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Petty row. AIBU

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VitoCorleone · 06/05/2014 08:37

I have 3 note books, I'm a bit obsessed with lists and order so in one book i have my meal plan and shopping list. The other two are recipies and stuff.

On the front page is just lines so ive wrote on the front, for example, "meal plans. Shopping lists"

Got up this morning and DP had wrote a note, right on the very front page the fucking football score, hope your feeling better, love you.

I text and asked why he's wrote on the front page and not just used a blank page i can rip out. He's told me to go and fuck myself, don't bother him again 'you prick'

Should i have said nowt?

(told you it was petty)

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Original poster
VitoCorleone · 06/05/2014 09:22

If we have an argument he always calls me a prick - amongst other things. Then i always think "well ok, maybe i shouldn't have said anything" like this morning.

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diddl · 06/05/2014 09:22

"I couldn't live with someone who treated me like that."

I think that it goes both ways in this case.

I mean sending a text to someone to bollock them for writing in a notepad!!

AnyFucker · 06/05/2014 09:23

If my H addressed me like that, I would assume my marriage was over

MarcusAurelius · 06/05/2014 09:23

You're obsessive about a book of paper and he's foul mouthed. Lovely couple.

Original poster
VitoCorleone · 06/05/2014 09:24

I hardly bollocked him, i asked why he had wrote on the front and not one of the blank pages.

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diddl · 06/05/2014 09:24

I think that you were a prick this morning.

Whether you have been on other occasions, who knows?

Whether you should accept being called one regularly...

Mumoftwoyoungkids · 06/05/2014 09:27

The thing is that we all have things that we are irrational about! Part of being married to someone is accepting that about them. I get leave books all around the house but if dh puts them away for me I get very upset if he does not respect the fact that all my books are alphabetised. Dh feels the need to update our computers constantly so we have a network in the house to rival Microsoft. And half the time that crashes the TV or Internet so I miss Eastenders or can't get on MN. I say "oh well I'll watch it on Iplayer later and go and get an (alphabetised) book to read.

So your dh should know about the notebooks.

You. probably could have been nicer.

He sounds horrible.

So....

Hwbu.
YWNBU.
Hwb very U.

UncleT · 06/05/2014 09:28

He regularly calls you a prick?? Seriously, LTB.

Original poster
VitoCorleone · 06/05/2014 09:30

Can i just say that this special note for me to keep forever begins with

"Fucking 3-3"

That's the first line of the note. On my notebook.

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LurkAndLearn · 06/05/2014 09:31

There have been some huge overreactions on this thread.

Op hurt her dp and he swore. End of story. Perhaps you could both try being a bit Kinder to each other.

If you both regularly swear then this is not a big deal. If it's out of the blue then maybe.

crispyporkbelly · 06/05/2014 09:33

He regularly calls her a prick Lurk its not a one-off argument

CoffeeTea103 · 06/05/2014 09:34

But you did behave like a dick. If this is your reaction to your DH telling you he loves you I can see why he lost it. Are you this irritating and ridiculous always?

AnyFucker · 06/05/2014 09:34

No, he didn't just swear, did he

Just swearing would be "I am fucking sick of this", eg

He called her a prick, and apparently does it regularly

firesidechat · 06/05/2014 09:35

Oh yes very romantic OP.

I'm quite glad that my husband doesn't swear at all. It's a definite positive after reading this thread.

UncleT · 06/05/2014 09:35

'Fucking 3-3' definitely does erode the romantic varnish somewhat. Hmm

I would guess that's what he's really pissed off about too.

Also, as far as 'overreaction' goes, no - calling your other half a fucking prick is outrageous.

Original poster
VitoCorleone · 06/05/2014 09:35

Yep, always coffee

Hmm
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JapaneseMargaret · 06/05/2014 09:38

Good Lord.

OnlyLovers · 06/05/2014 09:41

You both sound a bit nasty and aggressive, TBH, but I think he was more horrible. I can't imagine my DP telling me to 'go and fuck myself' or calling me a prick. That's outrageous. The fact that he does it regularly is even more outrageous.

AnyFucker · 06/05/2014 09:41

Vito, you aren't saying much, love

You seem a bit numb. How often is horrible stuff like this happening ?

Is this what you envisaged in a relationship ?

diddl · 06/05/2014 09:43

Has he always called you a prick when you argue?

Does he do the same to others?

HercShipwright · 06/05/2014 09:47

I think you were supposed to be sympathetic about the score.

All the Liverpool fans I know are in horrendous moods today. Most of them wouldn't have thought to ask if their DP was feeling ok or told them they loved them.

However YABU for having a DP who is a Liverpool fan.

crispyporkbelly · 06/05/2014 09:48

How does the op sounds aggressive ? Confused

diddl · 06/05/2014 09:49

"All the Liverpool fans I know are in horrendous moods today. Most of them wouldn't have thought to ask if their DP was feeling ok or told them they loved them."

Gosh lucky OP then??!!

AnyFucker · 06/05/2014 09:50

Well, it is a proven fact that rates of domestic violence rise around significant football matches

I have always found that people who get in a "mood" with their loved ones because of a match result are particularly in need of a grip, tbh

LurkAndLearn · 06/05/2014 09:51

Vito I'm not trying to minimise your upset but all this talk of LTB seems premature.

Would it do any good to talk to him after work and tell him you were upset?

You may find you get an apology.