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AIBU to expect food to be provided for my child when friends invite him out for the day?

184 replies

ScarlettDarling · 05/05/2014 17:06

Ds just returned from a day out with his best friend and family for a walk and picnic in woods. They picked him up this morn and i sent him off with a rucksack with his wellies etc in,and gave the mother a 10note to buy the kids ice creams . She's just returned him now saying 'its just as well u sent that tenner ...u forgot to pack his packed lunch! We used the tenner to buy him some chips from the van!' Now, when they invited him for a picnic AIBU to expect they would provide the picnic for Ds, not just themselves?! I've fed their son hundreds of times! Can't believe they couldn't spare him a sarnie ! And they didn't buy any ice creams with the tenner, just the chips, and i didn't get any change! Not that i would ever have expected change, but really, AIBU??

OP posts:
Pigginnora · 05/05/2014 17:10

YANBU... Find your ds some new friends.

Theodorous · 05/05/2014 17:10

On every point you are both sane and reasonable. They are barking.

D0oinMeCleanin · 05/05/2014 17:10

Bloody expensive chips Shock

YANBU. I would be ringing them up and mentioning that you forgot to ask for the change from the chips.

drinkyourmilk · 05/05/2014 17:11

YANBU to expect them to feed him if he had no food. However I would have packed him lunch and sent it with him.
Different expectations. Next time just ask what he needs to take.

Theodorous · 05/05/2014 17:11

But at least he got to have chips instead if boring old sandwiches. Win win in my opinion. Am seriously craving chip van chips now!

KirstyJC · 05/05/2014 17:11

They are horrible - ask them for the change and next time you have their kids over, ask where their packed lunch is when they get dropped off.

squoosh · 05/05/2014 17:12

YANBU

People amaze me sometimes. Ditch them.

And ask for your change!

SunnyRandall · 05/05/2014 17:12

I would have prob checked if they expected him to bring a packed lunch tbh but wtf re the chips.

CoffeeTea103 · 05/05/2014 17:13

Yanbu Confused how horrible of them, wonder if they felt bad feeding their own child something proper and just giving your DS chips! I just don't understand why people make a big deal of feeding a child.

listsandbudgets · 05/05/2014 17:14

£10 for chips Shock Were they gold plated or something?

Seriously though if I invited someone for a picnic I would expect to feed them. It wouldn't occur to me not to Confused

OnaPromise · 05/05/2014 17:15

Of course yanbu.

Finola1step · 05/05/2014 17:15

I would have sent ds with bits and pieces to add to the picnic for everyone to share.

But if I invite a child out with us, I'm always prepared to provide food. I think the £10 idea for ice creams was spot on. The other child's parents are very odd not to pack extra bits in the picnic for a guest. Very odd.

Bowlersarm · 05/05/2014 17:15

YANBU.

He was invited for a picnic yet had to bring his own? Strange. Thank heavens you have him the tenner.

Andrewofgg · 05/05/2014 17:16

Holy shit. YANBU. With friends like that . . .

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 05/05/2014 17:16

These people are barking! Don't have their kids over ever again. Never send your own child out of the house without food when going out with these selfish and ill-mannered weasels

Finola1step · 05/05/2014 17:16

Oh and the chips.. Def more than 1 portion was bought, I'm sure of it. That's why there's no change.

ErrolTheDragon · 05/05/2014 17:17

YANBU. If he was invited for 'a walk and a picnic', I'd have expected them to be providing the picnic. If they'd wanted you to send a packed lunch then they should have said so (we've sometimes done this - DD and her friends don't always have the same tastes). If they didn't make it clear then they should have shared what they had - if necessary going without themselves, that's what I'd have done in their place....and maybe bought some supplementary chips myself to share.

HavannaSlife · 05/05/2014 17:18

Yanbu, if thwy expected you to provide his food they should have said, but who does that?

SuchSweetSorrow · 05/05/2014 17:18

Very odd of them! Lovely of you to give money for ice creams.

Seriously, who invites a child to a picnic and not expect to feed them?! Confused

redskyatnight · 05/05/2014 17:18

I would have checked about what he was expected to bring - and thinking about it, whenever I've taken one of the DC's friends out for the day, they've always asked about whether they should bring food as well. So I'm not sure I'd have assumed food was provided - but spending £10 on chips is just odd!

seanbonbon · 05/05/2014 17:19

So, if you hadn't given the tenner he would have gone hungry?ConfusedConfused Mad, cheap & rude all in one!

seanbonbon · 05/05/2014 17:20

They are, not you obv!!!

seanbonbon · 05/05/2014 17:21

I would have assumed food was provided - they asked him on a picnic ffs

tabulahrasa · 05/05/2014 17:21

I've invited a child on an unplanned picnic and got them to bring a packed lunch as I haven't had extra in, but by actually saying that, not just by expecting their parent to just psychically know that's what was happening Hmm

SauvignonBlanche · 05/05/2014 17:22

YANBU, sounds a bit off.

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