AIBU to expect food to be provided for my child when friends invite him out for the day?

[ScarlettDarling]

Ds just returned from a day out with his best friend and family for a walk and picnic in woods. They picked him up this morn and i sent him off with a rucksack with his wellies etc in,and gave the mother a 10note to buy the kids ice creams . She's just returned him now saying 'its just as well u sent that tenner ...u forgot to pack his packed lunch! We used the tenner to buy him some chips from the van!' Now, when they invited him for a picnic AIBU to expect they would provide the picnic for Ds, not just themselves?! I've fed their son hundreds of times! Can't believe they couldn't spare him a sarnie ! And they didn't buy any ice creams with the tenner, just the chips, and i didn't get any change! Not that i would ever have expected change, but really, AIBU??

How did they look after him beautifully? They didn't really do anything. They didn't feed him, instead bought chips out the tenner you gave them which was meant for ice creams and then pocketed the rest.

Apologies if OP has already said this - but what was provided by way of a picnic? Maybe they were happy to share but DS turned his nose up at it, or there really just wasn't much?

I remember going out with a friend and her DC and she said "oh don't worry about bringing food, I'll bring enough for everyone". She turned up with pitta bread, carrot sticks, hummous and some fish pate. That was it - and there was less than a pitta bread each. She and her DC ate like sparrows, so she'd just doubled what she would pack up for the 3 of them without really thinking about it.

Neither of my 2 would touch the houmous or pate, so ended up eating half a piece of pitta bread each and some carrot. I then had to supplement with extra food that I bought from the cafe.

Can't help wondering if something similar happened here?

a bit off topic red sky but what sort of a picnic was that with pitta and pate and veggies?!

Ah gotta love me and my mum's way of doing picnics - everything but the kitchen sink, home-made quiche, potato salad, cakes etc...and more than enough to feed a small army.

I think we've established that the other parent is a mean fucker who owes the OP at least £8 change. However, for the sake of OP's DS I would suggest nothing else is mentioned but the next time there is anything social for the boys the OP makes sure her DS has THE best picnic ever.

I think I would also ensure that if the friend was invited out with the OP and their DS again she asks the parents to stump up entrance fees, bring own food etc. Don't penalise the children but make sure the parents pay their way.

What shitty behaviour.

Did you speak to the mum op?

redsky that reminds me of one of my most favourite threads ever, GeraldineAubergine's 'unusually frugal picnic', where a couple attempted to feed about 8 people with a cheese sandwich and a bag of crisps.

what sort of picnic was that with pitta and pate and veggies?

It was a normal picnic for my friend and her DC's - apparently what she always packed when they went out for the day. When we went off to buy extra, she did apologise and say she'd forgotten that not everyone's familes ate what hers did.

I was making the point, that to me a picnic means sandwiches, crisps, fruit, cakes and lots of nibbly bits. And we generally take a fair bit of it home as I over cater. I think lots of people on this thread are thinking of that sort of picnic too - and wondering why on earth giving some of it to one extra child would be a problem. However, one should never assume that everyone thinks like that ...

Well I would certainly ask for the change of the tenner !!