AIBU to be pissed off with DP

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DP went out last night for a friends birthday and still isn't home. He had work at 8M this morning. He told me it would be a late one (about 3am) but at 5am he still weren't home so I phoned to make sure everything was okay and he was wasted and still drinking and refusing to stop because he was having a good time, he hung up and I haven't heard from him since.

I doubt he's gone to work because he's job is driving so my money is that he's still drinking. AIBU to be pissed off? And think he's a grown man so grow the fuck up

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You deserve so much better :(

If he's tried to go to work drunk and coming down from coke and he's driving for a living then that shows him as nothing more than a selfish irresponsible idiot. What if there was no one there to stop him, or they were really busy and let him drive thinking he'd be ok. He sounds a danger to himself and others tbh.

I don't often say this but get out. :(

If he is on coke, my experience of coke heads is that the come down after an all nighter is not pleasant.

I'd be inclined to go out tbh, rather than having to deal with it.

And yes, you shouldn't have to go out of your own house because of him. But I would still do it.

I doubt he'll be in trouble, I thought that at 5 but he was at a mates drinking then so I imagine he would have stayed there or gone back to another mates and carried on with him.

He's turned his phone off now

There's a small chance there could have been know one to stop him getting in his work van. It's more likely that someone seen him even if he did try but a small chance he could have gone but there's no one to phone and I don't wanna phone his material. Find out where he is either

This sounds just like my ex.

I left him in the end, best thing I ever did! Funnily enough, his ex before me left him for the same reason. And his gf after me who was with him about 3 years, bumped into me on Friday night and told me she had left him, for the same reason.

I know its difficult to hear but it doesn't sound like he's ever going to change.

What, exactly, are this person's redeeming features? A drug taker with an alcohol problem, one who will try and drive drunk at that, is not someone I would want around me or my DC.

A drug taker is a bit of an overstatement, he done it once and regretted it, if he's done it this time then he's out but I don't know.

Yes he drinks and takes it to far and that's a big problem but he does have good points to otherwise I wouldn't be here

This day is dragging so bad

If I had a child with someone who came home and told me he'd done drugs, he'd be out of the door. Why are you putting up with him? He sounds like a big man-child who can't cope with the real world without getting wasted every week, doing drugs and telling you it's okay because he "works hard".

All parents work hard, but decent ones don't go out and get wasted all the time, nor do they take class A drugs.

Sweetheart, he definitely has an alcohol problem.

The drugs I couldn't say one way or the other if he's done it once, perhaps twice. But frankly I'm of the opinion that once is a big enough problem. I'm more anti-drugs than most people though.

Have you tried contacting someone like Al-Anon for support and advice? www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

Lvingwonder if he had done drugs more then once he would be gone but he seemed upset by it, we spoke and he knew its completely unacceptable and we moved on. People can make a mistake once but twice no.

Stunt, his problem is that when he drinks he binges. He doesn't drink every day but when he has one he wants more and doesn't no when to stop.

Do you know where he is yet?

No

Thinking about it there have a been a few times lately that problems have happened because if his drinking. Last week I had to get DD up at 4am to pick him up because he'd passed out on a friends sofa.

Id have left him there!

No way on this earth round I go pick him up. Mdcucal energencies/ accidents maybe as they aren't anyone's fault. But getting so drunk you pass out is self inflicted and I'd not wake up a small child to go deal :(

Your a saint

Caffeine I'm sure later ill be labelled a drama queen

Well then I guess that would just confirm he has no redirect for you :(

Respect

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Has he admitted to himself at any point he has a problem?

He needs to, or he will only get worse,

How horrific for you, I hope you get some support in RL,

How do you get on with his father? has he expressed concerns?

I would be really concerned if this was my DH and he had no made any contact by now and would be putting calls into the police and local hospital to make sure he is ok.

If he is ok and not in hospital or a police cell I would be seriously re-thinking the relationship and whether I would want to be with a man that has so little respect for my feelings.

No he thinks its fine, it's once a week, he works hard and this is what he enjoys to relax so why shouldn't he

No I don't get along with his family and they don't know the half of it

That is totally unacceptable. I really feel for you and your dd. you both deserve so much better.

"No he thinks its fine, it's once a week, he works hard and this is what he enjoys to relax so why shouldn't he"

:(

Is that the kind of family life you want for your kid?

Their father disappearing once a week and not coming back until the next day?

I'd get rid, I wouldn't want my DD thinking that this is the role model of a man for her to follow. :(
I feel awful for you OP, some people can be so selfish.

I know where he should be working this afternoon so I'm going to have a drive past now. If he's not there ill phone the hospital. Tbh I'm starting to think what's he trying to hide, he's more then likely gunna say he fall asleep and woke up at his mates well I'm not being funny but you don't wake up at 2 in the afternoon. Well he doesn't, so why is he staying away? He knows my mobile number he could get hold of me and ask for a lift or actually be decent and just let me know he's okay.

He really isn't a family man