Bank account details on wedding invite!

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Yep so...got an evening guest invite few days ago, had the usual "we-ve been living together for ages now and have everything we want but if you are so inclined we would love some money for honeymoon etc..." Then at the bottom is the couple's account name, number and sort code so money can be paid directly in! I was shocked, is it me or is this really cheeky?!

Awful always....

I remember my brothers in the 80s ....a man with a huge BBC style camera with a microphone.... lumping it around on his shoulder all day.

The viewing commenced with crackly "going to the chapel music"
And wobbly writing appearing on the screen with two satin cushions with rings on....

Priceless....
The two copies would then get passed around for viewing.

I'm getting nostalgic again

Awww. You want to watch it again don't you?

Spark....I think it was Betamax format .... Obsolete now ....as is the....marriage

Spark....I think it was Betamax format .... Obsolete now ....as is the....marriage

OMG Only that is so sad.

I may start a wedding website...."getting married to myself" as Carrie Bradshaw did in sex and the city....
All my hundreds of 'none event' guests can gift me for my non honeymoon ....and shoes....

What's wrong with this? It's much more secure for money to go straight into an account than have cash lying around in a public area.

How is giving money any different to buying a present? You're still spending money! In fact if you gave cash, at least you know they will spend it on something they actually want and it's not going to waste!

And whoever said to set up a direct debit on their account, that's funny as I believe that is illegal?!!!!!

[[http://www.mentalhealthy.co.uk/news/276-postnuptial-depression.html Postnuptial depression}} is now a recognised thing. Hardly surprising. If the wedding is the best day of your life, the marriage is bound to be a let down, isn't it?

Link fail, sigh. Postnuptial depression.

What is it with MN and wedding invitations? I do wonder whether people read what is actually there and why they insist on reading things into it. The OP's invitation actually states that if the guests want to give them something, they don't need anything, they could give cash. What is wrong with that?

Spanish friends gave bank account details as cash gifts are the norm. That was donkey's years ago. She explained it was their culture. Save me lugging something in my suitcase or going shopping when I got there.

I have heard people complain about traditional wedding lists - couple would like a particular dinner service which would be expensive to buy all at once - guest complains that they can only afford to buy one plate as though that's a problem. Isn't guest mIssing the point?

Kind of on the same lines, a friend bought us something that wasn't on our list but was part of the same dinner service because the things on the list 'weren't big enough'(?). We couldn't fit it in any of our cupboards so swapped it for some dinner plates to complete the set...

A poem for all the wedding-bank-account-haterz.

A follow up to "save the date"
The bride has starved off all the weight
The strapless dress is hanging ready
There's a bow on hubster's childhood teddy.

We've been together quite a bit
We've got the twigs and pebbly shit
The toaster, china, flatware too
So here's what we would like from you.

We've grown quite tired of one another
(And wifey fancies hubster's brother)
We hope some Caribbean sun
Might reignite the long-dead fun.

So never mind your handmade offers
We need you all to swell our coffers
Our overdraft and credit cards
Maxed out - we've got the whole nine yards.

A stately venue, for the pics
Designer dress, designer knicks
Three hundred guests, vintage champagne
We hope to christ it doesn't rain.

So here's our special bank account
Choose your own (three fig!) amount
Let's hope a month at Sandy Lane
Will numb out existential pain.

I asked for money. I was pregnant when we got married, it went towards cot, pram etc, didnt spend any of it on crap for us. Why that is worse than asking for a porcelain dinner set that you dont need , I dont know. Couldnt ask for stuff for the baby as everyone kept insisting they wanted us to treat ourselves.

I know two other people who asked. One was moving abroad with her husband and didnt want to take stuff as frieght that she could buy when she got there. Another is a family member, again, moving after the wedding so wanting to pay for removal of as little as possible.

:: applauds Bluestocking ::

Blue loving the ode

Oh oh oh oh oh, I have just found the website of the couple whose wedding I am invited to. I had no idea these things existed. Tis fantastic, a thing of beauty, I am CRYING!!!

Does it have a love story attached.... Does it have music? Apparently some do

Music?!!!! Oh no, I feel disappointed now :-(

It has a gallery of lovely pictures of the happy couple

I've been to two weddings that asked for cash. So awkward. But equally bad was another wedding I went to that had three gift lists from three separate (and pricey!) stores. Not only that but the wedding website (!) had a dress code page, with a short history of the mourning suit for a bit of light reading and it also specifically requested men to only wear dark socks and not to remove jackets until the photos were over :D

100% seriously as well...not a hint of tongue in cheek! :D

I've just got one like this and was a little surprised I must say! I don't actually mind, I just hadn't seen it before and seems a little odd (they did give option of charitable donation though if that makes it better?)

Years ago we were invited to a wedding. The gift list was at Harrods slightly tacky IMO so I shuffled along and bought 2 soup plates, had a nice thank you letter.
Some months later we were having supper with the couple and I asked why we weren't using the new china.
Turns they chose not to have the gifts, just kept the money instead.
BTW he's a GP, she's a Trader so not short of a few bob.

@ truelymadlysleepy.

What did you say?

Toffee, nothing , what could I say?

Truly how awful was that? I didnt realise people could just take the money, shan't be using lists again.

at Bluestocking.

I totally agree with many of you. Very much had the sort of arrangement as MrsDV.

Glad I'm of an age where no none is getting married now. I think I'd be siously peed off if this shit was the norm.

I haven't been to a wedding since 2003. It was a normal one with no websites, begging poems etc. Things have changed and not in a good way.

DS1 is 14-what on earth may his wedding be like in ten or so year's time? Perhaps mothers of the Groom will have to pay to attend or something?