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I love my children too much to work full time..

402 replies

LostMarbles99 · 31/08/2013 20:31

AIBU to be royally pissed off at the person who said this to me today?

Am just back at work 2 weeks after birth of first baby who is now 7 months. 'Friend' was adamant that I must regret it and then proceeded to say that she loves her children too much to be working full time.

Yeah because I hate my child and can't wait to get away from him Hmm

I'm working full time as I'm the main earner and we need the money.

Why are people so insensitive?

What do you say?

OP posts:
HeyMicky · 31/08/2013 20:33

I say I love my job. I say it's important for my daughter to see me working and contributing to the household income. I say mind your own business

shoofly · 31/08/2013 20:33

YANBU that is a shocking thing to say!

BOF · 31/08/2013 20:33

You say "Haaaaahaaa, did you mean to be such a cock?"

Labootin · 31/08/2013 20:33

Fuck off seems to cover all the bases

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 31/08/2013 20:34

Say "I love my child too much to see the bailiff's take our house away"

BruthasTortoise · 31/08/2013 20:34

"I love my children too much to let them go without food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs and a roof over their heads" is my stock answer when I encounter insensitive cows like that.

ubik · 31/08/2013 20:34

That person is an idiot. There are some about.

HumphreyCobbler · 31/08/2013 20:34

what a silly woman

I love my children too much to fail to pay the mortgage tbh

NutritiousAndDelicious · 31/08/2013 20:34

She's a twat and probably jealous of your financially independance/freedom from the monotomy. My DSister says things like this to me sometimes, I just laugh. Winds her right up.

TempusFuckit · 31/08/2013 20:34

I love my children too much to see them on the street?

Not that it has anything to do with her or me, but have you been back at work two weeks, or did you go back when your 7mo was two weeks old? If the latter, I'd steel yourself for more similarly offensive comments.

HumphreyCobbler · 31/08/2013 20:34

but yeah, fuck off is better Grin

arethereanyleftatall · 31/08/2013 20:34

Yanbu at all. What an utterly horrible and insensitive and incorrect thing to say.

MoleyMick · 31/08/2013 20:35

"I love my children too much to not put a roof over their heads."
"Stop being a sanctimonious, offensive cunt."

MsVestibule · 31/08/2013 20:35

The only response to somebody as ignorant as that is "That's nice. I'm not that fussed about mine." Completely deadpan. And then break contact; this is no friend of yours.

BonaDrag · 31/08/2013 20:35

Oh dear, this person isn't your friend. No point in saying anything IMO, just don't meet up with her so she can keep her barbs to herself.

I'm a WOHM and it's not possible for me to love my child anymore.

My cousin is a SAHM and I've met alley cats who are better parents.

Really, whether you work or you stay at home has NO bearing on how much you love your children. She's a twat.

TiredDog · 31/08/2013 20:35

Did you mean to be so rude?
Or just stare in silence

Elsiequadrille · 31/08/2013 20:35

What a silly thing to say.

fanjobiscuits · 31/08/2013 20:35

Does her other half work full time? Does he not love their children?

paperclipsarebetterthanstaples · 31/08/2013 20:36

Oh, I like it that DS sees me as fun Mummy who spends every spare minute we get together playing rather than just some woman who's always there'

To some woman who said similar... I'd never say it to a normal sahm but she was a cow.

LillyNotOfTheValley · 31/08/2013 20:36

YANBU, I would be too! In fact I read your title and was about to jump at your throat Grin

Each to his own, I work because I want to, that does not mean I love my children less.

NatashaBee · 31/08/2013 20:37

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lecce · 31/08/2013 20:38

YANBU.

The day I went back after being off for a year with ds2 a colleague, who had joined the school while I was off, gave me a whole lecture about a former friend of his who'd had to become a SAHM as she 'had such a strong bond with her baby'. He also went on and on about how said baby was a beautiful little girl - implying that if I'd had daughters and not smelly, grubby sons, I too would have given up on work as well as all those handy little things like having a house to live in and food to eat.

I'm afraid I have no clever replies as I just nodded and smiled weakly, while thinking what a massive arsehole he was being Sad.

Original poster
LostMarbles99 · 31/08/2013 20:38

I went back 2 weeks ago when baby was just under 7 months, it was hard but I'm getting there. The evenings are tiring as I feel pulled in so many directions, trying to have quality time with my son and keep the house, food, washing etc going.

I need supportive people not wankers masquerading as friends.

OP posts:
foslady · 31/08/2013 20:38

Wow - stupidity and insensitivity in one mouthful. Agree with those re roof over heads/food in stomachs, then avoid her

parabelle · 31/08/2013 20:38

-what Natashabee says.

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