to be upset my friend didn't acknowledge my save the date card?

[clapofthunder]

So I hand delivered a few of my save the date cards (as it was only a walk around the small town I live in).

I knocked on my friends door and no-one answered so I posted it instead. 2 weeks later I still haven't heard anything.

We went for a drink with a group of mutual friends so I asked her then if she got it and the only reply I got back yeah - "oh yeah I did thanks"

Aibu to think she could have acknowledged it?

Pip I think its because people don't necessarily know all venues details by then

Isn't a save the date considered customary when the wedding is abroad?

I do quite like STD as a concept - but my friends have all done it by email/social media rather than shelling out for printed cards. I plan holidays a long way in advance, or I might be booking theatre/concert tickets etc, so it's handy to know that X's wedding is on the 17th October - it wouldn't be the end if the world if I missed it, but I'd be pissed off if I missed it for the sake of not knowing.

I didn't think that save the date card needed to be acknowledged. Oh dear!

I didn't think Save the date cards needed an acknowledgement.

No response from the OP? Perhaps she's busy writing a poem to go in the invitations...

I don't mean RSVP - sorry should have made that clear.

I meant she could have text and said she got it or mentioned it when we saw each other.

But why? You don't need to with a save the date!

You reply to the invitation!

I hate to tell you OP, but the world does not revolve around your wedding.

Save the date cards are daft, just send an invite. Surely those truly important to the wedding know the date anyway. Its just another thing for brides to spend on and to drag it all out even further.

There's no reply necessary for a save the date, but I can agree that normally a friend would comment i.e. "got your save the date, it's on the fridge" or similar.

What is it with this current vogue for over the top wedding madness? So a 'save the date' card is a warm-up invitation to get an actual invitation later on??

Bonkers - it's just a wedding. There are lots in any given year.

Same as a pp - I like them for e.g. cousins, close friends where I would book my holiday the following or previous week if I knew. I wouldn't expect them to send the actual invite months (or more) ahead. But I also wouldn't reply to a save the date - that's what the invitation is for.

Eureka!
I'm going to set up my new multi-million £ business. Bespoke STD responses.
I'll write a personalised witty poem that can be emailed. For £20 extra I'll print and frame it. I've got a barber quartet that can visit the B&G to perform.
I can source you a plane that will sky-write your reply.
My DH will develop an app you can buy to collate all the STD replies.
And an electronic poking thing for stabbing tardy responders.
I'm going to sell my idea to Clinton's for a hefty license fee.

Texted. But why? Utterly pointless.

I've got the solution. What's clearly needed is a 'save the date for my save the date card'. A special extra card to warn people when the save the date card will arrive and to brief them how to respond to it appropriately.

All in addition to, and well before an actual invitation, obviously.

Bloody hell OP, everyone on this thread has said you are being precious and you're still convinced your friend was in the wrong.

I fear you are a bridezilla in the making.

No one other than very close family at a push give a shit about your wedding- get over it.

Ah, in that case op yabu. Sorry.

Why though op?

Surely you have to understand that she probably saw it, thought "oo, lovely" then moved on to important issues in her world.

Were you worried she wouldn't get it?

I do love the way save the day is shortened to STD sorry long day.

I hate save the day though never had one.. My friends tell me if they have something upcoming I write it on my calendar...I have invite from a friend for Wedding ... I replied..sorted.

when you send an invite out then a comment might be needed...Your wedding is not the most important thing to your friend.... Is she a good friend..you didn't post it through the wrong door with no name on did you?

You don't send a response to a save the date, you respond to the invite. It would've like sending a thank you for a thank you card.

I wouldn't save any date until I got a firm invite.

Agree that save the dates don't require a response. We sent them for ours as we have friends who needed to book shifts, but it was a home printer job on card that I put inside Christmas cards when I sent them out.

Just to justify myself there.