OK why should the woman take the blokes surname?

[aquashiv]

Ver brief history I have a name, a professional one and don't want to loose it. All our children have my name due to the fact that I am the Mother and its a name that has meaning. Himself calls himself Mr Aquashiv and we joke and laugh but and here we are is it yet sociallly acceptable to take the womans name without being made to feel as if you are emancipating the man thing. I could just marry him and shut my mouth but well why should I? The marriage convo came up again tonight and I don't know I feel so bloody weird thinking I should take his name why should I???

I agree, people's choices should be respected regardless of whether it's what you'd do yourself. In my experience though a lot of women get pressure put on them to change - to the extent that a friend's husband deliberately booked flights in his name and then said 'well, you'll have to change your name in your passport now then'. I have no problem with people willingly deciding that that's the best course for them, I just don't think it's always as simple as that.

God. People are antsy about "being judged."

nameequality yes I do think there should be provision for a mother's details to be included.

I didn't post because I oppose it, there had just been a few posts where the implication seemed to be that one 'had' to record the father's details. As a registrar, I thought I would clarify that you don't.

Nanny,

Everyone in Spain has two surnames. Your first surname is your father's first surname. Your second surname is your mother's first surname.

So,

Juan Pérez Rodríguez marries Ana Díaz Santos.

All their kids will be: Kid Pérez Díaz.

Having said that, as spanish correctly mentioned earlier in the thread, you now can choose the order of the surnames in the birth certificate, so the kids could be: Kid Díaz Pérez. But it si still a combination of the parents' first surnames.

op this seems to be an issue in your head and your head alone. In 2014 everyone is aware that there are numerous surname options open to them. Whatever works for them. We both kept our own surnames on marriage, but I wouldn't judge anyone else's choice.

I kind of get the impression that you started this thread looking for kudos for how go getting and no ball busting you are. When you just come across as a bit hectoring.

Names are irrelevant. I know a lot of people where the woman and the child use the womans name and not the mans, but it doesnt stop the woman being really weak and a doormat and letting the man walk all over them unfortunately.