to keep the expensive stuff for me and let the kids use the normal stuff?

[2kidsintow]

There are few things in life that are reserved for me alone.

However, I buy the DDs the normal bog standard chocolate spread for their weekend breakfast pancake treat and keep the lovely Cadbury stuff for me alone, on a high shelf.

[xCupidStuntx]

Shocked at this thread, I must be a terrible mother!!
YANBU!!!

[someonestolemynick]

Hmm, when I came to this country I stayed at a host family. They were supposed to give us breakfast and dinner.

Students got Tesco Value Jam, she had the same flavour Duchy Originals jam.

Made me feel very welcome.


It depends how it's done, in your case it sounds like it's working.

[Doodledumdums]

YABU...but only because you chose Cadbury's chocolate spread instead of Nutella. Who does that?!

Other than that, I see nothing unreasonable about this at all!

[bababababoom]

YABU! I always save the best for the children and eat the crappy value stuff myself. I end up saving fruit for the children because it's expensive, too.

[Doodledumdums]

I think the thing to remember here is that the OP is talking about CHOCOLATE SPREAD! Which is surely a treat in whatever brand you have it? A lot of children don't get regular meals, let alone chocolate spread. If the OP was saying that she forces her children to eat value beef offcuts while she stuffs her face with prime steak, then maybe she'd be being unreasonable- but she isn't, she is talking about chocolate spread, which is a treat not a necessity!

[VeryStressedMum]

She buys her dcs chocolate spread, nutella in fact which is not a cheap shitty brand.
My dds know they cannot have my expensive make up. Rimmel is fine for them.

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

When I was growing up on special dates ( anniversary and my parents birthdays) my parents would have a steak dinner and a bottle of wine or order chinese. They couldn't afford to go out so had this treat 3 times in the year. While us kids had egg and chips.

I don't feel like I have missed out and DH and I do similar.

It's good for parents to treat themselves now and again.

[0utnumbered]

No you are not being unreasonable!! I have my own brand Jaffa cakes that are mine, I'm on slimming world and it's my 'treat'. The kids have milky bars and fudges if they want chocolate, I also get them smart price squash as they really cannot tell the difference! Cannot believe some idiot compared this to someone starving their kids!

[MackerelOfFact]

If the kids can't tell the difference or would actually prefer the cheaper version, then I don't see the problem, provided there's not a big difference in quality.

I give my DCs cheap shampoo and shower gel while I use nicer stuff - not because I begrudge them it, just because they really don't need it. They smell and look beautiful already whereas I need all the help I can get!

[havingamoment]

YANBU. In one of my kitchen cupboards I have my own shelf, where I put my naice chocolate, my crackers I like and any other bits that I buy just for me.
Kids dnt go without, so I'll be damned if I can't have a few nice things for myself.

[SanityClause]

If its "this is mummy's chocolate spread for her special Sunday treat", and they also get special treats on other occasions, then YANBU.

My DH took ages to understand that the children had a right to their own things - he never had that as a child. So, for your DC to see that everyone has a right to their own things, which they can choose to share, if they want to, is a good thing.

They can't use your chocolate spread, but equally, you don't eat their party bag sweets, when they get home from a party, or whatever.

[PervCat]

Lol at Cadbury being posh

Vom

[KalevalaForMePlease]

Haha, loving some of the responses on this thread!

[Ragwort]

YANBU at all, we all have different views on what are 'treats' and so long as no one is being deprived then of course it is fine to have your own treats. I hate sushi but my son loves it so I buy it for him when it is reduced occasionally. Equally I enjoy certain types of bread & cheese that are for me only .

There is nothing worse than a mummy martyr sacrificing everything so that her children always 'get the best' .

[MuffCakes]

WTF this thread is bonkers,

I have my treats and the dc have theirs, I have my favourite flavour ice creams and they have theirs. Why would they be deprived, I hardly ever eat ice cream where as they eat it at about once a week.

I buy chocolate for me and I buy chocolate for them, just because, this thread is so odd why should everyone have the same stuff?

I have my cereal and they have theirs, or maybe I'm odd for letting my children decide what they like. Why should they eat my cinnamon squares when they much prefer coco pops and sugar puffs.

I have my stuff and they have theirs, no I don't want them to have mine because then it runs out and gets wasted on them.

Seems odd to deprive yourselfs of treats you like and to only have treats in that the dc like.

[MyBaby1day]

YABU, I think you should treat them equal to yourself.

[JumpingJackSprat]

Bloody hell there are some martyrs on this thread. Why shouldn't adults get nice stuff? Especially if kids don't appreciate it. Should everyone be teaching their kids that all the very best stuff is for them and mummy goes without what she enjoys so the kids can have something they don't appreciate? Fuck that. I'm pretty sure it doesn't mean op doesn't think her kids are just the most marvellous people ever just because they get value chocolate spread and she gets a brand she consider a treat.

[wonderingsoul]

the only thing i do this with is, haganiza.. they just wouldnt appriciate like i do... they have thier own icecream,, no value just not hagnadas or how ever you spell it.

that said they think its ober special when i do give them some...

[3bunnies]

YANBU - I discovered that my dc don't notice the difference between value hot chocolate and normal hot chocolate. As they drink gallons and I have a cup once every few months I don't feel guilty keeping some nice stuff as an occasional treat. I do decant the value stuff into tins as the plastic packages are useless so they probably will never notice, dh hasn't either. Has cut our hot chocolate bill by 2/3!

[LazyScare]

DS has treats and I have treats. DP doesn't really eat sweet things.

So yes if I buy myself extra-nice treats then I tend to get DS some cheap ones to fob him off mine which he wouldn't really appreciate. But if he is extra good or I am feeling generous then he can have one! I keep them all out of sight (He is only 2) and he gets what he is given. New favourite is cadbury fingers which I don't even like so no danger of me stealing his treats either...

[ItWasLightCreamCheese]

You mean you all give your kids chocolate spead on their sandwiches!? i thought it was hummous and sprouted lentils on artisan rye only allowed?

All this time I've been beating myself up about my kids' shitty diet, meanwhile you've all been lying to me

My kids had Lindor balls for afternoon tea and Aldi pasta in a tin for dinner.

[SatinSandals]

I can't stand any chocolate spread, but I wouldn't go buying 2 lots.
The only time I would do it is if it was something they didn't appreciate, e.g. I like very dark chocolate and they don't.

[SHarri13]

Personally I'd want the Nutella so think you have it worse than them. Yesterday I discovered banana and Nutella toasted sandwiches. They were to die for.

I buy stuff specifically for myself although it often gets discovered. Luckily I like dark chocolate and my kids don't. Ha. They do get nice stuff just not the same.
YANBU.

[SatinSandals]

If I were to like chocolate spread then I would put Nutella above Cadbury.

[Fenton]

I would probably do something like this, but only because the children can be a bit generous with the spread and I wouldn't want to see it disappear in one sitting.

I used to buy Nutella for my stepsons and they would do a jar for one breakfast (and it's expensive stuff isn't it?) - So I started buying the bigger cheaper jar from Lidl and they would still do it in one go!