Unusual male culture in local upmarket restaurant

[Rowena23]

A couple enter a restaurant. As they walk past the bar on the way to the restaurant area, three men at the bar begin to talk about the woman's perfume, speculating on what brand it is.

A waiter seats the the couple at a table. Almost immediately, one of the three men goes up to the woman, and asks her about her perfume. She answers and the man slips away. When the waiter next appears at the table, the woman, still baffled (to say the least) asks him who the man is. He replies that the man is not a member of staff, but a regular customer.

It turns out that the manager of the restaurant was one of the three men speculating about the woman's perfume.

As a witness to this event, what should I have done? Should my reaction be coloured by the knowledge that the daughter of a friend had found it extremely difficult to get rid of this man some years ago, to the extent that she had to threaten to go to the police?

EH? wot a lot of crock where is the OP.

Im confused and filling abit fick here, can someone tell me what the chuff?

A couple enter a restaurant......... is this a riddle?

You don't get out much, do you, OP?

You should count yourself lucky, OP.

In the 'down' market restaurants we sometimes frequent, men ask women all the time what knickers they are wearing

from what your last comment , he probably has some unsavoury qualities,and has quite possibly had issues in the past.
but he didn't do anything wrong here.

WTF by Calvin Klein

I've just wasted three minutes of my life reading this.

LIFE IS

Lunatics.

i am so shallow all I want to ask is ' was he fit'?

I can't believe all the people who are making up scenarios like they know WTAF the Op is talking about.
There is no information to come to any conclusion at all from the post
Maybe we should wait till she comes back before it's decided that the man is a serial killer waiting his moment to attack the poor perfumed woman in the restaurant.

You should mind your own fucking business oops sorry I swore is what you should have done!

I'm sure the couple in question can handle or get the restaurant staff to handle the man perv in question and didn't need you to point out without any proof - that the man sorry perv had harassed your friend's DD.

brighteyed - you don't know the man or the OP - for all you know the OP's friend could have been enjoying the attention before and it turned into him pursuing her a bit and then her crying stalker.

asking what perfume someone is wearing is in no way the crime of the century.

The woman didn't know who the man was, but you knew exactly who he was; despite the fact that you weren't even there? Ir were you?
Are you the male part of the couple?

It all sounds like a poundland version of that really fucking annoying Chanel advert with Nicole Kidman where some bloke 'rescues' her from the hell of being a world famous movie star.

'bridge dweller' by Paul Smith????

I wear one of 2 rather expensive and if I say so myself, rather classy perfumes (Arpege by Lanvin and 24 Faubourg by Herm?s) It's not unusual to be asked by men and women what they are. I don't think is odd, quite flattering really.

When a man you've never met before suddenly gives you flowers....men obviously have always turned into crazy sex pests with just a whiff of scent

This thread is hilarious

So what perfume was she we wearing?

oh maaaaaannnnn.. someone perrrrleaaaase.

Loving the perfume names. Unless I have completely misread the OP, the woman's male partner (not explicit but the language used suggests she was with a bloke) was there when she was asked about her perfume. So what exactly is the issue?

Very weird post!

I was asked by the till bloke at the BP garage what perfume I was wearing. I did find it creepy tbh, it was summer and I wasn't wearing much. Smell is pretty personal.

But this OP is a bit OTT and possibly based on the fact the blokes were foreign.

Essentially there are 3 types of creepiness -1. the type where blokes lack the social skills to compliment a woman nicely, making her feel weirded out, 2. when blokes say something that shows a lack of boundaries and possibly a lack of respect for women's personal space, and 3. when they say something that is intentionally designed to make the woman feel uncomfortable and exposed. It's not at all clear from the OP which it was - and in any case it's hardly illegal to be creepy