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Bank account details on wedding invite!

313 replies

Passthesaltdear · 20/02/2014 17:21

Yep so...got an evening guest invite few days ago, had the usual "we-ve been living together for ages now and have everything we want but if you are so inclined we would love some money for honeymoon etc..." Then at the bottom is the couple's account name, number and sort code so money can be paid directly in! I was shocked, is it me or is this really cheeky?!

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Financeprincess · 20/02/2014 17:24

NO!!! NO! You have made this up, surely???

maddy68 · 20/02/2014 17:26

I think that's a great idea. Who has a cheque book these days?

CaptainHammer · 20/02/2014 17:26

Very cheeky!!

I'd be giving them a card and a £5 toaster if you are feeling generous!

TheQueenOfSparta · 20/02/2014 17:27

This is quite the done thing in my country. If you don't want to use it, you don't have to.

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Passthesaltdear · 20/02/2014 17:27

I swear I havent! I would take a pic of it but i'd be worried they would see it!

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MrsTerryPratchett · 20/02/2014 17:27

It's just so romantic

Sparkle9 · 20/02/2014 17:28

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TobyLerone · 20/02/2014 17:29

How is it different to giving them cash/a cheque in a card?

Lots of people these days would rather make online payments.

musicmadness · 20/02/2014 17:29

sounds sensible to me.

gamerchick · 20/02/2014 17:30

doesn't that mean you have access to their bank account?

iloveweetos · 20/02/2014 17:31

Good idea tbh. Can keep track of who gives what much much easier!

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Passthesaltdear · 20/02/2014 17:31

I can see the practical benefits...but it just seems so, well, grabbing!

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gamerchick · 20/02/2014 17:31

direct debits galore could be set up.

ShatnersBassoon · 20/02/2014 17:31

No! You must be confused, it couldn't possibly be Hmm Grin

JockTamsonsBairns · 20/02/2014 17:31

I've had this twice in the last year, and I think it's awful. One of them said "We've got everything we need thanks, but if you really want to help us to mark the occasion we would really appreciate some money in our account to save us from going into debt" Shock

JapaneseMargaret · 20/02/2014 17:31

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southeastastra · 20/02/2014 17:31

inspired

JapaneseMargaret · 20/02/2014 17:33

And this is a wake-up call to people who may have done this, and didn't realise how bad it is.

People are judging you - at least now you know!

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Passthesaltdear · 20/02/2014 17:33

jock..Shock Shock

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GinSoakedMisery · 20/02/2014 17:34

You could be really cruel. Set a direct debit up on their behalf for some small charity and our a leaflet for it in their wedding card Grin

TobyLerone · 20/02/2014 17:35

It seems that some people don't know how bank accounts work. If it were that easy to have access to someone's account, would businesses put theirs in their literature?

Monetbyhimself · 20/02/2014 17:35

It's just lovely . Romance is just awesome.

DaddyIsHome · 20/02/2014 17:36

It does sound a bit grabby Grin I wouldnt even think to put something like that.

HighlanderMam · 20/02/2014 17:37

You can only put money in an account with a sort code and account number. Hmm

SapphireMoon · 20/02/2014 17:38

I recently had invitation like this. Other 'issues' re this family wedding which made me not acknowledge it as too awful!
However, token present from me and no money in their bank account as would feel exposed at how little I could put in compared to others.
[Hotel etc costing enough].