Petty row. AIBU

[VitoCorleone]

I have 3 note books, I'm a bit obsessed with lists and order so in one book i have my meal plan and shopping list. The other two are recipies and stuff.

On the front page is just lines so ive wrote on the front, for example, "meal plans. Shopping lists"

Got up this morning and DP had wrote a note, right on the very front page the fucking football score, hope your feeling better, love you.

I text and asked why he's wrote on the front page and not just used a blank page i can rip out. He's told me to go and fuck myself, don't bother him again 'you prick'

Should i have said nowt?

(told you it was petty)

One of my dear friends almost refused a proposal when OH proposed by writing on her Smythson stationery gift box.

I am a fellow stationery-addict and involuntarily gave a sharp intake of breath when she told me about the note.

Notebooks are treasure! I have many that I can't bring myself to use.
i'm tensing at the very thought of someone writing in any of mine

i know, i know

All stationery OTT issues aside, he has NO right to talk to you like that OP, you shouldn't be apologising to him, more waiting for him to realise just how foul his mouth is.

Does your "D"P know you have a system with your notebooks, OP? Does he realise that it matters a great deal (perhaps more than it ought; not for me to say really) for you to keep these notebooks neat and in order?

When you say he wrote on the front page and not one of the blanks, I assume there are shopping lists/recipes on some of the pages, so you can't just rip out the front page without effectively ruining your system?

If your partner is aware of all of this, then I agree it was thoughtless of him to write a message for you on the front page instead of using a blank page or a spare bit of paper. I don't think your text was particularly antagonistic, certainly not enough to warrant the responses from him.

If this is symptomatic of a larger pattern of behaviour from him, then I agree with others who have said you perhaps need to take a step back and ask yourself if your relationship is healthy. Can you communicate with your partner without it ending in insults and verbal abuse, from either of you?

I won't jump into the LTB calls, but perhaps relationship counselling would be a start for you.

Smite, I don't think you are visualising what a front page is - it is a heavier paper and it is glued to the inside cover page - when you open any bound book, the inside cover is the left side, the "front page" is the opposite right side. You can't rip it out without destroying the binding. The binding also means the notebook will naturally open to the defaced front page. Every time. Only thing you can do is glue it to the inside cover page, but then then notebook will never open quite right as the ordinary page will not be bound/glued/sewn in a way to give it more room to open up properly.

My DS has told me that City won 4-0 last night & are now 2 points ahead of Liverpool.
Sorry OP.