AIBU to feel upset my friend didn't lend me any money?

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I've known him for 8 years as a neighbor and I have never asked to borrow money off him before .We have always got on and I consider him a friend .I hate asking to borrow money off anybody but needs must and he has plenty of it .I over spent today on brand new jacket for £15 which should have been £60 but I couldn't let it go and I was confident of borrowing against it . I have a direct debit which is due out tomorrow for (£12) and I've messed it up .I wish I hadn't asked now. My grandmother used to say to me the best way to lose a friend is to lend them money.I disagree with that because I always pay back my debts if I ever have them.Anyhow this supposed friend said to me I don't like lending money and refused to lend me any.AIBU to feel upset about this?

Is this a joke???his money he can do whatever he wants with it.he was probably thinking you were irresponsible which you are (a jacket is not a necessity)YABU

I notice OP has disappeared now. Too much reasonableness on this thread now

I was sure this would turn out to be one of those reverse threads.
There is nowt as queer as folk.

And then, you'll be asking him for more. he's a sensible guy.

Best advice is....don't go shopping when your skint!!!

If you can't afford it don't buy it and don't assume people will lend you the money, they don't and shouldn't have to.

Your attitude is shocking.

YAB so U I don't know where to start.

We aren't particularly flush at the minute but I would never ever ask to borrow money for a coat. If we were hard up enough to need money for food or travel to work only then would I ask my DM for a short term loan.

My DH took a loan out for his parents when he was younger, prior to us getting together. They then got in to financial difficulty towards the end of the term which meant us having to pay it, when I was on mat leave. We've asked for it back (around £1k) and they just say they haven't got it. Even a token payment would stop me feeling the rage every time I think of it. I will never lend money I can't afford to lose, ever again.

YABU. You chose a jacket over a direct debit. What would you have done if he was away?

A friend would totally lend money to a friend. It wouldn't even matter what it was for, as long as they asked for it which is hard in the 1st place. If it makes them happy or warm or anything then that alone is enough for me to lend to someone I care about. I would hate to see a friend go without or hurt or anything over money. You can't put a price on friendship.

ZOMBIE THREAD

But what a way to resurrect it. Beautiful.

Beautiful? Hmmm.

I'm touched.

Are you for real?!

If you can't realise how utterly cheeky (to put it politely) you sound, then there is no hope for you I'm afraid.

Oh sorry didn't realise it had been bumped from the depths. I'm slightly relieved.

How old are you ShakeRattleNroll. A jacket! Grand mother was right in this case

How much money he has is irrelevant, it is his money to do what he wants with. It doesn't make him any less of a friend for not wanting to lend you money - he probably just didn't want to get into that awkward situation where friends have to remind friends to pay them back. Also he probably didn't want this to be the first of many loans. I think buying a jacket at the expenses of a direct debit to pay a bill was a bit silly. The price of the jacket is irrelevant - the fact is you couldn't afford it this month. If you need to borrow money there are banks and credit cards to temporarily cover shortfalls - don't use friends (or payday loans!).