Steak and blowjob day

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For those who don't know, this is the male alternative to valentines day which is all about women.

I think it's just a fun day. To be offended or perturbed is just that person being a bit too serious.

I'm a tad nervous of peoples opinions when I buy a big steak and some strawberry flavoured durex play tomorrow.

Just wondering what peoples opinions are to this? I've had reactions varying from a giggle to wtf is that? What a stupid idea.

Being told I am expected to give DH a BJ tonight brings me out in a severe case of the FTFOs.

Any suggestion that a person (of either sex) deserves or is entitled to particular sexual services is deeply, deeply pathetic. Give if you want to give, receive gladly if you like them. But don't put your expectations on me.

Some people do take things a bit too far when trying to be feminist.

This is not something I'm inclined to be involved with, however if others want to then thats up to them. Being married to a butcher steak is hardly a treat, we have it often. And the blowjob thing is something that happens occasionally, usually when I want it to and the idea of him reciprocating makes my skin crawl!

I am self respecting, but don't mind a bit of bedroom playtime, but would never do anything just because some marketing company have dreamed it up and say I should. My sex life does not need 'spicing up' so I don't feel the need to participate in this.

That said, I do not have a problem with others doing so. Up to them.

"Taking things a bit too far when trying to be feminist?"

Please explain. I have no idea what you are talking about.

No one said giving BJs was demeaning ffs.

hey OP I am not trying to be a feminist I AM a feminist

Blow jobs are fine but you really don't need a day of jollily enforced cooking and sexual favours to show a man you care - if you do - that's a bit sad

Is this tonight ? My next door neighbour is a butcher and sold us some naice steak for tonight I hope he doesn't think we are doing this steak and blowy malarkey.

OP, YAB massively U. Strawberry flavoured condoms? Boak!

I love "chocolate and leave me the fuck alone", "burger and a patronising pat" as the equivalent of filling station flowers, and "lasagne and a lick"...

so we get tatty teddies and shite cards.. and men get steak and bjs?

nope, not fucking likely.

aw this last year and mumsnet had some good alternatives like lasagne and cunilingus or my personal favourite, chocolate and leave me the fuck alone night.

oh yes, we will be celebrating chocolate and leave me the fuck alone night too..

Do people really give blowjobs to "show appreciation"? Dh would be happy with some Haribo for me to show him i appreciate him.. If I give blow jobs it because I fancy giving a blow job.. I'd hate to think of dh going down on me to show appreciation. Thanks for the great dinner veggy now get your legs over my shoulders.. eurgh

Not strawberry flavoured condoms. It's like a lubrication and think it is meant to make you tingly.

If it's not something self respecting women partake in, then they must be demeaning?!

You don't NEED a special day for this but seeing as it is that day I will. I will also have an Easter egg on Easter Sunday, pancakes on pancake day. It really isn't a big deal.

I am also a feminist. If I wasn't I would be a housewife and live off DP. I see no relevance to my consensual and healthy sex life with DP and feminism. Yes, in the past sex and feminism were always related and obviously in various contexts of sex, definitely. But if I consent to give my DP whatever, that is my choice

Veggy, people do everything and anything to show their DP that the appreciate them for being them. Anything from big to small. Sometimes I bring home chocolate (Tesco have 21 2 finger kitkats for 2 quid atm so that's another thing I'm bringing home to him) sometimes something that made me think of him.

It's nothing like me getting home and saying 'I appreciate you, pull your trousers down and I'll prove it' it's just being nice. I also do it because I enjoy it and I never expect it back. In fact, I really don't want it back.

Ps Gordy, I never said you were trying to be a feminist. That was someone else

I don't bother with Valentines either but at least it contains an element of personal choice. You celebrate your love in a way which befits the couple. Steak and a bj implies timetabled sexual gratification and a whiff of expectation. Forgive the pious sentiment but today is mutual respect day in our house just like every other day.

Expect it is a bit of fun and harmless on an individual level. But I find it as fun as hen weekends and girly shopping. Enforced stereotypical, gendered bullshit.

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DH is away on business... So there would be trouble if he celebrates the day...

I am a housewife and feminist. Not mutually exclusive.

Who said blow jobs are demeaning? Nobody.
Who said no self-respecting woman would have oral sex? Nobody.
That is all in your head, OP.

People HAVE said they have a problem with a designated blow job day.

Do you genuinely not get the difference?

Right at the beginning someone said about self respecting women.

I also think valentines is a basically guaranteed day you'll have sex.

And if you have a problem with a designated blowjob day you should find something more important to have a problem with ...

yup found it:

"If you are confident that this is the type of 'event' a self-respecting woman participates in, you go ahead."

The poster is clearly saying that its the designated element of it she objects too.

A feminist would see that "valentines day is for women" but "steak and blowjob day is for men" is sexist. Your employment status is not really relevant.

Eveesmum, don't cheapen your argument with all that find yourself a real problem guff. It's ludicrous and shows you up as floundering against the actual issue being discussed.

And no, Valentines isn't guaranteed sex day either. Sex isn't about expectation in a healthy relationship.

Just smacks of "get in the kitchen, on your knees where you belong, woman".

Nothing wrong with cooking nice meat or having oral sex. At all.

Just not to order because some bellend says so.

Now to you it sounds like "fun", but can you really not see that others find the tone of this supposed "thing" nauseating?

Not to mention the less secure amongst us who will go along with this, to service some entitled assclown because "it's steak and BJ day, honey!"

I said it.

I stand by it.

The idea of women across the globe simultaneously cooking steaks and performing fellatio because someone somewhere has decided it should be a 'thing', a special designated day to do so, is a bit tragic.

Going online to announce you are doing so is very odd.

No not mutually exclusive AT ALL!

What I mean is, I wouldn't be going to work every day. I'd go back to 1800s and have a 'yes boss' attitude to my husband. Obviously, housewife is the job of a woman of these times. It is by no means an example of a job that is solely for the and benefit and does not mean that person is in a time capsule. I simply did not, off the top of my head, have another example of a job a non feminist would do

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Just wondering what peoples opinions are to this?

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if you have a problem with a designated blowjob day you should find something more important to have a problem with

If you have a problem with other people having different opinions to yours I'd suggest not asking for them.