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Original poster

To think this wasn't offensive?

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:19

I work in an office, and after meetings, there are often spare sandwiches that are offered around.

I work in one group. A group of people of a similar level, all friends, were talking today and someone mentioned these sandwiches were brought to their group by a female member of staff, and also friend. A friend in another group mentioned sandwiches also came around to their group by a female member of staff.

A male friend in my group quipped about the member of staff who brings them around "what a slag!". A few of us laughed, one friend found it really offensive.

I think among friends, it was obviously a joke on the "promiscuity" of sandwiches, but I'm prepared to admit I was wrong to think it wasn't offensive. It wasn't very professional, but among friends?

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DamnBamboo · 27/02/2014 23:21

WTF?

WorraLiberty · 27/02/2014 23:21

"The promiscuity of sandwiches?"

YellowDinosaur · 27/02/2014 23:22

Unless you're all very close friends and know each others sense of humour I think this was a very stupid poorly judged comment in a professional situation. And I do politically incorrect banter with friends all the time.

DamnBamboo · 27/02/2014 23:23

So a male friend clearly calls a female a slag, you laugh, don't think it's offensive and try to imply he's talking about sandwiches?

softlysoftly · 27/02/2014 23:23

I hate that word totally inappropriate in a work environment YABU

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:24

It was among close friends ... i.e. a female friend offers sandwiches to group A and group B

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Silkyandmoonface · 27/02/2014 23:24

I wouldn't have found it funny nor would I have been particularly offended.

was the member of staff he was referring to present at the time?

Funnyfoot · 27/02/2014 23:24

Good job she wasn't offering round left over cream buns then or she would of been a whore? Hmm

DomesticDisgrace · 27/02/2014 23:24

YANBU!

AlbertoFrog · 27/02/2014 23:24

As someone who's known as "the desk tart" at work I don't find this offensive but it very much depends on how it was said and if the person it was said about would take offense.

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:25

no, the female friend wasn't present

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DamnBamboo · 27/02/2014 23:26

So then he clearly wasn't talking about the sandwiches.

Please elaborate on that will you... I'm still not quite clear what you mean by the 'promiscuity of sandwiches'

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:27

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches to both group A and B if that helps

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Caitlin17 · 27/02/2014 23:27

I can't imagine any work situation where calling a colleague a slag is appropriate.

DamnBamboo · 27/02/2014 23:28

So it wasn't about the sandwiches (no surprise there Hmm ) Why did you say it was? Why did you laugh?

fideline · 27/02/2014 23:28

YAB extremely surreal Grin

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:29

It was clearly about the sandwiches, without a shadow of a doubt

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YoniMatopoeia · 27/02/2014 23:29

Inappropriate imo

ScarletStar · 27/02/2014 23:30

He was calling her a 'sandwich slag' because she brings them out and offers them round. I think that's quite funny, especially as she's a friend of everyone.

Funnyfoot · 27/02/2014 23:30

OP please make up you mind??

DamnBamboo · 27/02/2014 23:30
Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 27/02/2014 23:30

It was clearly about the female member of staff bringing sandwiches, or it was clearly about the sandwiches? It can't be both.

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CasioBlues · 27/02/2014 23:30

Imagine after a meeting there are spare sandwiches - someone goes and offers them to the HR team and then the finance team. Upon hearing that the HR team also get sandwiches, a friend in the finance team said "what a slag" - not a very professional word, but among friends, with the context?

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NothinToSeeHere · 27/02/2014 23:31

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BackforGood · 27/02/2014 23:31

I can't imagine any situation where calling someone a slag is appropriate. It would certainly be open to being reported and the person who said it being on a disciplinary charge in most workplaces, I would have thought

Hmm