to be upset my friend didn't acknowledge my save the date card?

[clapofthunder]

So I hand delivered a few of my save the date cards (as it was only a walk around the small town I live in).

I knocked on my friends door and no-one answered so I posted it instead. 2 weeks later I still haven't heard anything.

We went for a drink with a group of mutual friends so I asked her then if she got it and the only reply I got back yeah - "oh yeah I did thanks"

Aibu to think she could have acknowledged it?

I've received save the date cards for weddings & parties held at times near Christmas and during school holidays. It makes sense, for close friends and family we haven't gone and booked a holiday on that date.

There's a whole other thread to be had about receiving a text saying

'thank you for giving me your STD'

You were being unreasonable to send an STD card -

Incidentally, does everyone who gets and STD also get an invitation or is there the chance that the guest list gets cut down and half the poor souls who have cancelled holidays and other more interesting events find themselves not on the final guest list.

Agree with MmeMorrible, they are wedding twattery lining the pockets of stationers and printers.

There's a whole other thread to be had about receiving a text saying

'thank you for giving me your STD'

There's a whole other thread to be had about receiving a text saying

'thank you for giving me your STD'

YANBU OP. The least she could have done was express her excitement through the medium of a small bespoke ballet.

Whatever happened to Gluezilla?

@ fideline. Now there's a trend I could get on board with

My first H and I decided not to do STD cards and instead phoned family about 8 months before the wedding to say what date it was in case they did want to come and didn't want to overlap with hols. We then sent our invitations 2 months before the wedding and the entire of my dads side of the family decline. Apparently as i hadn't sent STD cards the phone call hadn't been official and they had all arranged to have a bbq with each other on that day . Utter twats!

No response necessary for STD cards tho OP. Sorry. YABU.

Incidentally, does everyone who gets and STD also get an invitation or is there the chance that the guest list gets cut down and half the poor souls who have cancelled holidays and other more interesting events find themselves not on the final guest list.

I think this thread will probably answer your question.

OP YADBU.

Rafa - I can't believe you linked to that TidyDancer thread - that went to 3000 posts I think and consumed a noticeable chunk of my time following it last last summer! Anyone who clicks on it, be warned, you may be there a while...

Sorry. and to anybody that is going to need it.

Fideline (which incidentally my tablet autocorrected to Fiddling!) your ballet post made me laugh like a drain. Funniest thing ever on MN! Thank you

But where are the follow up threads DDD? I remember thread 1, but not what happened next when our heroine confronted Gluezilla.

totally YABU.

On a related matter, my cousin gave me a save the date a year in advance. I'll definitely be going but a year seems a bit OTT. Also what if it was someone I didn't really like and I wanted avoid going? Really cuts down the available excuses.

OMFG that tidydancer thread

@ Bit

(I think you just picked my next NN, BTW)

YABU. Get a grip. It's a card with a bit of info on, which judging by this thread you have almost certainly told her many times People acknowledge invitations not std cards.

Sweet lord!!

When will people realise that their weddings do not occupy any space outside of their own heads? Seriously, your wedding should not place any obligations on anyone else other than being pleasant to you if they choose to grace you with their presence on the day. Other than that they can ignore any and all 'events' in the a hundred and eleventy million year lead up to your party/wedding.

I think people are being unkind to the OP. Yes receiving save the dates isn't the most exciting experience in the world but people are forgetting that the OP would of put time and effort into them and it's important to her.

It would of been nice of the friend to acknowledge it, especially when she saw her in person.

Would have.

Would have, would have, would have!

Are people doing that on purpose now?

But Cold since when does a STD require acknowledgement? Invitation, yes. STD, no.

It's not even as if OP could have had concernes about it's safe arrival.
She knew it had arrived, because she hand delivered it. Recipient could see that a) it was not an invitation and b) it had been hand delivered. So why would she say anything?

its ^ safe...

My dsil sent out STD magnet which has pride of place on my microwave. It has lasted longer than her marriage. [Sad]

I love STD's...yes, the ongoing joke...ykwim!

Without those I wouldnt have known when to book my holiday for so avoiding my cousins wedding and she did the same with mine. She hates me, I hate her but thanks to family politics we had to invite each other. It meant that we did the right thing to keep the families happy but then could say "Oh no, we literally just booked our holiday...!"

And ettiquette does not demand any sort of response to an STD card, although personal "Wow, congratulations" messages are acceptable if the invitee was not aware of your engagement.