AIBU...DP and London

[Bazoo23]

I have recently started a new job and as part of this job I have to attend a training day in London.
We live about 5 hours from London. My employer will pay my train fare and I just assumed my partner would come with me.
However when I got the date through it falls week after we are away for a week.
My DP said hed be pushing his luck to ask for a day off so soon and wont even try.
AIBU to feel hurt that he doesnt seem worried about me goig alone? We are from a very small town and I am really nervous of being alone im a big city. Im also worried about travelling back in the evening.
I feel like it will be so obvious I have no clue what Im doing that I will be an easy target :-(

If you are too nervous to use the tube then pre book an Adisson lee taxi from your arrival main line station to training place. They text to say that they are near, what the reg number is to look out for and when they have arrived, fixed price unlike black cab.

If you are 5 hours away will you need to stay night before?

Yabu and beyond ridiculous. Why would you expect him to take a day off. Seriously

Op I was from a small town elsewhere in the country. I still live in a village now. However, by the time I was your age I found myself doing a very challenging job in London and I survived!

Oh God, we're all so bloody sophisticated, aren't we?

OP thinks she'll be an easy target - well, if some of you are anything to go by, she's right, isn't she?

OP you've had advice to post on Travel and to look up TFL.

When you arrive in London, ask people. They'll be almost certainly be nicer than some of the bitches on here.

Good luck. You be fine. And I bet you sleep all the way home

London is not full of white slavers. You will be no more a "target" for whatever horrors your imagination has conjured up than anyone else.

Everyone knows all the truly dark and creepy stuff happens in those quaint little country villages.

Chipped

you have been needlessly nasty, amongst others

The OP is not from London, and that's why she finds it daunting. Calling someone pathetic or needy is not necessary. Nor is sarcasm ("aw sweet").

I have no problem with the OP being nervous about visiting London Limited though personally I feel safer there than I do in the sleepy little village I am circumstantially obliged to call home at the moment.

What really irritated me though was alongside the poor little country mouse me routine was some of the most foul mouthed/keyboarded personal attacks I have seen, even on Mumsnet, so people can be forgiven for thinking that maybe all is not as it first appears.

And there has been some really sound advice given!

OP, the reason you've had snitty responses is because of the frankly odd assumption in your post that your partner would take time off work to do a ten-hour round trip in order to accompany an able-bodied adult to a work training session. Not many people actually think it is unreasonable for someone who doesn't know London to feel mildly apprehensive, but the blithe assumption that this warrants being babied by your significant other is unreasonable.

You'll be fine. Though it seems like a mad amount of time on the train to go and return the same day - can't you stay over and be able to relax a bit, go to the theatre or something?

OP I live in London quite centrally. When I came to London at 19 from rural village-in-middle-of-nowhere I seriously thought the tubes didn't run at the weekend .

Try not to worry too much. Planning is all, use the TFL journeyplannr, and
god forbid you get lost or lose your bottle, get a Taxi if you're central and can afford it.

I know I taught my mum to 'use a Taxi' at age 60+ plus - so I'm not assuming you will know this - and I certainly didn't at 19, but basically, orange light means 'for hire', if you stick your hand out you get 'first dibs' once the taxi sees you. Get in, say your destination. Taxi driver will know where it is (!). when you get there pay and round up to nearest pound. If its a taxi rank you have to take the one at the front. Simples

If you need to call a cab use Addison Lee. they text you the reg no and driver's number.

make use of Google street view before you get there too ;-)

Hope you enjoy yourself...

Gosh - i took DD to london on my own last year, it was scary! I'm 43 and i love london.

OP, could you arrange for someone to meet you at the station? or have a taxi booked and waiting?

I took my DP with me to a conference when i was doing my PhD - it was in switzerland

Pigeon

Nah, the reason she got snitty responses is because some people can't resist being snitty when they could word things more thoughtfully and kindly - as you did

And I nearly had a heart attack when the tube train stopped for no reason at all in between stations on the Northern Line. Obviously I know the Northern Line is a bit rubbish like that all the time now, but I really hated it...

Is it even possible to do this there and back in one day? What time does the course start?

OP - Please don't take the unkind responses to heart - they really do reflect much more about the people who wrote them than they do about you. I understand how you feel - I could have written the same post at your age when I had to go to London alone for a similar thing (which turned out to be fine), and I still avoid going to there for anything other than straightforward gigs or museum visits because the city stresses me out.

That said, YABU . As others have said, all you need to do is plan the route carefully in advance, dress inconspicuously (in case you end up somewhere dodgy), ensure that your handbag doesn't make easy work for pickpockets or bag-statchers, and be prepared to ask appropriate people if something goes wrong. Best of luck!

What? So people from the country can't say 'fuck off' to people who deserve it?

My my, what a timid response from a big, bad part-time Londoner.

OP says she's travelled in a number of overseas locations, including Argentina.

BA is far more dangerous than London, and so the worries just don't ring true to me.

And YABU to expect your DP to accompany you.

YABU You need to get used to doing stuff by yourself.

What? So people from the country can't say 'fuck off' to people who deserve it?

She said a bit more than that Limited (I wasn't the butt of it btw) but it's been deleted now. It was a personal name calling attack.

And ftr I am big, I am a no time Londoner at the moment (sob) and I am GOOD!

Well report her and stop troll hunting.

It gives the rest of us a bad name

^ that was to Stella

Top tip here, when travelling on the tube for the first time dont think to yourself I know, Ill look like a Londoner and not hold on, Ill stand here looking cool not holding the bars dont do it, unless you want to fall onto someones lap, hold on tight if you cant get a seat

God there are a massive amount of sanctimonious arseholes on here

People will have fears that others don't have. There are shit loads of people in the UK who are scared of the harmless spiders we have in this country and that really doesn't make sense to people without that phobia.

Get a grip people, apologise and learn some compassion.

I went to London on my own for a day trip when I'd just turned 17. It's easy

You'll probably find that at the end of the day several other people will be making their way to your station so you could share a taxi.