of my save the date cards (as it was only a walk around the small town I live in).

I knocked on my friends door and no-one answered so I posted it instead. 2 weeks later I still haven't heard anything.

We went for a drink with a group of mutual friends so I asked her then if she got it and the only reply I got back yeah - "oh yeah I did thanks"

Aibu to think she could have acknowledged it?

YABU

What did you expect? Weddings aren't v interesting.

Are you meant to? I never did, well not formally anyway. Maybe if I definitely couldn't make it....

I've never received one of these, so I don't know the etiquette - are you supposed to RSVP, or are they just so people can pencil the date in on their calendar, or are people supposed to commit to coming when they get the save the date card?

Maybe a wee bit precious.

It's not even an invitation, so how did you want her to respond?

Other people's weddings are ultimately not that interesting.

YABU. A Save the Date card does not need any response.

YABU, I consider save the date cards to be for information only and I wouldn't consider replying to one.

YABU, it wouldn't occur to me to respond, it's nit the invitation.

Save the date cards are to let people know to not book themselves up on a holiday or something - they aren't actual invitations.

YABU

Assuming that she already knew you were getting married and vaguely when it was, then YABU as there isn't really anything else to day at this stage! It wasn't even the invitation.

We got a 'save the date' card through our letter box.

Very clearly the couple to be barely know the person they wanted to send the card to as they definitely don't live in our house and there was no name on the card.

Honestly, I have never heard of save the date cards. Why not just send an invite to the wedding or even just email/text them?

YABU. It wasn't an invitation you gave her just a request!

Phew - thought I was making another faux pas that people were to polite to tell me about +

Did you ask for an RSVP?

sheesh

I'm new to this.

Why have an STD ratherthan am iinvitation?

YABU I'm sure she'll reply when she gets the actual invite.

Well.

That reads badly.

I suppose depending in the context you might expect to hear from her, if she hadn't been aware you were getting married, or maybe if you had chosen a date to fit around her commitments? Otherwise, it's not something I'd acknowledge.

Chaos I'd much prefer an invitation to an STD, anytime.

that sentance reads fantastically in a different context chaos

WTF? You have to acknowledge save the date now? Surely simply SAVING the date and then replying to the actual invite is enough?

YABU, STDs (hmm, perhaps an unfortunate abbreviation) do not require a reply. If it was the first she'd heard if your impending nuptials then I'd expect a "OMG! how exciting!" text in return, but if it's just the confirmation of the date of something she already knew about then whether she chooses to respond with a "thx fr STD, am shpg 4 hatz rt nw" or not.

...is a matter of personal choice.

Although it's everything to you, a save the date card really isn't everyone's top priority in their lives. I have 3 stuck on my fridge at the moment. I didn't know I was supposed to text them and act excited - is this the polite thing to do?

For those now confused and thinking the OP gave her mates syphilis.....when planning a wedding bloody years in advance as is now de rigeur you send out save the date so they know not to get pregnant at the wrong time and upstage you :) Then you send out invites nearer the time in case anybody gets divorced and you can quietly ditch them......