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to be uncomfortable with a naked incontinent toddler?

204 replies

prudenceprude · 21/04/2014 09:41

We visited family yesterday. Their two yo dd stripped off after dinner, pooed on the floor and then ran around naked for the rest of the afternoon.

Their house, their rules and I would never have said anything but we are contemplating not visiting for a while.

They made no attempt to dress her and found it hilarious. My 11yo ds1 was mortified, I was more worried about the hygiene factor.

Aibu and a prude? I'm generally very laid back but felt really uncomfortable. I'd be fine with naked kids in the paddling pool in the garden, for eg, or just out of the bath for a run around, but stripping off after dinner, shutting under the table and then spending the afternoon flollopping about naked with no attempt to dress her or even put pants on her made me feel a bit queasy.

Is it me?

OP posts:
Andrewofgg · 21/04/2014 19:08

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Massive Grin

paddyclampo · 21/04/2014 19:18

YANBU - it's the height of bad hygiene!

doziedoozie · 21/04/2014 19:33

Ridiculous to criticise an 11 year old boy for not being comfortable to see a 2 year old's fanjo flaunted in the presence of 15 adults. Some 11 year old boys might be used to this but most would not so there should have been a bit of common sense displayed and knickers put on.

Doubt I would even want my own 2 year olds fanjo and anus flaunted during dinner. There's a time and a place.

QuacksForDoughnuts · 21/04/2014 20:45

Did anyone wipe the child's bum? I think YANBU. I'm fine with nuddyhood if a child is in or just out of the bath - i.e. freshly cleaned bums and bits - but fresh from a poo anywhere? Not so much. And pants could have acted as an early warning system that poo was going to happen, or as a poo catching device. And please tell me you weren't having chocolate pudding, because that would be a extra layer of grimness

choclateheaven · 21/04/2014 21:04

Naked Toddler is okay and acceptable.
Crapping around house is not.

JonesRipley · 21/04/2014 21:05

YANBU

Thurlow · 21/04/2014 21:13

Nakedness is fine - though I do think inside a house on a not enormously hot day I'd at least sling a t-shirt on my toddler. I'd probably be a little less at one with it than if it was a warm day, but I couldn't honestly say why and agree with others that the nudity wouldn't bother me too much.

Crapping on the floor... well, when they are toilet training then I guess these things happen and nudity is useful (hell, I'm planning on toilet training in the summer so that DC can run around naked!).

But I think having said all that I'd be a little uncomfortable in the situation you describe and wouldn't be entirely happy.

dementedma · 21/04/2014 21:39

Yanbu.

vladthedisorganised · 21/04/2014 22:10

Bloody phone! Shall try again..
Yanbu. Crapping on the floor is grim. During the potty training stage I would have had more pressing things to focus on than hosting a dinner party.. no way would I have had the energy or the inclination to have guests round when I tried to train DD to save the craps for the loo.
The odd accident is one thing, but then if you know your toddler is prone to accidents, why risk havibg nothing between them and the floor but air?
Seems daft to me. OP, YADNBU.

writtenguarantee · 21/04/2014 22:22

Aside from the pooing which is a bit rank ( but part & parcel of having children) there is nothing wrong with a child being naked ffs!

I have two kids and it wasn't "part and parcel" to have a big poo on the floor.

I don't care about kids running around naked, but frankly I don't want a bare bum on my couch. That's just gross.

Fizzybangfanny · 21/04/2014 22:49

Utterly sad that two year olds have to cover up to not cause offence to adults. Sad

sykadelic · 22/04/2014 00:03

YANBU

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 22/04/2014 00:28

surely the occasional poo on the floor happens during toddlerhood?

I wouldn't be offended by the sight of a naked toddler but then I have two very young children who can take or leave clothes.

ilovemywestie · 22/04/2014 00:33

YANBU. Nothing wrong with naked toddlers if they're running around a sunny garden in and out of a paddling pool for example but while people are trying to eat and then finding she poos ....dear me....not nice at all!
Time and place for everything and if you have guests coming I would at the very least have put a nappy on the toddler!

AveryJessup · 22/04/2014 01:56

Bleurgh. I'm with you, OP. I find this pretty disgusting. This is not something I would let my 2 year old do.

Most people would surely put some pants on the child at least. She is too young to know any better at 2 so the parents need to be responsible in that case. If it's 'cute' and 'funny' and 'natural' for a 2 year old to do this, when does it stop being cute and funny and natural? 4? 8? 16?

Personally I think parents have a duty to protect their child's dignity. Will their DD be happy in future when family members tell the 'hilarious' story about her crapping on the floor and running around naked when she was too young to know any better?

MoominsAreScary · 22/04/2014 06:01

Before potty training mine had clothes on, while potty training ds3 was the only one who was naked pretty much the whole time.

However if we had people round id have wrestled him into some pants, especially as he has a thing about playing with his penis and im sure other people dont want to listen to how its big/small etc

Ds2 is 11 and would have been uncomfortable with the naked toddler, especially if she decided to jumo all over him like ds2 does

MoominsAreScary · 22/04/2014 06:06

And ds2 has no issue with breastfeeding, its the fact that the toddler might wee or poo on him that makes him uncomfortable

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 22/04/2014 06:07

Its not you.

Obviously it was the thought of being peed and pooed on that made you queasy not the nudity.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 22/04/2014 06:09

Dozy. A 2 year does not " flaunt her fanjo" Hmm

Hazchem · 22/04/2014 06:33

The poo is a bit yuck. I find it weird that a pre teen is worried about a toddlers nakedness. I was nine when my brother was born. used to a bit of toddler nakedness. It's fine. ope they cleaned up poo swifty.

Fizzybangfanny · 22/04/2014 07:58

Dozy. A 2 year does not " flaunt her fanjo"

This^^ - cannot not believe people's attitudes this thread.

TypicaLibra · 22/04/2014 08:02

I agree with you OP. Toddlers in and out of the paddling pool ... sunny day in garden = OK. House / visitors / meal / toddler with no nappy and crapping in house = not OK.

Morloth · 22/04/2014 08:22

Naked toddler is fine.

Pooing naked toddler is gross.

PisforPeter · 22/04/2014 08:25

It's entirely natural to be naked FFS.....especially for a potty training 2 year old.

ChickyEgg · 22/04/2014 08:29

Toddlers in and out of the paddling pool ... sunny day in garden = OK. House / visitors / meal / toddler with no nappy and crapping in house = not OK.

^This

YANBU. I think that a naked toddler is natural but honestly there's a time and a place.