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Steak and blowjob day

267 replies

TwittyMcTwitterson · 13/03/2014 22:10

For those who don't know, this is the male alternative to valentines day which is all about women.

I think it's just a fun day. To be offended or perturbed is just that person being a bit too serious.

I'm a tad nervous of peoples opinions when I buy a big steak and some strawberry flavoured durex play tomorrow. Shock

Just wondering what peoples opinions are to this? I've had reactions varying from a giggle to wtf is that? What a stupid idea.

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 14/03/2014 09:52

As my old dad used to say, "If someone told you to stick your head in the oven would you do it?"

A million idiots out there: "oh yeah, please."

TortillasAndChocolate · 14/03/2014 10:03

I'm vegetarian and single. Damn it. Must try harder next year.

TwittyMcTwitterson · 14/03/2014 10:06

Really not sure what blowjobs and heads on ovens have in common?

Also, as a self respecting woman, I can spend all day with my head down there if I want to and not feel guilty about any aspect of it.

If blowjobs are 'demeaning' so is sex. Are you Germaine Greer? It's got nothing to do with respect. Some people enjoy it and some people don't.

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TheRealAmandaClarke · 14/03/2014 10:16

The glaringly obvious point about sticking your head in the oven is to underline the idea that one needn't feel obliged to do something just because they are told to/ everyone else is doing it.
i.e: don't feel obliges to suck someone's dick just because it's "steak and blowjob" day.

TwittyMcTwitterson · 14/03/2014 10:18

Yes but it is also glaringly obvious that if a person doesn't want to do it, they won't.

I'd do it anyway, it's just an excuse for a bit of fun to liven things up a bit.

You are not an idiot for wanting to have a fun day. It is not conformity. It's simply fun.

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fideline · 14/03/2014 10:20

Eve why did you feel the need to announce your 'bit of fun' on MN exactly?

TheRealAmandaClarke · 14/03/2014 10:23

Or to cook them a steak

TwittyMcTwitterson · 14/03/2014 10:23

I also feel it is a good thing to have days like this where you make a bit of extra effort. Like date nights.

Because I think it's fun and though a) more people should know about it
b) see if more people do it as in RL I'm finding mixed responses of around 75/25 with mainly people having no clue.

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CunningAtBothEnds · 14/03/2014 10:26

until I see an equivalent ie "chicken and lickin" day then DH had the same chance as normal!!

JohnFarleysRuskin · 14/03/2014 10:26

Really? You don't get the connection?

"Its just an excuse for a bit of fun to liven things up" - poor old you needing excuses to have oral sex. Could you really not have steak and a blow job any other day? Do you have to do it today because you have been told to? Do you find it really risque?

I take the Germaine Greer bit as a compliment as I imagine it was meant.

TwittyMcTwitterson · 14/03/2014 10:28

Also, it's not performing like a seal.

I'm definitely going to cook well buy him steak because me cooking happens as often as blue moons so I'm going to show him I appreciate him and if one thing leads to another then great. It's not like 'right you must have a blowjob right now' Hmm

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FreudiansSlipper · 14/03/2014 10:29

I think if people need a stranger reminding to have fun in their relationship they have bigger problems going on that need sorting out first

reminding someone to give their partner oral sex is just odd, and telling others you are going to the following night is just plain weird

some may not want to and they are their partner are fine with that some may do so everyday and both are happy and not feel the need to share such information

TheRealAmandaClarke · 14/03/2014 10:29

Your op is not consistent with your last post eve
Your description S&BJ day is as a payback for valentines day which apparently some men have decided to label as being for women.
It has an undertone of misogyny and entitlement.
Although I was thinking yesterday that poor old DH might be feeling neglected lately I feel less likely to "perform" in spines to a day dictated like this IYSWIM.
Although, I might get away with it as my idea. I don't think dh knows about s&bj day.

polythenespam · 14/03/2014 10:32

I think any woman who finds this drivel funny is a touch immature - and anybody who actually buys into it must be a little bit dim.

fideline · 14/03/2014 10:39

Anything that people resort to using the phrase 'a bit of fun' to defend, is always suspect.

It's a natural law or something.

MistressDeeCee · 14/03/2014 10:40

I find it funny/silly & am in no way immature. Not that Im up for fitting into what others deem as 'mature. Ive been making jokes with my OH about it all week. My choice not to be deadly serious about it, and not care less what anyone thinks. If that means my feminist credentials aren't quite up to scratch or am possibly at lobotomy stage, so be it Grin

TwittyMcTwitterson · 14/03/2014 10:41

Yes 'payback'. But none of it is forced. Neither was valentines day which we don't force or go overboard for.

Aah, entitlement. There's that much loved mumsnet word. Wink

Ok pp, so you see me and others below as immature and a bit dim. Thanks. That's great. Hope your judgey pants aren't too far up your arseShock

FYI, if we didn't have moments of immaturity we'd all be dull and boring. As for dim? I don't even need to respond to that.

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 14/03/2014 10:44

Oh honey, you're a marketeers dream.

strawberrybonbons · 14/03/2014 10:45

Haha. We are celebrating another day today. Pi day

www.piday.org

strawberrybonbons · 14/03/2014 10:45

www.piday.org

TheRealAmandaClarke · 14/03/2014 10:47

Ahh, "just a bit of fun" that we'll known dismissive comment for when things aren't actually funny. Wink
I have no feelings at all about anyone who joins in with S&BJ day tbh.
I just find it doesn't appeal to my sense of spontaneity.
I mainly find the assertion that valentines day is "for women" a bit condescending and irritating.

ThePowerOfNo · 14/03/2014 10:50

Yes, self respecting women can give blowjobs. No, it's not self-respecting to do it just because some misogynist thought they could make it 'a thing'.

TheRealAmandaClarke · 14/03/2014 10:52

Sorry,lost some text.
Anyway, "only a bit of fun" is the line that's always trotted out when trying to make someone feel like a joyless prude by not liking a (usually sexist) comment, "joke" or activity. Famously used by month python in the sketch with the outrageously behaved friend who was pinching the women's arses etc.

Off grocery shopping Grin
If I buy steak I'm worried dh might get his hopes up.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/03/2014 10:53

OP, are you the poster that declared "Men are shit, enough said."?

Confused

Because I think if that was my attitude, no man would be gettin nuffin tonight.

Wink
IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 14/03/2014 11:01

This day brings me out in a cold sweat...2y ago I texted a friend "happy steak and a blowjob day, of course in your case it's quorn and a blow job day"

And proceeded to send it to my vegetarian boss