Unusual male culture in local upmarket restaurant

[Rowena23]

A couple enter a restaurant. As they walk past the bar on the way to the restaurant area, three men at the bar begin to talk about the woman's perfume, speculating on what brand it is.

A waiter seats the the couple at a table. Almost immediately, one of the three men goes up to the woman, and asks her about her perfume. She answers and the man slips away. When the waiter next appears at the table, the woman, still baffled (to say the least) asks him who the man is. He replies that the man is not a member of staff, but a regular customer.

It turns out that the manager of the restaurant was one of the three men speculating about the woman's perfume.

As a witness to this event, what should I have done? Should my reaction be coloured by the knowledge that the daughter of a friend had found it extremely difficult to get rid of this man some years ago, to the extent that she had to threaten to go to the police?

What do you think you should have done?

Sounds like the manager has a few mates hanging around the bar. Not a professionally run place by the sound of things.

Don't go there again. There are bound to be other things wrong with the place.

What event?

I don't really think you should have done anything.

I know I have asked people what perfume/aftershave they are wearing before now, it isn't that unusual (is it?)

It's up to the woman, no?

I ask people what perfume they're wearing. Should I rein it in?

What did her husband/boyfriend do?

What is the problem?
A man asked a woman a
Question, she answered...?

Why was the woman baffled that someone asked her what her perfume was? I don't wear perfume but it's something that people ask, isn't it? Maybe I watch too many bad movies. Maybe they do.

And lol to the 'unusual'.
I thought you will say it was an ad about perfume.

Don't know what the heck you're on about but what perfume was she wearing?

A man asks a woman to clarify what perfume she's wearing to settle a debate, assuming it wasn't you he asked what on earth does it have to do with you ??? A man asked a woman a question, shocking ....

I have no clue

I don't understand.
Please simplify with multiple choice scenarios that you think you think you could have done

Incidentally did it occur to you that she may not have had a a problem with a man asking what purfume she was wearing?

If the woman was uncomfortable about it, she had the option to say so, or possibly to vote with her feet by not returning to the restaurant again.

If you felt uncomfortable, then I would suggest you don't go there again.

The man has done nothing illegal, in this incident, although it could be construed as a bit creepy, especially considering your prior knowledge of him. (If you hadn't known that, I think I would give him the benefit of the doubt, though.)

Golly Gosh, did the woman have an attack of the vapours because a man spoke to her.

I think you are the creepy one, watching and documenting what other people are doing in their lives. Are you bored?

Eek...I asked a man in a cafe last week what aftershave he was wearing because it was nice.
I ask people all the time, is that a terrible thing to do??

Fucking hell, every day is a school day on here

I was that woman. I told him it was Femfresh. He went away again.

I genuinely thought this was a joke...you know like "3 men walk into a bar"

Anyway, I'm really not sure what point you're trying to make here OP?

Are you going to tell us what the perfume was??

And please don't come back with drip fe
Just give us the name of the perfume.

err...wot? Man asks woman what perfume she's wearing and that's it?

What should you have done? How about nothing?

'harrass me' by Larcome or 'stalker' by John Paul Gaultier?

Has this post been edited? there seems to be a few sentences missing in particular the ones explaining what the AIBU is about.