to think breastfeeding is no different to formula

[leavemealoneok]

Whats the big deal. I want to bottlefeed. Stop putting me under pressure. I had dd2 a week ago and im happy to bottle feed. But im sick of being judged by everyone about it. I quite like my boobs up where there supposed to be and personally if formula was that bad, they wouldnt sell it.

Personally bf is way overated.
I know I will be slated for this but I had to rant. Whole family is judging me for it

I formula fed, dd has never been sick apart from two mild colds which lasted less than twelve hours, she's two now and has always been very advanced for her age and exceptionally healthy. All the evidence which supports the 'superiority' of breast feeding compares children from different social classes, when comparing formula and breastfed children from the same families, the breastfed ones are more likely to get sick. Do what suits you best, formula won't hurt despite the lies against it.

Interesting post Never

Dear OP...don't apologise, you have just had a baby and you are trying your hardest to make important decisions at a really difficult time. Breast fed or formula fed, your baby doesn't mind and will be fine either way. I bf ds for 18 months but with dd, for a variety of reasons, I only breast fed for 3 days. Guess what, both are healthy, intelligent, well adjusted kids! Some people are bf bullies, who think that their way is the only way, and as a formula feeding mother, it does make you defensive. I sympathise, and in all honesty, think that the posters making their snippy comments to OP really need to remember how tough it is being a new mum. We all know the studies, we all know that B milk is the ideal first food....BUT formula is an excellent alternative if breast feeding doesn't work for you. Stick to your guns OP and ignore the bullies!

joylin Yes keep reading those studies.

Great post Scarlett

op

Are you planning on feeding your baby or are you planning on starving it?

The baby will be happy as long as it is fed. Breast fed or bottle fed.

There will be discernible difference in 5/10/20/30 years time between your bottle fed child and a breast fed child (well adult) the same age.

That is a fact.

I wasn't breastfed, my Mum couldn't. I would like to but don't plan on beating myself up over it either way.

Feed the baby, be nice to yourself, relax.

*will be no discernible

I am actually in tears with all the support. Thank you so much. This has been the first bit of support for a week

Joylin you can be supportive to the OP without writing complete nonsense about the research done on BF.

All research has weighted the figures for social class, income etc. The evidence is overwhelming and it's just not helpful to pretend it isn't.

OP I want to give you a hug! tell us about your new DD. Is she divine?

Ah no need for falling out.If you can BF and want to BF then do it.If you want to FF then do it .What ever is best for you. Baby's not going to know which ever way so just look after yourself and take no notice of evangelists from either camp.

Ask

Stats are stats but I know plenty of "educated middle class" women who bottle fed (recently). For their own personal reasons.

It isn't helpful to pretend that bottle feeding your child casts it to the bottom of the heap of life. Given the majority of British babies are bottle fed, that simply isn't realistic.

leavemealoneok can you get your DP to fend off your mother? There's no good reason for you to put up with someone unsupportive hassling you and making what should be a lovely time bonding with your baby, a stressful and miserable one.

leave

I was formula fed and I'm as healthy as a horse and an intelligent functioning human being

With saggy boobs

Not sure why I'm smiling, it's depressing standing on your tits while you are trying to have a shower

Why can't people who ff just accept that breast milk is superior to ff rather than scrabbling about to prove it's 'the same' or otherwise. It's not.

I bf both of mine - one for 10 months and one for 7 months. With DD I went back to work and she's been on formula since. Although she is allergic to cow's milk so has been on soya formula. This is VERY common. Why? Because humans and supposed to drink HUMAN milk. NOT cow's milk.

Formula is an option but it's not in terms of molecular make up better for the baby. It's just not.

There are other reasons hey formula may be preferable but breast milk IS still superior on a molecular level. Fact.

I'd far rather DD be still on breast milk as it's superior but I now, for a host of other reasons, now choose to ff.

Well it's up to you. BM is far better than formula as it is tailor made for the baby. As long as baby is fed and well looked after it does nit natter.

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I'm sorry you are feeling judged for your choice, that's shit.

There are a few risks associated with FF but they are very minor risks in the developed world and I would stand by your decision over what to do or not do with your body as a basic human right, don't let anyone guilt trip or intimidate you into doing anything you don't want to do. In a few years, nobody will give a shit how you fed your baby, only that you fed it. I say that as someone who BF mine for 2 years each and loved it.

Sadly your breasts might droop anyway as it's pregnancy that causes those changes.

Congratulations on your new arrival

Just seen your last couple if posts OP

I hope you get the support you need in RL and I can understand why your first post came over very hostile, it's sounds like you've reached the end of your tether.

As a very lovely La Leche League person said to me when I was feeling a bit low about FFing DC1; it's milk, not rat poison! Your DC will be fine.

Aww OP, you seem to have had a tough time. As long as your little one is feeding, be it bf or ff, that's the only thing that matters.

I had the opposite, my MIL thought bfjng was disgusting and unnatural but DH told her to wind her bloody neck in. You need someone to do that for you with your family. It's easy to say ignore them but it's so hard to do, especially with a newborn to cope with.

Alis no one sensible argues that formula feeding a baby sends it to the bottom of the heap of life.

They merely quote the actual facts, which is that breast milk is by far and away the best thing to feed a baby because it's a food that's designed for the individual nutritional needs of that particular individual child and no man-made product can ever be so exact.

Please don't set up Aunt Sallys to knock down. Anyone who says FF sends a child to the bottom of life's heap is an idiot, but AFAIK no-one has said that here.

Howmuch - in my case it would be because I was devastated that bf didn't work out and that every time I read a post like yours I feel guilty and sad. I guess I try to tell myself it's the same so I don't feel like a complete failure. Dd is happy and thriving but I still get quite upset about it sometimes to be honest.

oh, bless you.

I'm sure yoir mum and grandma want the best for both of you.

normally breastfeeding failure is down to lack.of support.
you're worried you'll have problems again and you know your reasons are just made up excuses!

just take each day as it comes. try breastfeeding - the benefits of even a couple of days or weeks are phenomenal!
if it doesn't work, switch to formula, it's fine.

but you?re feeling unsupported and the feeding is a mask. just tell them you want them to support you. if they want to help they should help not make nasty comments.

ps, I can confitm that although my boobs are still pretty pert, they started to sag when I hit 25, a full 9 years before I became pg...

I have simply fabulous breasts & I fed both DC for 12 months each thanks.
I'm very sorry you're feeling judged for your choice but it's just that-your choice.
Breast milk is far better than formula, this is a fact-millions are spent trying to mimic it for this reason.