to think breastfeeding is no different to formula

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Whats the big deal. I want to bottlefeed. Stop putting me under pressure. I had dd2 a week ago and im happy to bottle feed. But im sick of being judged by everyone about it. I quite like my boobs up where there supposed to be and personally if formula was that bad, they wouldnt sell it.

Personally bf is way overated.
I know I will be slated for this but I had to rant. Whole family is judging me for it

I BF. My tits are gone, gone I tell you! Fuck all you perky lot upthread ^^

I formula fed all 3 of my kids and never got a judgy comment, a tut, a sneer or even a disapproving look.

I'm clearly a failed Mumsnetter

Usual

2 years of breastfeeding and they are bigger and still nicely perky

And I got to lie on a sofa, eating cake, demanding cups of tea and expect admiration as I was so busy feeding the baby

Awesome.

YABU. I doubt if a chemist took samples of breast milk and analysed them he/she would find even half the crap that's in a tin of formula powder. Look at the ingredients!! Nutritionists have already admitted that they overestimated the calorie content of breast milk when they started producing formula, it's one of the reasons the weight charts are so different.
If you choose to bottle feed, fine. Get on with it.

My boobs are now saggy

But I am well old!

Ladies, you're putting me off ever breastfeeding...your boobs got bigger and stayed that way? Nooooo!

I am joking...mostly

alis

Pre babies 32a

Post babies 34f

Just saying...

Alis I hated my bigger boobs when pregnant and BF. But they are now quite thoroughly deflated and then some, fear not

alis, fear not.
Pre-son, 34GG.
Post-son and ten months of bf, 34GG.
Post-daughter and breastfeeding, who knows, still going, but can get through doors.

OP - no need to be defensive dear. Most UK babies are formula fed.

Worra in 'failed mumsnetter' shocker!

Rufus

I'm already a D (small frame, they look massive) that is not funny

I hope for a rooty or catsize experience!

Im soo sorry to have offended people. I know that bf is better through parent class classes. I meant the end result when baby is older.

I had a emcs after a failed forceps delivery. So im very sore down below as aswell as cs wound.

Mother has never been supportive. With dd1 I tried bf for 2wks then had mastitis and gave up.

Im quite isolated where I stay. Not much friends out here in the country. Dd1 is only 2. So she doesnt go to nursery hence no friendly faces to speak to. Only unhelpful busy dh and judgy family.

Thanks for the support and nice comments.
And again I worded this wrong. Sorry

ali

Looking for a boobs emoticon but apparently we don't have one!

The shape of my tits is more important than my baby's health? Christ on a bike, OP.

Pre-baby - DD
Pregnant - H
2 years later - B

Seriously sadface.

Ive got spaniels ears for breasts.

U U

Do whatever right for you I FF DS1, BF DS2 and FF DS3 and felt it was right for my family.

OP you didn't offend me, you're obviously venting frustration (and say so), nor did you give out to the humourless BF brigade.

I know a great number of people who were entirely FF who have turned out absolutely perfectly. Many quite irritatingly so.

I'm sorry you don't have much support, are you going to be able to cope?

OP, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time.

Perhaps ask MNHQ to delete this thread and start again. (New nickname maybe?) and post in the feeding or parenting sections for support.

BF is better for your baby. Fact.

If you choose not to, however, that's up to you. It might be better for baby to be breastfed but not better for baby to have a miserable bfing mother as that then impacts in other negative ways.

My boobs are better now after feeding two of them than were beforehand.

OP - I think you are asking for a punch up on mumsnet for bringing up the whole 'BF vs FF' debate!!!
As for saying "I prefer my boobs up where they are supposed to be ...', ask yourself this: "What exactly do you think boobs are for?????" They are in fact for breastfeeding. That is what nature intended and if nature intends for boobs to go south, then so be it! My boobs have stayed north BUT they have changed from 32G to 34F. I didn't BF for long because I hated the difficulties I was having getting my son to latch, stay on and not use them as a comforter every 10 minutes between the hours of 7pm and 7am and the lack of support from family. I felt incredibly guilty thinknig about switching to formula but since it was affecting my mental health, I felt a mother going do-lally was not in the best interests of my child.
My son was FF from 1 month onwards. He has never been seriously ill (just colds, coughs and viruses - the same as many as his BF baby friends at the childminders). He is hitting his milestones the same, if not earlier, than some BF babies, except he was later to walk - 15 months. Two of his BF friends have been hospitalised with chest infections.
Whereas I do believe 'breast is best', I don't believe in the amount of benefits it gives.
Walk into any class at school and see if you can pinpoint/segregate the BF from the FF children; chances are, you won't be able to because the beenfits are not as easily measurable or physically idenitfiable. One child in my class was BF 'religously'. He has every health complaint going. In fact, most BF babies I know of have asthma!!!!

I FF my first and BF my second (for 2.5 years) so, to state my position, I sit firmly on the fence. Sometimes it's better and sometimes it's not.

What I take great issue with is the assumption that formula milk is a man made version of breast milk. It's not. It's dried, skimmed milk with added vitamins and minerals. The problem is with the name formula milk. It conjures up images of people in white coats in a lab following a scientific formula to recreate breast milk on some sort of molecular level. Not what it is, dried modified cow's milk that has to be rehydrated according to a set of instructions; a formula.

It's very misleading.