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AIBU?

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Original poster

to keep the expensive stuff for me and let the kids use the normal stuff?

328 replies

2kidsintow · 20/10/2013 21:25

There are few things in life that are reserved for me alone.

However, I buy the DDs the normal bog standard chocolate spread for their weekend breakfast pancake treat and keep the lovely Cadbury stuff for me alone, on a high shelf.

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marriedinwhiteisback · 20/10/2013 21:28

YABU. I read a book once where the mother locked all the children out while she ate the one chop they could afford because if there was only one why share it.

CoffeeTea103 · 20/10/2013 21:31

Yabu, I would feel horrible knowing I'm giving my kids less when I know I have better.

VeryStressedMum · 20/10/2013 21:31

Married I don't really think it's the same thing

BrokenSunglasses · 20/10/2013 21:31

I can't understand why you'd buy two types of chocolate spread in the first place.

Fakebook · 20/10/2013 21:32

I only hide my chocolate. I wouldn't buy extra shitty chocolate for my children though. If they saw me eating it or wanted chocolate, I'd give it to them. I find what you're doing a bit mean.

Famzilla · 20/10/2013 21:34

YABU from my perspective. I want to give my DD all the nice things I have because she's the most amazing person I've ever met.

Then again, I probably would hide the Ben & Jerrys from DH Wink

NachoAddict · 20/10/2013 21:34

Yanbu

My kids are not deprived in any way, they get lots of treats and I would never feed them a lesser meal than me but ben and jerrys is not for sharing. They are happy with asdas own and just wouldn't appreciate it properly.

ChippyMinton · 20/10/2013 21:35

Surely Cadbury is bog standard?Hmm
YABU

Original poster
2kidsintow · 20/10/2013 21:35

Ha ha ha ha ha ha.

Gotta love AIBU.

No, married. It's nothing like that. I'm far from depriving my children while I have plenty.

Their chocolate spread isn't shitty. I'm just really fussy. Cadbury or nothing for me. And the shops round here often sell out. They often have nutella for example and I wouldn't classify that as cheap, but I hate the nuts in it.

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Sirzy · 20/10/2013 21:36

YABU. I hate the idea of "their food" and "our food"

timidviper · 20/10/2013 21:36

I don't think this a problem as your children are still getting chocolate spread and aren't being deprived. It is the modern version of children learning to know their place! Grin

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2kidsintow · 20/10/2013 21:37

Nacho has the nail on the head. Chocolate spread is chocolate spread in their eyes.

Lol @ Chippy. Each to their own, I think it's gorgeous melting on a pancake. :)

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2kidsintow · 20/10/2013 21:39

Oh and if mine is all that we have left I do share begrudglingly. :)

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FarelyKnuts · 20/10/2013 21:40

Nutella is hardly deprivation is it?

Its not like you are giving them bread and water while you munch on your Sunday roast! :o

FuckyNellItsHalloween · 20/10/2013 21:40

I give my kids waitrose bourbon biscuits, I will not let them have my mcvities. I do not care bwahahahaha

ShreddedHoops · 20/10/2013 21:41

What Sirzy said. YABU I think. What other things do you do it with? I can't think of anything bar caffeinated drinks and alcohol that my toddler can't have. Oh and Pringles I suppose, I don't open them til he's tucked up but that's not the same I don't think. It sounds a bit sad actually. The good things in my life that I love, I want my children to have too. If I can't afford it for all of us, I won't get it. Food wise. I don't share my YSL makeup either...

Coveredinweetabix · 20/10/2013 21:42

YADNBU. A friend gave me some Molton Brown handwash a while ago. That is in the ensure. In the other bathroom (used by DC & visitors) they get whatever is on special offer in the supermarket when the previous stuff runs out.
We have adult/children versions of some other things too. Adults get mini magnums; DC get rocket shaped ice lollies. I can't think of any others at the moment but we do have some.

Sexykitten2005 · 20/10/2013 21:43

YANBU children's palates are less sophisticated than adults. They aren't going without they are just getting different. I will only eat top quality chocolate like artisan. That means I don't buy myself chocolate often maybe one box every few months but the kids can have cadburys buttons and haribo in every food shop!

Chewbecca · 20/10/2013 21:45

YANBU
We have our own chocolate here. No one is allowed to eat mine as I have one bar and I eke it out and if anyone else ate it it'd be gone in no time.

Is that selfish? Hey ho, never mind. I do buy other chocolate too!

PissesGlitter · 20/10/2013 21:46

YANBU

curlew · 20/10/2013 21:47

Odd. I don't think I'd give my children cheaper versions of stuff- we're all in this together, surely? I might buy us all mid range stuff and spend what I saved on wine, though!

ChippyMinton · 20/10/2013 21:49

"children's palates are less sophisticated than adults" - rubbish.
My DC love Lindt chocolate in Wasabi, and Sea Salt flavours. I prefer a bag of Moam Smile

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2kidsintow · 20/10/2013 21:50

Shredded: 2 things only I can think of. My choc spread and the shower gel/perfume. I love the vanilla stuff from Body shop which is now discontinued. My DDs have been bought their own lovely stuff so I can eke the most out of what I have left of my own.

They have plenty of their own things that I don't eat too. I would never pinch their easter eggs or christmas chocolates for example.

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Nagoo · 20/10/2013 21:50

In my cupboard at work I have real ribena, the kids get tesco squash at home [unrepentant]

ImperialBlether · 20/10/2013 21:51

I wrote a thread about my dad having chops while we ate sausages (which we loved) - you would think he'd murdered us.