to keep the expensive stuff for me and let the kids use the normal stuff?

[2kidsintow]

There are few things in life that are reserved for me alone.

However, I buy the DDs the normal bog standard chocolate spread for their weekend breakfast pancake treat and keep the lovely Cadbury stuff for me alone, on a high shelf.

[differentnameforthis]

I wouldn't deliberately buy my child something cheap whilst I got stuck into something more expensive

Yet I bet you deliberately buy your child Christmas presents & not yourself, don't you? Dh & I get each other token gifts for birthdays etc.

This year I was 40 & dh took me to a really lovely (and expensive) restaurant. We left the kids at home & ordered pizza for all of us at the weekend.

The first time since we had kids that we had such an expensive night out. So I don't see the big deal!

Like any parent, I live for my dc, but I deserve a treat occasionally that doesn't involve having to share with little people.

[MsVestibule]

mrsjay it's only from Asda . But it is very nice.

[shewhowines]

Surely it's a toss up between cost and our own child's ability to appreciate it. Every child and every family's financial set up is different.

If my kids had to have hotel chocolet chocolate the same as me, then they would rarely eat chocolate. They have cheaper chocolate more often and I have my nice stuff as often

My kids at age 9 or so wanted the adult meals when eating out. I explained to them they could have them but we wouldn't be able to eat out as often as the bill came to far more each time. That was a true fact so was I being cruel making them have the kids meal? wish I could still get away with that, now they are older, as we don't eat out as much now as it is too expensive

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

I don't understand that milly

Why would you eat rubbish so your dd can eat of all the good stuff?
Why would anyone do that?

My DCs eat anything in sight. I'm sure they would very much appreciate my lovely expensive ice cream that I eat once a fortnight. In also sure that they would eat the entire lot in one go.
So they have cheaper ice cream, which they also appreciate and can eat all in one sitting.

I don't feel guilty at all

I didn't vow to make sure I never enjoyed anything of my own when I gave birth.

[shewhowines]

And there are others who could afford it, but consider that it is better for the difference to go towards savings. Perhaps a more sensible choice than a sugary treat, particularly for a child who is still young enough to make their choice based on colour rather than taste.

I agree

[mrsjay]

oh I dont mind Asda we dont have one near us though

[BitOutOfPractice]

Well chundarella I take my hat off to you for the most joyless pits I have ever read.

Kids should never be allowed a treat and heaven forfend if they make a choice based on how it looks like every other human being.

I'm off to beat myself with a birch as I put a cadburys mini roll in my DCs' lunch boxes this morning. I bought a different flavour from normal as I thought they looked nice, just to compound my sin!!

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Asda ice cream is actually really nice, they have some very good flavours.

I honestly suspect that a lot of the people who think its shocking to have your own little treats do not have teenagers who will eat the entire contents of a cupboard in one sitting, regardless if it came from Harrods or Asda

[mijas99]

Chunderella, there is nothing wrong with ice cream or sugar, unless you are overweight or eat it all of the time and don't brush your teeth. Good ice cream (though nothing they would sell in a supermarket) is made with milk or cream after all, excellent for little kids.

Luckily we are all thin in our family, and unfortunately our 2 year is a couple of kilos underweight because he is very active, so he can eat anything and everything.

Anyway, the point is, that children have tastes and wants too, and to dismiss them as "not knowing the different because they are only kids" is pathetic

[mrsjay]

[BitOutOfPractice]

Pits = post.

[SeeYouNT]

no OP yanbu

i do the same

they still have treats etc and nice nutritious food, but say for example if i bought posh chocolate as a treat (say, lindt, thats posh in my book ;) ) for dh and i, i would buy the dcs cadburys. and they would still enjoy it

so nowt wrong with it i don't think

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Did you buy the Halloween ones bit?

My dcs ate a whole packet of those yesterday.

[GaryBuseysTeeth]

Yanbu.

Until ds's can tell the different between charbonell & walker and tesco value, I'm not wasting money buying them quality food/treats/clothes/tech/toys..

Some full on mummy martyrs on this thread!

Yabu for eating chocolate spread, it's vile.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Tantrums yes I did. Shoot me now. I am a bad mother and no mistake. It'll be lentils and green tea for them the rest of the week

[SPsTombRaidingWithCliff]

The 'salad draw' in the fridge is actually my chocolate stash.

My son has his own chocolate, he ain't having mine as well!

He gets his love heart sweets and freddos and I get my huge bar of cadburys or galaxy. I'm not sharing that with no one, whether I gave birth to them or not

He isn't dismissed.or deprived. I just want some stuff for myself. Just has he has his own stuff.

[SPsTombRaidingWithCliff]

Oh and when he goes trick or treating I will nick the stuff I want and stash it. I dressed him up and walked around so I should get something

[differentnameforthis]

mijas99

My dc don't get junk. Most of their meals are what we eat, unless on the odd occasion we have steak, they don't because they don't like it, so they have quiche or fish. They have a great diet! Along with chocolate, ice cream (their ice cream is homemade with full fat cream), jelly etc etc in moderation, they eat tonnes of fruit. Mostly nothing is off limits to them food wise.

We, as the adults are allowed a treat too. For me it is usually a bar of chocolate (the family size) that lasts over 2 weeks.

Or ferrero Rocher, which are so expensive here that they are a rare treat (on a birthday, for example). I begrudge sharing these when the dc get so much other stuff & this is my one treat.

Call me selfish, I don't care. What I think is selfish is having children growing up thinking they are entitled to EVERYTHING they can lay their hands on!

They need to respect other people's stuff & I believe that the reason my friends ds steals food from her cupboards is because nothing is off limits to him. He eats everything, so when he is told no, he waits until she is not around (in the toilet etc) and hides food in his room.

He ate a whole packet of biscuits (family pack) over the course of a week once & she only found the packet when she changed his bed (hid down the side of his bed)

[mrsjay]

I really don't get why some people are so shocked over a bit of chocolate spread I honestly don't you all are not depriving your children if you have something nice for yourself I just don't get the whole guilt over it

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Mine ate 6 in 3 minutes between the 2 of them.

I win the bad mother award

[bakingaddict]

It's no problem to enjoy an adult meal in a proper grown up restaurant without the children or to have an occasional treat.

If I want to treat myself to a nice bar of chocolate or a treat i'll do it away from the kids such as at work, or if i'm shopping alone, visiting friends etc.

But the minute I am with them or at home there is no distinction between 'us' and 'their' food. We are a family and as such any food in the house is freely available for anybody to have. I would never do what mijas99's parents did. If you cant afford fish and chips all around then everybody just has a smaller portion

[BitOutOfPractice]

Tantrum you win. For now....

[BitOutOfPractice]

Although I'm not sure you noticed my hungover super noodle eating activity this weekend. I think that might trump you

[Fleta]

Yet I bet you deliberately buy your child Christmas presents & not yourself, don't you? Dh & I get each other token gifts for birthdays etc.

Not particularly no. We buy each other gifts just as we buy our daughter gifts. They don't necessarily happen to be at Christmas though - usually if we want something we tend to buy it.